WILLINGNESS TO GROW
If more gifts are to be received, our awakening has to go on.
As Bill Sees It, p.8
Sobriety fills the painful "hole in the soul" that my alcoholism
created. Often I feel so physically well that I believe my work is
done. However, joy is not just the absence of pain; it is the gift of
continued spiritual awakening. Joy comes from ongoing and active
study, as well as application of the principles of recovery in my
everyday life, and from sharing that experience with others. My
Higher Power presents many opportunities for deeper spiritual
awakening. I need only to bring into my recovery the willingness to
grow. Today I am ready to grow.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
Be careful not to brand new prospects as alcoholics. Let them draw
their own conclusion. But talk to them about the hopelessness of
alcoholism. Tell them exactly what happened to you and how you
recovered. Stress the spiritual feature freely. If they are agnostics
or atheists, make it emphatic that they do not have to agree with
your concept of God. They can choose any concept they like,
provided it makes sense to them. The main thing is that they be
willing to believe in a power greater than themselves and that they
live by spiritual principles." Do I hold back too much in speaking
of the spiritual principles of the program?
Meditation For The Day
"I will never leave or forsake thee." Down through the centuries,
thousands have believed in God's constancy, untiringness, and
unfailing love. God has love. Then forever you are sure of His
love. God has power. Then forever you are sure, in every
difficulty and temptation, of His strength. God has patience. Then
always there is One who can never tire. God has understanding.
Then always you will understand and be understood. Unless you want
Him to go, God will never leave you. He is always ready with
power.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may feel that God's love will never fail. I pray that I
may have confidence in His unfailing power.
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As Bill Sees It
Morning
Thoughts, p.243
On awakening, let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead.
We ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be
divorced from self-pity and from dishonest or self-seeking
motives. Free of these, we can employ our mental faculties with
assurance, for God gave us brains to use. Our thought-life will be
on a higher plane when our thinking begins to be cleared of wrong
motives.
If we have determined which of two courses to take, we ask God for
inspiration, an intuitive thought, or a decision. Then we relax and
take it easy, and we are often surprised how the right answers come
after we have tried this for a while.
We usually conclude our meditation with a prayer that we be shown
all through the day what our next step is to be, asking especially
for freedom from damaging self-will.
Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 86-87
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Walk In Dry Places
Are we victimizing
ourselves?
Finding the New Happiness
Some believe that people create their own trouble by attracting the
wrong
conditions and people in their lives. This may not be entirely
true, but we can find that some element of it was at work with us.
Time and time again during our drinking, we set ourselves up for abuse
and rejection, though our motives seemed right.
Why did we do this? Supposedly to punish ourselves, the theory has it.
If this is true, then we should now call a halt to the process
immediately. If we've emerged from the terrors of alcoholism, we've had
all the punishment anybody needs.
We can change our bad patterns by looking carefully at the people and
situations
we seem to attract. Without resentment or condemnation, we
can part company with any problems these have been bringing us. We can
start building new relationships and attracting better conditions that
will be immensely successful in terms of happiness and
well-being.<br>
I'll remember today that in the new life I'm seeking, there's no need
for punishment. I will not go out of my way to attract people or
conditions that create problems in my life.
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Keep It Simple
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible . . . ---First half
of Step Nine
In our illness, we harmed people. In Step Nine, we are to make amends.
Making amends is about asking people we have harmed what we need to do
to
set things right. But making amends is more than saying, “I'm sorry.”
If
you ran a store and someone had stolen five dollars, you wouldn't want
them to just say, ”I'm sorry.” You'd want the person to pay back
the money. The same is true with amends.
Many people we've harmed ask only that we don't repeat our mistakes.
Respect their wishes. Step Nine has healed many wounds. Step Nine
allows
us to grow up. Step Nine help us regain faith in ourselves. Remember,
the
best amend we make to all is to stay sober.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, give me courage. Help me face
the trouble caused by my
disease. Make me ready to help other heals from the harm I've
caused.
Action for the Day: Today, I'll pray that those I've harmed will
heal. I will be responsible
for my actions.
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Each Day a New Beginning
Success can only be measured in terms of distance traveled.
--Mavis Gallant
We are forever moving from one experience to another, one challenge to
another, and one relationship to another. Our ability to handle
confidently all encounters is a gift of the program, and one that
accompanies us throughout every day, providing we humbly express
gratitude for it. Success is ours when we are grateful.
We are not standing still. No matter how uneventful our lives may seem,
we are traveling toward our destiny, and all the thrills and tears,
joys and sorrows, are contributing to the success of our trip. Every
day, every step, we are succeeding.
We can reflect on yesterday, better yet, on last week or even last
year. What were our problems? It's doubtful we can even remember them.
We have put distance between them and us. They were handled in some
manner. We have succeeded in getting free of them. We have succeeded in
moving beyond them.
How far we have come! And we will keep right on traveling forward. As
long as we rely on the program, we are assured of success.
I can do whatever I need to do, today, with success, when I humbly
accept the program's gifts.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Chapter 8 - TO WIVES
Our homes have been battle-grounds many an evening. In the morning we
have kissed and made up. Our friends have counseled chucking the men
and we have done so with finality, only to be back in a little while
hoping, always hoping. Our men have sworn great solemn oaths that they
were through drinking forever. We have believed them when no one else
could or would. Then, in days, weeks, or months, a fresh outburst.
p. 105
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY -
This young alcoholic stepped out a second-story window and into A.A.
My college had a long history of
drinkers, including Dr. Bob. At the time of my accident, the
deans were assessing how to respond to student alcohol abuse and were
waiting to try out their latest idea. Alcoholics Anonymous.
I was the test case. They told me in no uncertain terms that I
would never get back into this college unless I went to A.A.
Under that pressure, I went to my first meeting.
p. 425
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Tradition Seven - "Every A.A.
group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside
contributions. "
Alcoholics are certainly all-or-nothing people. Our reactions to money
prove this. As A.A. emerged from its infancy into adolescence, we swung
from the idea that we needed vast sums of money to the notion that A.A.
shouldn't have any. On every lip were the words "You can't mix A.A. and
money. We shall have to separate the spiritual from the material." We
took this violent new tack because here and there members had tried to
make money out of their A.A. connections, and we feared we'd be
exploited. Now and then, grateful benefactors had endowed clubhouses,
and as a result there was sometimes outside interference in our
affairs. We had been presented with a hospital, and almost immediately
the donor's son became its principal patient and would-be manager. One
A.A. group was given five thousand dollars to do with what it would.
The hassle over that chunk of money played havoc for years. Frightened
by these complications, some groups refused to have a cent in their
treasuries.
p. 161
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God
brings
peace
to
me,
all
I
need do is ask.
--Shelley
The peace that I feel in my life is growing richer every day. As I
continue to walk on my spiritual path to recovery, I let myself be
guided by truth and love. Conflict is leaving, making more and more
room for charity, serenity and usefulness.
--Ruth Fishel
Treat every person with kindness and respect, even those who are
rude to you. Remember that you show compassion to others not
because of who they are, but because of who you are.
--Andrew T. Somers
Today I know my Higher Power is guiding me through the changes I
choose to make in my life. I have all the energy I need today
to make these changes as easily and effortless as I wish.
--Ruth Fishel
Today, I will stop forcing things to happen. Instead, I will allow
things
to happen naturally. If I catch myself trying to force events or control
people, I will stop and figure out a way to detach.
--Melody Beattie
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
OPTIMISM
"Optimism is a kind of heart
stimulant -- the digitalis of
failure."
-- Elbert Hubbard
Today I am an optimist. I believe in life, and more importantly, I
believe in me. I know that God cares and this brings me hope.
But when I was drinking I had a negative and destructive attitude in all
areas of life; nothing pleased me, people were not to be trusted,
everybody had a price, God seemed to be "out for lunch" and life had
lost its meaning. I was a sad man. I was a lonely man. I was an angry
man.
When I was told to put down the drink and follow some new directions,
I halfheartedly agreed. I met people who laughed, shared their pain
and lived in the realistic "now". I began to listen. Slowly I changed.
Peace was within my grasp.
Today I wonder at my halfhearted risk that started it all -- and thank
God.
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Those
who trust in the Lord are like Mount Zion, which cannot be
shaken but endures forever.
Psalm 125:1
Wait on the LORD; Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your
heart; Wait, I say, on the LORD!"
Psalm 27:14
"Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever
state I am, to be content."
Philippians 4:11
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Daily Inspiration
Get outside of yourself and be outgoing for others. Lord, help me to
act in a heartwarming manner so that Your presence in me lights an
entire room.
Are you too busy wishing away your day to get what you really want?
Lord, help me set goals and find the means to achieve what is important
to me.
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NA Just For Today
Real Values
"We become able to make wise and
loving decisions based on principles and ideals that have real value in
our lives."
Basic Text, pg. 101
Addiction gave us a certain set of
values, principles we applied in our lives. "You pushed me" one of
those values told us, "so I pushed back, hard." "It's mine" was another
value generated by our disease. "Well, okay, maybe it wasn't mine to
start with, but I liked it, so I made it mine." Those values were
hardly values at all - more like rationalizations - and they certainly
didn't help us make wise and loving decisions. In fact, they served
primarily to dig us deeper and deeper into the grave we'd already dug
for ourselves.
The Twelve Steps give us a strong dose
of real values, the kind that help us live in harmony with ourselves
and those around us. We place our faith not in ourselves, our families,
or our communities, but in a Higher Power - and in doing so, we grow
secure enough to be able to trust our communities, our families, and
even ourselves. We learn to be honest, no matter what-and we learn to
refrain from doing things we might want to hide. We learn to accept
responsibility for our actions. "It's mine" is replaced with a spirit
of selflessness. These are the kind of values that help us become a
responsible, productive part of the life around us. Rather than digging
us deeper into a grave, these values restore us to the world of the
living.
Just for today: I am grateful for the
values I've developed. I am thankful for the ability they give me to
make wise, loving decisions as a responsible, productive member of my
community.
pg. 255
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
Faith is the bird that feels the light
when the dawn is still dark. --Sir Rabindranath Tagore
In the darkness of early morning, the
bird outside the window begins to sing. Soon the eastern sky turns
pink. The bird continues singing until the first yellow rays warm its
soft wings. Then it flies away, not returning to the window until the
next morning.
We can learn from the small bird how
to have faith. We don't need to wait for something we want before
having faith we'll get it. We can begin to show our faith by
celebrating the things we usually take for granted. After all, when we
take something for granted, isn't that a selfish form of faith? We can
start by singing a song to celebrate the new day. A day that will warm
our hearts and shed light on our actions. Like the bird's faith in the
sunrise, we need only to have faith that God meant each day to enrich
our lives.
What faith can I celebrate right now?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
If you wish to make an apple pie truly
from scratch, you must first invent the universe. --Carl Sagan
Everything is given to us. Our lives
came forth with no plan on our part. We have no lease on life and no
control, ultimately, over any possession. In the addictive and
codependent families most of us came from, we learned something else.
We learned a lonely arrogance that said, "I should be self sufficient.
I have earned everything that ever came to me." Deep down we probably
knew how untrue that was, and we felt great self-doubt.
The cure we learn in this program for
our lonely arrogance is a miracle and a blessing. We accept that we are
part of a larger whole. Now it dawns on us - all of our friends and
relatives share this basic powerlessness. We are all pilgrims. We are
all guests. We are all stewards of creation. We can be close, and we
must help one another because everyone is equally vulnerable.
I am grateful to my Higher Power today
for the life, which has been given me. I pray for greater understanding
of my responsibilities.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
Success can only be measured in terms
of distance traveled. --Mavis Gallant
We are forever moving from one
experience to another, one challenge to another, and one relationship
to another. Our ability to handle confidently all encounters is a gift
of the program, and one that accompanies us throughout every day,
providing we humbly express gratitude for it. Success is ours when we
are grateful.
We are not standing still. No matter
how uneventful our lives may seem, we are traveling toward our destiny,
and all the thrills and tears, joys and sorrows, are contributing to
the success of our trip. Every day, every step, we are succeeding.
We can reflect on yesterday, better
yet, on last week or even last year. What were our problems? It's
doubtful we can even remember them. We have put distance between them
and us. They were handled in some manner. We have succeeded in getting
free of them. We have succeeded in moving beyond them.
How far we have come! And we will keep
right on traveling forward. As long as we rely on the program, we are
assured of success.
I can do whatever I need to do, today,
with success, when I humbly accept the program's gifts.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Patience
Sometimes we get what we want right
away. At other times, we wonder if our desires will ever be fulfilled.
We will be fulfilled in the best way
possible and as quickly as possible. But some things take time.
Sometimes, we have lessons to learn first, lessons that prepare us so
we can accept the good we deserve. Things are being worked out in us,
and in others. Blocks in us are being removed. A solid foundation is
being laid.
Be patient, Relax and trust. Let go.
Then, let go some more. Good things are planned for us. We will receive
them at the first available moment. We will have all our heart longs
for. Relax and trust.
Today, I will identify what I want and
need; then, I'll be willing to let go of it. I will devote my energy to
living my life today, so I may master my lessons as quickly as
possible. I will trust that what I want and need is coming to me. I
will let go of my need to control the details.
Today I know I am worthy of having
success in my life. I am listening what I tell myself with gentleness
and love, putting a stop to any self-talk that does not make me feel
good about myself. --Ruth Fishel
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Journey To The Heart
Make It a Labor of Love
The mirror was framed with a ceramic
octopus. It had the sweetest, most peaceful energy. It made me smile
when I saw it. “Do you like it?’ my friend asked. “Arnold made it.”
That’s when I knew why it was so delightful. It’s energy– delightful,
joyous, and sweet– was Arnold’s energy.
The things we create have energy. A
meal we cook. A task we perform, no matter how big or small. What we do
contains our energy– the emotional energy and attitude we put into it.
Have you ever cooked a meal when you felt angry and disrupted, hurried
and harried? Have you noticed the difference when you cooked that meal
in a loving frame of mind? Merely doing the job isn’t always enough. We
need to do the job with our best energy, our most positive emotional
and mental attitude.
Take time before you begin a task to
become conscious of the energy you want to put into it, the energy you
want that task to have and reflect to yourself and others. Make
conscious, deliberate choices. The larger the task, the more time you
may want to spend developing your ideas about it. On particularly
significant projects, you may want to spend time visualizing and
writing down your ideas, so you can focus that energy into your work.
Experiment with this idea. See how it comes to life as you do your
daily tasks. See how much better the people around you feel when you do
your tasks in love. See how much more joy and pleasure work brings to
you.
There is honor in all work, in all
tasks, but take it one step further. Make what you do a labor of love.
Then your work will truly touch and change the world in the way you
desire. The work you do, whatever your chosen field, will be work that
heals.
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more language of letting go for
September
Learn to say I am
We hear a lot about becoming whole.
"Become a complete human being." "Start on the pathway to becoming
whole." "You won't find romantic love until you know you're complete."
Frankly, these kinds of comments often confused me. But then I decided
that wholeness relates directly to the process of detaching and letting
go.
It's admirable to go after our dreams
and know what we want to accomplish. But after we identify what it is
we're after, we need to let it go. We need to know in our hearts and
souls that we're okay whether we ever get what we're after or not.
Another friend described it this way.
"It's the old Zen Buddhist thing," he said. "When you're one with
yourself, life becomes magical. You can get whatever you want."
The most powerful and magical words we
can say in the language of letting go are these: I am.
Then we step it up one notch by
learning to say, I am complete just as I am.
God, help me know the power of the
words I am.
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Sending Yourself Sunshine
Good Thoughts for the Day
The more we accept our darkness as one
part of the picture, the more easily we can also allow and accept our
light.
When things go wrong, it is easy to
get into a bad mood, and that bad mood has a way of spiraling out and
affecting our life for days to come. In the same way, when we feel
badly about ourselves, we tend to act in ways that have repercussions,
again creating a negative vibe that can negatively influence the next
several days. While it is important that we allow ourselves to feel
what we feel, and to be genuine, we do not have to completely surrender
to a dark mood or feelings of self-doubt. In fact, the more we simply
allow and accept our darkness as one part of the picture, the more
easily we can also allow and accept our light. In this vein, we can
temper our grey moods with an injection of sunshine in the form of
sending good wishes to ourselves for the next 24 hours.
If you feel a bad mood coming on or
find yourself plagued with negative feelings, take a moment to
acknowledge that. At the same time, recognize that things can and will
change, and that you can still have a good day, or a good week,
especially if you take the time to visualize that for yourself. This is
a great way to support yourself when you are working through tough
times and hard feelings. When you visualize good things for yourself,
you are sending yourself love and warmth, as well as encouraging
yourself to keep going.
Before you even get out of bed in the
morning, you can take the time to send good wishes to yourself all the
way through to the next morning. As you picture your day, take the time
to fill in the details—where you are going, who you will see, what you
will do—and send love and good wishes ahead to yourself, as well as
everyone you encounter. It will be like arriving in a new place and
finding that an old friend has sent a bouquet of flowers from back home
to welcome you and remind you that you are loved. Published with
permission from Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
Based on their collective experience,
The Program’s founders suggested a prayer to be said when taking the
Third Step – and making a decision to turn our will and our lives over
to the care of God as we understood Him. “God, I offer myself to Thee,
to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the
bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my
difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would
help of Thy power, Thy Love, and Thy way of life. May I do Thy will
always!” Have I abandoned myself to God as I understood Him?
Today I pray
I praise my Higher Power for my
freedom to find my own understanding of God. May my life be God’s
whether i think of Him as a Father whose hand and spirit I can touch
with an upward reach of my own, or as a universal Spirit that I can
merge with as the hard outlines of my “self”begin to melt, or as a core
of Divine and absolute goodness inside myself. May I know Him well,
whether I find Him within me, without me or in all things everywhere.
Today I Will Remember
I thank God, as I understand Him, for
my understanding of Him.
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One More Day
Spirituality is like a bird: if you
hold on to it tightly, it chokes, and if you hold it loosely, it
escapes.
– Israel Salanter Lipkin
Being spiritual does not necessarily
mean being religious. Instead, it can be an awakening of our deepest
personal sense of caring about other people, as well as an awakening of
our appreciation of the joy, symmetry, and balance of nature.
The spirituality we strive for and
which comforts us best is based on our finding a similar balance within
ourselves. When we possessively clutch our faith and expect all that we
demand, our spirituality is weakened. Yet, if we expect nothing of it,
it might seem to disappear. Our spiritual lives are strengthened as we
find that precious balance between expectant trust in our Higher Power
and responsible reliance on ourselves.
I am striving to find fullness and
balance in my days. Certain experiences change the balance, but I can
find it again.
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Food For Thought
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
We practice the OA principles in all
our affairs, twenty-four hours a day. Ours is not a diet program but a
way of life. When we were eating compulsively, food occupied the
central place in our lives every day. Abstinence replaces food as our
prime concern, and maintaining abstinence means working the program.
When we do this, we are amazed at how
well the day goes. Our work is easier and more productive. We spend
less time and energy hassling with ourselves and other people. Best of
all, we do not always have to be right. Being able to admit mistakes
delivers us from egocentricity.
Being straight with ourselves enables
us to be straight with others, and they in turn respond more
positively. We are less concerned that everyone likes us and more
concerned about growth in the program. By placing principles before
personalities, we get less snarled up in confused, game playing
relationships.
May You be foremost in my mind,
twenty-four hours a day.
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One Day At A Time
SELF-KNOWLEDGE
“The world we have created is a
product of our thinking.
It cannot be changed without changing
our thinking.”
Albert Einstein
The world I created before finding the
Twelve Steps of recovery was a world in which I had no responsibility.
Everything bad in my life was someone else’s fault: my parents’, my
husband’s, society’s, and, when there was no one else to blame, it was
God’s fault.
As I worked Step 4, I learned that I
had been a part of all of these things for which I blamed others. I
learned that I had defects of character that kept me from taking part
in my life. As I recognized these defects, I asked my Higher Power to
remove them, and that gradually happened.
One of the things I had tried to do
for many years was bury my feelings of grief and pain. I seemed to have
managed that fairly well, but in doing so, I had also buried all the
other emotion. I no longer took enjoyment in anything. My child’s smile
evoked no feeling and I felt no pride in anything I did. I felt none of
the love that others gave to me. As I started dealing with the painful
feelings, the positive emotions emerged as well.
The promise the Big Book speaks of
became true for me: I no longer regretted the past nor wished to shut
the door on it. I was able to feel my hurt and grief. Now I am also
able to feel love and happiness. I have learned how to change my
thinking through the process of working these wonderful Steps.
One Day at a Time . . .
I do a daily 10th, 11th and 12th Step
and am reminded that it is my responsibility to listen to my Higher
Power and do my part in creating the world around me.
~ Nancy
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
It is plain that a life which includes
deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness. To the precise
extent that we permit these, do we squander the hours that might have
been worth while. But with the alcoholic, whose hope is the maintenance
and growth of a spiritual experience, this business of resentment is
infinitely grave. We found that is it fatal. For when harboring such
feelings we shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the Spirit. The
insanity of alcohol returns and we drink again. And with us, to drink
is to die. - Pg. 66 - How It Works
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Because our body chemistry is so
damaged by our disease of addiction, it is important to pay attention
to our body's nourishment needs. Are you eating regular balanced meals?
It's often more important then we realize and we should never allow
ourselves to be hungry or nutrient starved.
Give me the foresight to feed my body
the nourishment that my disease robbed it of in the past.
Secrets
Today I will be honest with myself and
with others where appropriate. At least, I will no hide from the truth
of my own life and inner being. I have the strength to live with the
truth and the wisdom to know that the truth can set me free. Keeping
secrets is a foolish attempt to stay safe from the truth. We tell
ourselves we are sparing another person or protecting ourselves, but
all too often the secrets that we keep actually keep us. What people
need from me in order to make sense of me is the truth. When I withhold
that truth, I withhold myself. I am creating distance that no one can
cross because the way across the divide is the way of honesty. I can
not make something better by lying, and I cannot be fully understood if
I won 't give the benefit of the truth. I can live my life in a web of
lies without ever uttering a falsehood. The web of lies is composed of
not just what I say, but the vast amount of honesty that I withhold.
There is a difference between considerate honesty and aggressive
frankness. Honesty recognizes the personhood of both people and is an
act of trust; but too much frankness can border on mean.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
Your life works FOR you. It hones you,
teaches you, and makes you a better person. Nothing in your life
happens to you, but for you.
This isn't happening to me, but for me.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
God does not hurry.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I know I am worthy of having
success in my life.
I am listening to what I tell myself
with gentleness and love, putting a stop to any self-talk that does not
make me feel good about myself.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
Take heart; it came to pass, it didn't
come to stay. - Unknown origin.
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AA Thought for the Day
September 1
Isolation
Isolation creeps up on us. We can mask
it with familiar props that are not in themselves bad.
We can isolate ourselves in an attempt
to clean up our apartments (and then not do the cleaning);
we can isolate ourselves in churches
or in sleep;
we can use family, sweethearts,
compulsive working, television. The list is long.
Reach out -- people can't read your
mind. Say ouch! Someone hears. Always.
- The Best of the Grapevine [Vol. 1],
p. 84
Thought to Ponder . . .
An alcoholic is someone who wants to
be held while isolating.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
Y A N A = You Are Not Alone.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Growing Up
"As we grow spiritually,
we find that our old attitudes toward
our instincts
need to undergo drastic revisions.
Our desires for emotional security and
wealth,
for personal prestige and power,
for romance, and for family
satisfactions -
all these have to be tempered and
redirected.
We have learned that the satisfaction
of instincts
cannot be the sole end and aim of our
lives.
If we place instincts first, we have
got the cart before the horse;
we shall be pulled backward into
disillusionment.
But when we are willing to place
spiritual growth first -
then and only then do we have a real
chance."
Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p.
114,
Copyright 1952 A.A.W.S. Inc.
Thought to Consider . . .
The program has helped me grow up
enough
to be a kid again.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
C H A N G E =
Choosing Honesty Allows New Growth
Every day.
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Not Theorizing
From: "How It Works"
Suppose we fall short of the chosen
ideal and stumble? Does this mean we are going to get drunk? Some
people tell us so. But this is only a half-truth. It depends on us and
on our motives. If we are sorry for what we have done, and have the
honest desire to let God take us to better things, we believe we will
be forgiven and will have learned our lesson. If we are not sorry, and
our conduct continues to harm others, we are quite sure to drink. We
are not theorizing. These are facts out of our experience.
2001, AAWS, Inc., Alcoholics
Anonymous, page 70
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"Spirituality makes it possible for me
to work for others and to try and help them. It can give me the courage
to take good care of myself -- to go to meetings even when I don't
think I need a meeting, to speak up when my alcoholism wants to keep my
pain to myself, to talk at a gut-honest level to my sponsor and to the
people in my group about painful matters I would rather keep hidden."
West Henrietta, New York, September
1990
"The Power to Carry That Out,"
Spiritual Awakenings
*~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N'
Twelve Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"...with the alcoholic, whose hope is
the maintenance and growth of a
spiritual experience, this business of
resentment is infinitely
grave. We found that it is fatal. For
when harboring such feelings
we shut ourselves off from the
sunlight of the Spirit. The insanity
of alcohol returns and we drink again.
And with us, to drink is to die."
Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, How
It Works, pg. 66~
"Putting out of our minds the wrongs
others had done, we resolutely
looked for our own mistakes. Where had
we been selfish, dishonest,
self-seeking and frightened? Though a
situation had not been entirely
our fault, we tried to disregard the
other person involved entirely.
Where were we to blame? The inventory
was ours, not the other man's.
When we saw our faults we listed them.
We placed them before us in
black and white. We admitted our
wrongs honestly and were willing to
set these matters straight."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
How It Works, pg. 67~
"We may have had certain spiritual
beliefs, but now we begin to have a spiritual experience."
-Alcoholics Anonymous p. 75
"We A.A.'s cannot pretend to offer
full answers to age-old perplexities, but our own experience does
provide certain answers that work for us."
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions p.
117
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
Toward Maturity
Many oldsters who have put our A.A.
'booze cure' to severe but successful tests still find they often lack
emotional sobriety. To attain this, we must develop real maturity and
balance (which is to say, humility) in our relations with ourselves,
with our fellows, and with God.
Let A.A. never be a closed
corporation; let us never deny our experience, for whatever it may be
worth, to the world around us. Let our individual members heed the call
to every field of human endeavor. Let them carry the experience and
spirit of A.A. into all these affairs, for whatever good they may
accomplish. For not only has God saved us from alcoholism; the world
has received us back into its citizenship.
Prayer for the Day: Lord, I turn my life and will over to You
today. I will walk humbly with You and my fellow travelers. You are
giving me a grateful heart for my many blessings. You are directing my
thinking and separating me from self-pity, dishonesty, and self-seeking
motives. You are removing my resentments, fears, and other character
defects that stand in my way. You are giving me freedom from self-will.
Your will, Lord, not mine. You will show me today what I can do to help
someone who is still hurting. As I go out today to do Your bidding, You
are helping me to become a better person.