ONE DAY AT A TIME
Above all, take it one day at a time.
AS BILL SEES IT, p.11
Why do I kid myself that I must stay away from a drink for only one day,
when I know perfectly well I must never drink again as long as I live? I
am not kidding myself because one day at a time is probably the only
way I can reach the long-range objective of staying sober.
If I determine that I shall never drink again as long as I live, I set
myself
up. How can I be sure I won't drink when I have no idea what the future
may hold?
On a day-at-a-time basis, I am confident I can stay away from a drink
for one day. So I set out with confidence. At the end of the day, I have
the reward of achievement. Achievement feels good and that makes me
want more!
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
If we get up in a meeting and tell something about ourselves in order to
help the other person, we feel a whole lot better. It's the old law of
the
more you give the more you get. Witnessing and confession are part of
keeping sober. You never know when you may help somebody. Helping
others is one of the best ways to stay sober yourself. And the
satisfaction you get out of helping a fellow human being is one of the
finest experiences you can have. Am I helping others?
Meditation For The Day
Without God, no real victory is ever won. All the military victories of
great conquerors have passed into history. The world might be better off
without military conquerors. The real victories are won in the
spiritual realm. "He that conquers himself is greater than he who
conquers a city." The real victories are victories over sin and
temptation, leading to a victorious and abundant life. Therefore,
keep a brave and trusting heart. Face all your difficulties in the
spirit of
conquest. Remember that where God is, there is the true victory.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that the forces of evil in my life will flee before God's
presence. I
pray that with God I will win the real victory over myself.
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As Bill Sees It
Defects and
Repairs, p. 140
More than most people, the alcoholic leads a double life. He is very
much the actor. To the outer world he presents his stage character.
This is the one he likes his fellows to see. He wants to enjoy a
certain reputation, but knows in his heart he doesn't deserve it.
<< << << >> >> >>
Guilt is really the reverse side of the coin of pride. Guilt aims at
self-destruction, and pride aims at the destruction of others.
<< << << >> >> >>
"The moral inventory is a cool examination of the damages that
occurred to us during life and a sincere effort to look at them in a
true perspective. This has the effect of taking the ground glass out of
us, the emotional substance that still cuts and inhibits."
1. Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 73
2. Grapevine, June 1961
3. Letter, 1957
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Walk in Dry Places
Gratitude is not natural.
Gratitude
"Nobody ever gave me a helping hand," a young alcoholic complained,
having handed in prison. "My life has been one bad break after another."
While this person indeed had bad breaks, it's doubtful that he'd never
been given a helping hand by somebody. If we have no gratitude, it's
likely taht we don't ever recognize a helping hand when it is extended.
We may have believed any assistance we took was our right, even
resenting our benefactors.
The remedy for such immature thinking is a conscious effort to
vultivate gratitude. IF we're not aware of feeling it, we can at least
act as if we have it. Thank people for any favor, no matter how
small.
Express appreciation for the wonderful people around you. Give people
praise at every opportunity.
This will help start a current of gratitude that can be amplified in
time. You'll come to recognize many helping hands.
Today I'll be grateful and appreciative of everything in my life. I'll
let gratitude build up in my life until I can feel it and others can
sense that I have it.
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Keep It Simple
And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.
---Matt.
15:14
The Twelve Step programs are sometime called self-help programs. But
they're not really, because we all help each other. We don't stay sober
by ourselves. Sometimes we call Twelve Step programs peer programs. And
they are. All of us equal. No one is an expert. But we need to be
careful
who we choose for a sponsor. We each need to find someone who has been
sober longer than us. Someone who understands the Steps. Someone who
lives by them. Some we want to be like. We need to stick with the
winners.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, I know I'm like a blind person
who
is just beginning to
see. Help me follow the path of those who see better than I do.
Action for the Day: Today, I'll list the people in my program I
go to
for help. Am I sticking
with the winners?
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Each Day a New Beginning
It only takes one person to change your life--you. --Ruth Casey
Change is not easy, but it's absolutely unavoidable. Doors will close.
Barriers will surface. Frustrations will mount. Nothing stays the same
forever, and it's such folly to wish otherwise. Growth accompanies
positive change; determining to risk the outcome resulting from a
changed behavior or attitude will enhance our self-perceptions. We will
have moved forward; in every instance our lives will be influenced by
making a change that only each of us can make.
We have all dreaded the changes we knew we had to make. Perhaps even
now we fear some impending changes. Where might they take us? It's
difficult accepting that the outcome is not ours to control. Only the
effort is ours. The solace is that positive changes, which we know are
right for us and other people in our lives, are never going to take us
astray. In fact, they are necessary for the smooth path just beyond
this stumbling block.
When we are troubled by circumstances in our lives, a change is called
for, a change that we must initiate. When we reflect on our recent as
well as distant past, we will remember that the changes we most dreaded
again and again have positively influenced our lives in untold ways.
Change ushers in glad, not bad, tidings.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Chapter 5 - HOW IT WORKS
We reviewed our own conduct over the years past. Where had we been
selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate? Whom had we hurt? Did we
unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion or bitterness? Where were we
at fault, what should we have done instead? We got this all down on
paper and looked at it.
In this way we tried to shape a sane and sound ideal for our future sex
life. We subjected each relation to this test--was it selfish or not?
We asked God to mold our ideals and help us to live up to them. We
remembered always that our sex powers were God-given and therefore
good, neither to be used lightly or selfishly nor to be despised and
loathed.
p. 69
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
THE PERPETUAL QUEST - This lawyer tried psychiatrists. biofeedback,
relaxation exercises, and a host of other techniques to control her
drinking. She finally found a solution, uniquely tailored, in the
Twelve Steps.
Within a dozen years, three of these
five promising lawyers were dead from alcoholism, struck down at the
peak of their careers. The judge is still and always has been a
sober judge. And I somehow unwittingly, and even while drinking,
turned into a corporate counsel and later, thankfully, became a member
of Alcoholics Anonymous. The professor's kidneys gave out from
one too many martinis; the exporting lawyer kept drinking until he
died, despite a liver transplant; my ex-husband died in a fire on what
was to be, he had said, his last drunk before going to A.A. again, when
I was ten years sober. I have been to too many premature funerals
due to our good friend alcohol.
pp. 388-389
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Step Twelve -
"Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we
tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these
principles in all our affairs."
Nor is this the only kind of Twelfth Step work. We sit in A.A. meetings
and listen, not only to receive something ourselves, but to give the
reassurance and support which our presence can bring. If our turn comes
to speak at a meeting, we again try to carry A.A.'s message. Whether
our audience is one or many, it is still Twelfth Step work. There are
many opportunities even for those of us who feel unable to speak at
meetings or who are so situated that we cannot do much face-to-face
Twelfth Step work. We can be the ones who take on the unspectacular but
important tasks that make good Twelfth Step work possible, perhaps
arranging for the coffee and cake after the meetings, where so many
skeptical, suspicious newcomers have found confidence and comfort in
the laughter and talk. This is Twelfth Step work in the very best sense
of the word. "Freely ye have received; freely give..." is the core of
this part of Step Twelve.
p. 110
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Thoughts
have
power.
Thoughts
are
energy. You can make your
world
or break it by your thinking.
--Susan Taylor
When life seems to be going in a direction you don't want, take a
moment and recognize all the wonderful gifts in your life. This really
helps you change your perspective and appreciate things once again.
--unknown
"Find places of healing. Discover people, things and places that
nourish your soul, bring you back to center, help you heal."
--Melody Beattie
What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can
be.
--Ellen Burstyn
Lord, help me to remember that nothing is going to happen to me today
that You and I together can't handle.
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
RELIGION
"You have not converted a man
because you have silenced him."
--Viscount John Morley
I need to remember that you cannot force a person into faith. You
cannot make a person believe. You cannot bribe a person into prayer.
So much of my early religion was "a deal": you do this and you will get
this. If you do this for God and His church you will be happy and
successful. There always seemed to be a "payoff" with God, or that was
how it seemed.
I think many of the silent majority sense the same kind of thing; God
has
got lost in "the business" of religion. Spirituality accepts the pain,
confusion and anger of this silent majority and says, "find a God as you
understand Him." Discover your power in your life - and then God will
be perceived.
Lord, in my silence is the "shout" heard.
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The
LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want. He makes me lie down
in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul.
He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Even though
I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil,
for
you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare
a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head
with oil; my cup overflows. Surely goodness and love will follow me all
the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.
Psalms 23
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Daily Inspiration
You can keep things in perspective by realizing that
not much in life is as urgent as others would like you to believe.
Lord, help me to know and stay focused on that which is really
important to me.
Our time here is short and there is still so much to be done. Lord,
please let me do a little more for You today so that the world may be a
little better because of me.
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NA Just For Today
Coming Out Of Isolation
"We find ourselves doing and enjoying
things that we never thought we would be doing."
Basic Text, p. 98
Active addiction kept us isolated for
many reasons. In the beginning, we avoided family and friends so they
wouldn't find out we were using. Some of us avoided all nonaddicts,
fearing moral backlash and legal repercussions. We belittled people who
had "normal" lives with families and hobbies; we called them "uncool"
believing we could never enjoy the simple pleasures of life.
Eventually, we even avoided other addicts because we didn't want to
share our drugs. Our lives narrowed, and our concerns were confined to
the daily maintenance of our disease.
Today, our lives are much fuller. We
enjoy activities with other recovering addicts. We have time for our
families. And we've discovered many other pursuits that give us
pleasure. What a change from the past! We can live life just as fully
as the "normal" people we once scorned. Enjoyment has returned to our
lives, a gift of recovery.
Just for today: I can find pleasure in
the simple routines of daily living.
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
For nothing can be sole or whole that
has not been rent. --W. B. Yeats
The maple out front is young and
healthy, but it grows in the shape of a Y. Neighborhood tree experts
have warned that as it grows, it will split in half as the weight of
the two main branches pull down against each other. One of these two
beautiful branches, already lush with new leaves, must be cut. But once
pruned, the remaining branch will straighten as it reaches for the sun.
It will grow faster, and the whole tree will live many years
longer--all by cutting it back today.
Sometimes we are like this tree. We go
in too many directions, and can't seem to do any one thing well. When
this happens, we need to give something up, to choose which direction
we want and stick with it. The results will be well worth the price.
What is holding me back from growth?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
Truth is a demure lady, much too
ladylike to knock you on the head and drag you to her cave. She is
there, but the people must want her and seek her out. --William
F.Buckley, Jr.
As we develop a deeper and more
reliable friendship with ourselves, we have little hunches or inner
blips of feeling that tell us private truths. Ancient scriptures called
it "a still, small voice." We usually sense this inner message
somewhere in our body. Some men say it's in the heart, others say in
the gut, or ear, or on their shoulders. When we are too focused on what
others think and feel and what the world says is truth, we don't notice
our inner voice; it doesn't get much chance to develop. It never hits
us over the head; it requires silence and respect to be heard.
As we follow the Steps, we learn to
regularly visit the cave of this demure lady, Truth, and seek out her
wisdom. The more we listen and the more we respect the truths we
receive in our quietness, the more wisdom we are given.
I will listen to the personal wisdom
whispered by that still, small voice within.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
It only takes one person to change
your life--you. --Ruth Casey
Change is not easy, but it's
absolutely unavoidable. Doors will close. Barriers will surface.
Frustrations will mount. Nothing stays the same forever, and it's such
folly to wish otherwise. Growth accompanies positive change;
determining to risk the outcome resulting from a changed behavior or
attitude will enhance our self-perceptions. We will have moved forward;
in every instance our lives will be influenced by making a change that
only each of us can make.
We have all dreaded the changes we
knew we had to make. Perhaps even now we fear some impending changes.
Where might they take us? It's difficult accepting that the outcome is
not ours to control. Only the effort is ours. The solace is that
positive changes, which we know are right for us and other people in
our lives, are never going to take us astray. In fact, they are
necessary for the smooth path just beyond this stumbling block.
When we are troubled by circumstances
in our lives, a change is called for, a change that we must initiate.
When we reflect on our recent as well as distant past, we will remember
that the changes we most dreaded again and again have positively
influenced our lives in untold ways.
Change ushers in glad, not bad,
tidings.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Sadness
Ultimately, to grieve our losses means
to surrender to our feelings.
So many of us have lost so much, have
said so many good byes; have been through so many changes. We may want
to hold back the tides of change, not because the change isn't good,
but because we have had so much change, so much loss.
Sometimes, when we are in the midst of
pain and grief, we become shortsighted, like members of a tribe
described in the movie Out of Africa.
If you put them in prison, one
character said, describing this tribe, they die.
Why? asked another character.
Because they cant grasp the idea that
they'll be let out one day. They think its permanent, so they die.
Many of us have so much grief to get
through. Sometimes we begin to believe grief, or pain, is a permanent
condition.
The pain will stop. Once felt and
released, our feelings will bring us to a better place than where we
started. Feeling our feelings, instead of denying or minimizing them,
is how we heal from our past and move forward into a better future.
Feeling our feelings is how we let go.
It may hurt for a moment, but peace
and acceptance are on the other side. So is a new beginning.
God, help me fully embrace and finish
my endings, so I may be ready for my new beginnings.
Today I will look at all my fears in a
new light. I can now see them as a result of my thinking and will turn
over all my fear thoughts to my Higher Power. Fear no longer owns me or
is a threat to my day. --Ruth Fishel
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Journey to the Heart
Value the Fragrances of the Universe
I stopped at the small gas station to
fill the tank and get a cup of coffee en route through northern
California. “Did you know that the world’s largest manufacturer of
aromatherapy products is right here in town? asked the attendant. His
remark reminded me of the power of our sense of smell to affect how we
feel. We are surrounded by odors, but unless one is particularly
noxious, we tend to ignore the effects of the scents we are inhaling.
And we tend to underestimate the power of certain scents to help us
heal.
Nurture your sense of smell. Let it
come alive. Use its power to help you heal. A bundle of white sage
burning in a sea shell on the table. The wisp of cedar smoke from the
fireplace. A cone of incense filling the air. Lavender oil in the bath.
Drops of eucalyptus sprinkled in the shower, its penetrating aroma
mingling with the steam. A vanilla candle on the nightstand next to
your bed. The smell of a forest, fresh with rain. Ocean air, salty and
damp. The rich sawdust smell of redwood. Comforting smells from
childhood– bread baking in the oven, freshly baked chocolate cake on
the counter, chicken frying in the pan. The smell of our favorite
people, their hair, their clothes, their cologne.
Value your sense of smell, the way it
connects you to yourself, to memory, to emotion, to the universe and
the world around you. Use your sense of smell to help you discover
what’s right for you. Surround yourself with the fragrances of the
universe. Let them help you heal.
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More language of letting go
Say when it’s time to get something
done
Yesterday we talked about using
deadlines to help ourselves let go. Self-imposed deadlines can also be
a way to focus our energy on a task at hand, especially one we’ve been
putting off.
“I’m going to get up and have the
house cleaned by 10:00 A.M.” “I’m going to lock myself in the house and
have this report written in two days.” “I’m going to get the yard
cleaned up by the end of the week.”
There are many times in life when it’s
appropriate and healthy to listen to our internal clock about what to
do and when to do it. Going with the flow can be a spiritual process,
but there are other times when it’s helpful to use self-imposed
deadlines to help us get the job done.
Do you need to set a deadline for
yourself?
God, help me set appropriate deadlines
for myself.
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Intelligence Speaks for Itself
The Fear of Appearing Dumb by Madisyn Taylor
In trying to project an image of
intelligence, you deny others the opportunity to know the terrific
individual you are.
The universal need to be accepted by
others can be a barrier that prevents us from being ourselves around
them. When we fear that the people we encounter will perceive us as
inept or unintelligent, we frequently try to flaunt our grasp of large
words or clever witticisms or our professional expertise in an effort
to convince them that we are smart and capable. The reasons for feeling
this way can be many, and they can often stem from as far back as your
childhood. Many women in particular have the fear that they may appear
not smart. Yet overcompensating for this fear can have the opposite
effect if others are driven away by what they see as an immodest
attitude or sense that you are urgently trying to prove yourself. The
simple desire to be judged smart by both new and old acquaintances can
cause you to reject your true self and adopt an affected persona. But
in trying so persistently to project an image of supreme intelligence
or capability, you deny others the opportunity! to become acquainted
with the real and terrific individual you truly are.
The fear that others will perceive you
as unintelligent can further influence your behavior, causing you to
consciously avoid speaking your mind or asking questions. You may feel
uncomfortable participating in activities if there is a chance that you
won’t excel or taking part in discussions with others who may have more
knowledge than you. In essence, you become ashamed of who you are and
attempt to encase your identity in a veneer that others will find
pleasing and impressive. It is, however, a common fear—one experienced
by almost everyone at some point in their lives. The simplest way to
combat it is to make a personal commitment to being yourself in your
home, your workplace, and among strangers. Ask yourself how you believe
the individuals you encounter will react should you speak awkwardly,
need clarification, or fail to be the best at some activity. By being
yourself, you will discover that all people make mistakes and ask
questions and that others will like and resp! ect you because they
recognize the goodness in your soul.
The fact that you are willing to be
yourself, letting your many affirmative attributes express themselves
naturally, will help you make a positive first impression on everyone
you meet and earn the esteem of your family and friends. Your
confidence and easygoing manner will say, - this is who I am and I am
proud of the person I have become. Published with permission from Daily
OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
Alcoholism is called the “lonely
disease”; almost without exception, alcoholics are literally tortured
by loneliness. Even before the end of our drinking — before people
began to shun us and we were “eighty-sixed” from bars, restaurants or
people’s homes — nearly all of us felt that we didn’t quite belong. We
were either shy, and dared not draw near otters, or we were noisy good
fellows craving attention and approval, but rarely getting it. There
was always that mysterious barrier we could neither surmount nor
understand. Finally, ever Bacchus betrayed us; we were struck down and
left in terrified isolation. Have I begun to achieve an inner calm?
Today I Pray
May I know the tenderness of an
intimate relationship with God and the calm I feel when I touch His
spirit. May I translate this tenderness and calm to my relationships
with others. May God deliver me from my lifelong feeling of loneliness
and show me how to be a friend.
Today I Will Remember
God can teach me to be a friend.
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One More Day
Stripped of all their masquerades, the
fears of men are quite identical: the fear of loneliness, rejection,
inferiority, unmanageable anger, illness and death.
– Joshua Loth Liebman
Sometimes we may try to hold ourselves
apart from others, pretending our uniqueness makes us superior.
Underneath all our bluff and bravado we recognize that our fears are
shared by all people.
We fashion our lives to protect
ourselves from hurt, from displeasing those we love, and from
disappointing ourselves. Our best chance for success, despite some
difficult burdens, is to develop a positive attitude, an open nature,
and a willingness to risk. Doing this doesn’t necessarily protect us
from all our fears, but it does create an honest bond with other people
who also accept their human nature.
My fears don’t have to isolate me; in
fact, they can be the means by which I reach out to others.
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Food For Thought
Goals
In the OA program, our ultimate goal is not to be able to follow
perfectly some diet or other. It is not even to arrive at a certain
number of pounds by a certain date. Our goal is nothing short of
becoming a new person, the person God intends us to be. Now that is a
goal worthy of a lifetime's work!
We begin with the desire to stop eating compulsively. For a while, that
may be goal enough. Sooner or later, we discover that in order to stop
eating compulsively we need to rely on a Power greater than ourselves,
and in the process of developing a relationship with this Higher Power,
our goals change.
As our spiritual awareness increases, new possibilities are opened to
us. As we experience God's grace in our daily lives, we become less
self-centered and more centered in Him. Little by little, our
willfulness is absorbed by His will and we are more sensitive to His
direction. Our mood changes from one of despair to one of hope, and we
grow in willingness to follow wherever our Higher Power leads.
Lord, direct my goals.
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One Day At A Time
AVOIDANCE
” Facts do not cease to exist because
they are ignored.."
Aldous Huxley
Step 1 has a basic principle behind it
which is truth. For me that truth is, just as I use tools for recovery,
there are tools that my willful mind uses to keep me rooted in my
disease. One of the strongest is avoidance.
Recovery can bring up a lot of painful
issues and have me recall situations in which I feel uncomfortable.
Sometimes I find that these old feelings have a way of creeping into my
psyche. Suddenly some old behavior comes rushing back and I find myself
using avoidance as a means to protect myself. Other times, I find
myself acting very willfully by deliberately putting things off like
going to the gym even when I know that it is good for me, I enjoy
myself and am always happy for having gone..
My avoidance can take the form of
rebellion against a person, chore, or situation.
Recovery has taught me to face
situations. Once the situation has been faced, I often feel a sense of
immediate relief. I know that the deed is done, my fears whether they
be realistic or not, usually fall away, and sometimes I even feel a
little silly for having avoided the situation in the first place.
One day at a time...
I will fact the situations that I
encounter today with action.
~ Marilyn S.
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
Rarely Have we seen a person fail who
has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people
who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple
program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of
being honest with themselves. - Pg. 58 - How It Works
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Often we try to make our disease
someone else's fault. 'It was my upbringing, it was my spouse, it was
my job or lack thereof.' However, we know that circumstances are no
more responsible for the brain chemistry malfunctioning in addiction
than it is in the pancreas malfunctioning in diabetes.
For whatever biological reason I have
this addiction, I need to stop blaming and start recovering.
Putting in the Elbow Grease
I will be willing to do the daily work
that is required to have the life I want to have. A good life is
brought forth through many doors. The door of visualization, the door
or seeing and the door of work. As I progress along my path I will
learn how to 'work smarter'. How to use my energies more efficiently
and waste less time needlessly. I'll learn how to get out of my own way
and let my energies flow more freely. I'll learn how to listen to
others and make my own decisions, how to have boundaries that are
porous and flexible rather than either rigid or weak. I will find my
sense of self and be able to sustain it even in the presence of others.
I'll develop strength, wisdom, patience and compassion. I will develop
my own unique gifts and strengths.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
'If you are humble, nothing can touch
you, neither praise nor disgrace, because you know who you are.'
~Mother Theresa
Humility is that virtue which reduces
me to the proper size without degrading me, and increases me in statue
without inflating me.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
Actions speak louder than bumper
stickers.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I will look at all my fears in a
new light. I can now see them as a result of my thinking and will turn
over all my fear thoughts to my Higher Power. Fear no longer owns me or
is a threat to my day.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
I hear women say they faked orgasms.
I faked whole relationships. - Bob.
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AA Thought for the Day
May 20
Change
I tried to change the time and place
and amount of my drinking.
I tried to change my environment, my
place of living -- like most of us
who at one time or another think that
our trouble is geography rather than whiskey.
I even entertained the idea of
changing wives.
I tried to change everything and
everybody, except myself -- the only thing I could change.
- Experience, Strength and Hope, p. 153
Thought to Ponder . . .
If nothing changes, nothing changes.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A B C = Acceptance, Belief, Change.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Communicate
"From the beginning,
communication in AA has been no
ordinary transmission
of helpful ideas and attitudes.
It has been unusual and sometimes
unique.
Because of our kinship in suffering,
and because our common means of
deliverance
are effective for ourselves only when
constantly carried to others,
our channels of contact have always
been charged with
the language of the heart."
Bill W., July 1960
1988AAGrapevine, The Language of the
Heart, p. 243
Thought to Consider . . .
To help each other, is to help
ourselves.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
Y A N A = You Are Not Alone
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Honesty
STEP FIVE: Admitted to God, to
ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
"More realism and therefore more
honesty about ourselves are the great gains we make under the influence
of Step
Five. As we took inventory, we began
to suspect how much trouble self-delusion had been causing us. This had
brought a disturbing reflection. If
all our lives we had more or less fooled ourselves, how could we now be
so sure that
we weren't still self-deceived? How
could we be certain that we had made a true catalog of our defects and
had really
admitted them, even to ourselves?
Because we were still bothered by fear, self-pity, and hurt feelings,
it was probable
we couldn't appraise ourselves fairly
at all. Too much guilt and remorse might cause us to dramatize and
exaggerate
our shortcomings. Or anger and hurt
pride might be the smoke screen under which we were hiding some of our
defects
while we blamed others for them.
Possibly, too, we were still handicapped by many liabilities, great and
small, we never
knew we had.
"Hence it was most evident that a
solitary self-appraisal, and the admission of our defects based upon
that alone,
wouldn't be nearly enough. We'd have
to have outside help if we were surely to know and admit the truth
about
ourselves the help of God and another
human being."
1952, AAWS, Inc.; Printed 2005; Twelve
Steps and Twelve Traditions, pgs. 58-59
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"Through Step Five, God has removed my
shame about being an alcoholic."
Syracuse, N.Y., May 2001
"Lifting the Burden,"
Step By Step
~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N' Twelve
Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"We alcoholics are sensitive people.
It takes some of us a long time
to outgrow that serious handicap."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
The Family Afterward, pg. 125~
"I humbly offered myself to God, as I
then I understood Him, to do
with me as He would. I placed myself
unreservedly under His care and
direction. I admitted for the first
time that of myself I was
nothing; that without Him I was lost.
I ruthlessly faced my sins and
became willing to have my new found
Friend take them away, root and branch."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
Bill's Story, pg. 13~
“Beginning with Step Four, we
commenced to search out the things in ourselves which had brought us to
physical,
moral, and spiritual bankruptcy.”
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions,
p. 107
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
Defects and Repairs
More than most people, the alcoholics
leads a double life. He is very much the actor. To the outer world he
presents his
stage character. This is the one he
likes his fellows to see. He wants to enjoy a certain reputation, but
knows in his
heart he doesn't deserve it.
Guilt is really the reverse side of
the coin of pride. Guilt aims at self-destruction, and pride aims at
the destruction of others.
The moral inventory is a cool
examination of the damages that occurred to us during life and a
sincere effort to look at
them in a true perspective. This has
the effect of taking the ground glass out of us, the emotional
substance that still
cuts and inhibits.
Prayer For The Day: Lord God, I do earnestly pray that thou
wilt give me strength to break away, if I may be trying to free myself
from habits that mar my character. May I not lose courage and fall back
in the old ways, but by faith be led where I should go. Amen.