GIVING WITHOUT STRINGS
And he well knows that his own life has been made richer, as an extra
dividend of giving to another without any demand for a return.
AS BILL SEES IT, p. 69
The concept of giving without strings was hard to understand when I
first came into the program. I was suspicious when others wanted to
help me. I thought, "What do they want in return?" But I soon
learned the joy of helping another alcoholic and I understood why they
were there for me in the beginning. My attitudes changed and I
wanted to help others. Sometimes I became anxious, as I wanted them
to know the joys of sobriety, that life can be beautiful. When my life
is full of a loving God of my understanding and I give that love to my
fellow alcoholic, I feel a special richness that is hard to explain.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
Fellowship is a big part of staying sober. The doctors call it group
therapy. We never go to an A.A. meeting without taking something
out of it. Sometimes we don't feel like going to a meeting and we think
of excuses for not going. But we usually end up by going anyway and
we always get some lift out of every meeting. Meetings are part of
keeping sober. And we get more out of a meeting if we try to contribute
something to it. Am I contributing my share at meetings?
Meditation For The Day
"He brought me up out of a horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set
my feet upon a rock and established my goings." The first part, "He
brought me up out of a horrible pit," means that by turning to God and
putting my problems in His hands, I am able to overcome my sins and
temptations. "He set my feet upon a rock" means that when I trust
God in all things, I have true security. "He established my goings"
means that if I honestly try to live the way God wants me to live, I
will
have God's guidance in my daily living.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that my feet may be set upon a rock. I pray that I may rely on
God to guide my comings and goings.
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As Bill Sees It
Basis of All
Humility, p. 139
For just so long as we were convinced that we could live exclusively
by our own individual strength and intelligence, for just that long was
a working faith in a Higher Power impossible.
This was true even when we believed that God existed. We could
actually have earnest religious beliefs which remained barren
because we were still trying to play God ourselves. As long as we
placed self-reliance first, a genuine reliance upon a Higher Power
was out of the question.
That basic ingredient of all humility, a desire to seek and do God's
will, was missing.
12 & 12, p. 72
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Walk in Dry Places
Principles are Enduring
Problem Solving
We often emphasize -Principles before personalities-- in Twelve Step
programs, sometimes without fully understanding what's involved. The
real message of this slogan is that we should treat people equally
while following certain guidelines in our own actions.
While we are influenced by strong personalities, we cannot rely on them
for complete guidance and direction. People can betray us or simply
fail us through no fault of their own. Principles, on the other hand,
are enduring and will be with us long after personal relationships
wither away.
One unfailing principle for living is to live each day remembering that
God is guiding and directing all actions and outcomes. While we will be
grateful for the assistance and cooperation of others, we will not hold
them responsible for our success or failures.
I'll live today with the belief that God's good plan is working in all
people's lives. I will not expect too much or too little of others, but
rather will deal with them fairly and decently.
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Keep It Simple
The art of living is more like wrestling than dancing.---Marcus
Aurelius
The struggles of life teach us a lot. They challenge our beliefs. As we
struggle, we come to believe that our friends, family, and Higher Power
will be there for us in hard times. But we must do our part. We need to
call and honestly let people know how we are doing. We need to pray and
ask our Higher Power for help. If we do these things, we'll come to
respect and learn from hard times.
Prayer for the Day: I pray for the wisdom to see that struggles
are
part of live. Higher
Power, I pray for Your help in not taking struggles too personally.
Action for the Day: I'll list four times I've struggled and what
I
learned from each stuggle.
I'll share this with a friend.
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Each Day a New Beginning
. . . if we are suffering illness, poverty, or misfortune, we think we
shall be satisfied on the day it ceases. But there too, we know it is
false, so soon as one has got used to not suffering, one wants
something else. --Simone Weil
Perhaps it's the human condition never to be satisfied and yet always
to think, "If only . . ." However, the more we look within for
wholeness, the greater will be our acceptance of all things, at all
times.
So frequently we hear that happiness is within. But what does that mean
when we may have just lost the job that supported us and our children?
Or when the car won't start and funds are low? Or when we are feeling
really scared and don't know whom to talk to or where to go? "Happiness
is within" is such a grand platitude at those times.
Nevertheless, our security in any situation is within, if we but know
how to tap it. It is within because that is where the strength we are
blessed with resides, the strength given us from the power greater than
ourselves. "Going within" takes, first, a decision. Next, it takes
stillness, and then, patience. But peace will come.
We will quit wanting when we have learned how to turn to our inner
strength. We will find serenity rather than suffering.
I will go within whenever I feel the rumblings of dissatisfaction
today. I will look there for my joy and sense of well-being and know
that divine order is in charge.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Chapter 5 - HOW IT WORKS
Now about sex. Many of needed an overhauling there. But above all, we
tried to be sensible on this question. It’s so easy to get way off the
track. Here we find human opinions running to extremes--absurd
extremes, perhaps. One set of voices cry that sex is a lust of our
lower nature, a base necessity of procreation. Then we have the voices
who cry for sex and more sex; who bewail the institution of marriage;
who think that most of the troubles of the race are traceable to sex
causes. They think we do not have enough of it, or that it isn’t the
right kind. They see its significance everywhere. One school would
allow man no flavor for his fare and the other would have us all on a
straight pepper diet. We want to stay out of this controversy. We do
not want to be the arbiter of anyone’s sex conduct. We all have sex
problems. We’d hardly be human if we didn’t. What can we do about them?
pp. 68-69
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
THE PERPETUAL QUEST - This lawyer tried psychiatrists. biofeedback,
relaxation exercises, and a host of other techniques to control her
drinking. She finally found a solution, uniquely tailored, in the
Twelve Steps.
When I was a newly minted lawyer
starting out in the practice of criminal law, there were five of us in
our law office. My favorite lawyer was the eccentric, disheveled,
wild-eyed Irish law professor who was brilliant or crazy, depending on
your point of view, constantly cleaning out his pipe bowl with a black
fingernail and tossing back vodka martinis whenever he got the
chance. Then there was the new but world-weary litigation lawyer
who told endless tales of his former life of white wine and
bouillabaisse under the Mediterranean sun as he conducted his exporting
business on the Riviera. Why would he leave such an ideal,
wine-drenched job in sunny climes to slog away at law school? I
kept wondering. There was also a giant good-hearted bear of a
man, who today is a judge, who spent more time listening and helping
others than he did practicing criminal law. Into this office
landed a pair of know-it-all, fast-acting, but not too experienced
young lawyers: my husband and me.
p. 388
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Step Twelve -
"Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we
tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these
principles in all our affairs."
Practically every A.A. member declares that no satisfaction has been
deeper and no joy greater than in a Twelfth Step job well done. To
watch the eyes of men and women open with wonder as they move from
darkness into light, to see their lives quickly fill with new purpose
and meaning, to see whole families reassembled, to see the alcoholic
outcast received back into his community in full citizenship, and above
all to watch these people awaken to the presence of a loving God in
their lives--these things are the substance of what we receive as we
carry A.A.'s message to the next alcoholic.
p. 110
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An
old
timer
had
shared
in the meeting about praying for
something,
and that God had answered her request. Someone asked her, "How
do you know it was God who granted your request?"
She replied..."I didn't ask anyone else."
--unknown
"When someone does something well, applaud! You will make two
people happy."
--Samuel Goldwyn
"Take time for solitude. How else can you contemplate the blessings
of recovery."
--Abby Warman
Be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. Talk health,
happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. Make all your
friends feel there is something special in them. Look at the sunny side
of everything. Think only of the best, work only for the best, and
expect only the best. Be as enthusiastic about the success of others as
you are about your own. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on
to the greater achievements of the future. Give everyone a smile.
Spend so much time improving yourself that you have no time left to
criticize others. Be too big for worry and too noble for anger.
--Christian D. Larsen
Try to enjoy everything you do, Life is too short not to.
--unknown
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
MONEY
"Money is the symbol of duty. It
is the sacrament of having done
for mankind that which mankind
wanted."
--Samuel Butler
St. Paul said, "The laborer is worthy of his hire." In one sense money -
how people pay us for the services we have performed - is symbolic of
our value in the community. Of course, this is not always true and
people can make money by dishonest and destructive methods.
However, in our society money is also a force behind much creativity
and job satisfaction. The danger is to become a "snob". Thinking that
we are better than others because we earn more money.
Spirituality is about discovering the "oneness" of mankind and
incorporating our creative "difference" - we can all learn from each
other. Pretentiousness is indicative of insecurities that need to be
dealt within our recovery program.
O Lord, let my gratitude be seen in my relationship with others.
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"To
you, O Lord, I called; to the Lord I cried for mercy: 'What gain is
there in my destruction, in my going down to the pit? Will the dust
praise you? Will it proclaim your faithfulness? Hear, O Lord, and be
merciful to me; O Lord, be my help.' You turned my wailing into
dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my
heart may sing to you and not be silent. O Lord my God, I will give
you thanks forever."
Psalm 30:8-12
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Daily Inspiration
It is far better to feel fulfilled than to feel
important because you have taken on too much. Lord, help me eliminate
the unnecessary demands in my life which only cause stress.
We are powerless to change our past, but we can change how we look at
it. Lord, help me to realize that my past has made me a stronger person
and show me that these experiences have taught me valuable life lessons.
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NA Just For Today
A Growth Inventory
"We review our past performance and
our present behavior to see what we want to keep and what we want to
discard."
Basic Text, p. 29
As each day winds to a close, many of
us reflect on the past twenty-four hours and consider how we can live
differently in the future. It's easy for our thoughts to remain trapped
in the mundane: change the oil in the car, keep the living room clean,
or empty the litter box. Sometimes it takes a special effort to jog our
thinking out of the daily rut and onto a higher track.
One simple question can put us on the
high road: What do we think our Higher Power wants for us tomorrow?
Maybe we need to improve our flagging conscious contact with the God of
our understanding. Perhaps we've been uncomfortable in our job or our
relationship, holding on only out of fear. We might be hiding some
troubling defect of character, afraid to share it with our sponsor. The
question is, in what parts of our lives do we really want to grow?
As each day ends, we find it
beneficial to take some moments to spend time with our Higher Power. We
can begin to reflect on what will benefit our program of spiritual
growth most in the coming day. We think about the areas in which we
have grown recently, and target areas that still require work. What
more fitting way to end the day?
Just for today: I will set aside some
time at the end of the day to commune with my Higher Power. I will
review the past day, meditating on what stands between me and my Higher
Power's will for my life.
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
As we learn we always change, and so
our perception. This changed perception then becomes a new Teacher
inside each of us. --Hyemeyohsts Storm
Hyemeyohsts Storm's book, Seven
Arrows, tells the stories of one of the Indian tribes in this country
before most of its members were killed. They believed that change was
important for growth. Change is sometimes frightening. We usually
prefer the familiar, no matter how uncomfortable, over taking a chance
on the unknown.
When fear gets in the way of making
healthy changes, we talk to fear, inviting it along with us on our
course of action. Getting to know fear allows us to ask it for a gift:
the courage to walk with fear by our side and learn from it as we go.
It allows us to learn which fear is blocking our progress and which
fear is healthy--cautioning us against actions that might be harmful.
What fear might I make a friend of
today?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
The world is full of people looking
for spectacular happiness while they snub contentment. --Doug Larson
We are men on a quest. We seek the
serenity of being friendly toward the world and toward ourselves. The
spiritual practices we follow are personal and quiet, not spectacular
or dazzling. We have been part of the throng seeking stimulating highs.
Some of us know the excitement and escape of saving others from their
own troubles or drowning ourselves in activity and work. We may know
the mellowness of a drug or food binge. Perhaps we know the
heart-pounding intensity of shoplifting, gambling, or sexual pursuit.
The way of life suggested by this
simple program changes us deeply if we fully surrender to it. This
spiritual quest changes us slowly over time, and our reward is
contentment. It produces a joy, a feeling of well-being, which is far
richer than the momentary pleasures we sought in the past.
Today, I am grateful for a way of life
which leads me toward a contentment I can rely on.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
. . . if we are suffering illness,
poverty, or misfortune, we think we shall be satisfied on the day it
ceases. But there too, we know it is false, so soon as one has got used
to not suffering, one wants something else. --Simone Weil
Perhaps it's the human condition never
to be satisfied and yet always to think, "If only . . ." However, the
more we look within for wholeness, the greater will be our acceptance
of all things, at all times.
So frequently we hear that happiness
is within. But what does that mean when we may have just lost the job
that supported us and our children? Or when the car won't start and
funds are low? Or when we are feeling really scared and don't know whom
to talk to or where to go? "Happiness is within" is such a grand
platitude at those times.
Nevertheless, our security in any
situation is within, if we but know how to tap it. It is within because
that is where the strength we are blessed with resides, the strength
given us from the power greater than ourselves. "Going within" takes,
first, a decision. Next, it takes stillness, and then, patience. But
peace will come.
We will quit wanting when we have
learned how to turn to our inner strength. We will find serenity rather
than suffering.
I will go within whenever I feel the
rumblings of dissatisfaction today. I will look there for my joy and
sense of well-being and know that divine order is in charge.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Solving Problems
Shame is the first feeling that
strikes me whenever I, or someone I love, has a problem, said one
recovering woman.
Many of us were raised with the belief
that having a problem is something to be ashamed of.
This belief can do many damaging
things to us. It can stop us from identifying our problems; it can make
us feel alienated and inferior when we have, or someone we love has, a
problem. Shame can block us from solving a problem and finding the gift
from the problem.
Problems are a part of life. So are
solutions. People have problems, but we, and our self-esteem, are
separate from our problems.
I've yet to meet a person who didn't
have problems to solve, but I've met many who felt shamed to talk about
the problems they actually had solved!
We are more than our problems. Even if
our problem is our own behavior, the problem is not who we are it's
what we did.
Its okay to have problems. Its okay to
talk about problems at appropriate times, and with safe people. Its
okay to solve problems.
And were okay, even when we have, or
someone we love, has a problem. We don't have to forfeit our personal
power or our self-esteem. We have solved exactly the problems we've
needed to solve to become who we are.
Today, I will let go of my shame about
problems.
I love the person that I am becoming.
--Diane Crosby written by ~ Ruth Fishel
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Journey to the Heart
Don’t Be Afraid of Making Mistakes
Don’t be afraid of making a mistake.
That energy can create more mistakes. It can stop us from enjoying what
we’re doing. It can block us from creating freely and making something
beautiful.
Sometimes it’s necessary and important
to make mistakes, to fumble around and do something poorly so we can
learn to do it better next time. No matter what we’re doing or what
we’re learning, we have to start somewhere. Look back at the past. We
learned by trying, stumbling, falling, getting back up, and trying
again. But we wouldn’t be where we’re at if we hadn’t begun where we
were.
Jump in, begin, and do the task as
best you can. Stop worrying about mistakes, and let yourself do it as
well as you can right now. If you do it wrong or poorly, you can do it
over again. And when you do it in an attitude of love, you won’t fail.
You’ll learn something new about yourself, life, and the task.
Love yourself enough to try. Let
yourself make mistakes. Tell yourself you don’t have to do it
perfectly. Let yourself have fun while you’re learning. Start where you
are, and do what you can. Learning and getting better will happen from
there.
You may not always know the best way
in the beginning, but if you keep trying, you’ll quickly learn to tell
when you’re on track.
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More language of letting go
Tell yourself how long you’ll wait
Use deadlines as a tool.
Sometimes, we find ourselves in an
uncomfortable situation. We don’t know what to do next. We don’t know
how to solve the problem. We don’t know the course that’s going to
unfold. Maybe we’re seeing someone, and the relationship isn’t gaining
momentum, but it’s not time to push the issue. Maybe all we need to do
is give the other person a little space and time to work through his or
her stuff. Maybe the business that we’re pursuing isn’t gaining any
momentum, but things may change course. Part of us, the obsessive part,
says, “I need to know right now.” But the other part of us, the serene,
wise part, says, “Relax. It’s not time. You don’t have all the
information yet.”
Create a deadline, a private one, with
yourself. Tell yourself you’ll give it six weeks or three months or
maybe a year to change course. Then you’ll evaluate the data and make a
decision about what to do next.
Sometiimes, setting a deadline is all
we need to do to help ourselves relax. We know we’re not trapped. We’re
not being a victim. We’re making a conscious decision to let go and let
things unfold.
God, grant me the serenity to not try
to force outcomes and solutions too soon.
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Special Messengers
Reconnecting with Friends
Every person that passes through our
lives makes a contribution to our life stories. There are those who
play large roles and make deep impressions, but sometimes a brief
special appearance before life takes them in another direction creates
a meaningful connection. It is a rare gift when they suddenly reappear
in our lives after a long absence.
Though the world may seem full of more
people than we could ever know, we are often drawn to people with
similar energy, which brings us together time and time again. On first
meeting, the characters in our life stories may seem familiar. We may
know each other from past lives or perhaps we merely recognize the
energy of a kindred spirit. But when fate brings old friends back into
our lives, there is always a reason. They may act as messengers,
reminding us of a part of ourselves we have forgotten to nurture. They
might appear to give us a chance to react in a new way to an old
situation. They may even bring up unresolved issues so that we may
complete them, giving us the chance to move forward on our life path.
Whether old friends, previous romances, or once and future partners,
their reappearance is more than mere chance. They may never know what
they bring into our lives, but the renewed contact is a gift.
If this hasn’t happened to you, maybe
you are meant to initiate contact by seeking out old friends. If old
friends come to mind or into your dreams, use their appearance as an
excuse to get in touch. If an old song or movie reminds you of them,
reach out to share the gift of renewed contact. Wherever you fall in
the circle of connection and reconnection, be sure to look beyond the
surprise of the moment to enjoy the deeper gift that this revelation
brings. Published with permission from Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
“When I was driven to my knees by
alcohol, I was made ready to ask for the gift of faith,” wrote AA
co-founder Bill W. “And all was changed. Never again, my pains and
problems notwithstanding, would I experience my former desolation. I
saw the universe to be lighted by God’s love; I was alone no more.” Am
I convinced that my new life is real and that it will last so long as I
continue doing what The Program and Twelve Steps suggest that I do?
Today I Pray
May God be the ever-present third
party in my relationships with others, whether they are casual or
involve a deep emotional commitment. May I be aware that if there is
real friendship or love between human beings, God’s spirit is always
present. May I feel His spirit in all my human relationships.
Today I Will Remember
God is The Divine Third.
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One More Day
The thought of suicide is a great
consolation: by means of it one gets successfully through many a bad
night.
– Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
Many of us pretend that the thought of
suicide has never crossed our minds, but our thoughts may occasionally
become morbid — and we may be frightened.
These thoughts may seem harmful, but
they may actually be helpful. Thoughts of suicide can force us to
recognize how much we value living.
As we contemplate the moment at which
our life would end, we struggle and notice our desire for life,
although we may no understand why we have this desire. What’s important
is that we gave ourselves the choice of death and did not choose it. As
we feel the joy of that decision we can think more of ourselves and of
our worth. We really do want to live and are strong enough to know that
suicide is not an acceptable solution to our problems
I feel joy from knowing I can choose
life.
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Food For Thought
Resentments
When we hang on to resentments, we poison ourselves. As compulsive
overeaters, we cannot afford resentment, since it exacerbates our
disease. If we do not get rid of our anger and bitterness, we will
suffer more than anyone. Seeking revenge will harm ourselves in the
long run.
Many of us have carried around old grudges, which caused us to reach
for food when we thought about them. We don't need the food and we
don't need the grudges, either. When we give away the resentments, we
are that much lighter in body and in spirit. Now that we have found OA,
we have a way to get rid of the animosity and indignation, which has
been poisoning our system.
Taking inventory and making amends is an essential part of burying
resentments. We need to first be consciously aware of them before we
can give them away. These steps usually need to be taken again and
again as negative material threatens our physical, emotional, and
spiritual well-being.
Take away my resentments, Lord.
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One Day At A Time
~ DENIAL ~
The ability to delude yourself
may be an important survival tool.
Jane Wagner
I had many delusions when I entered
the Twelve Step program. One by one they have shattered, but only when
I was able to handle the truth.
Still, I have looked back at the
things I was in denial about during my sickness, and I blamed myself
for not seeing the truth sooner, for not seeking recovery sooner. On
the good days, which are becoming more and more common for me, I see
that my denial was indeed a survival tool.
I spent 33 years with eating disorders
without ever consciously knowing about them. Subconsciously, I was very
interested in books and movies about anorexia and bulimia, and was
fascinated to learn about compulsive overeating. I can only believe I
was unknowingly preparing myself for the day when I would be able to
face my addiction and still survive.
One day at a time...
I will remind myself that many things
are in our lives for a reason, even denial.
~ Rhonda H. ~
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
THE FACT IS THAT MOST ALCOHOLICS, FOR
REASONS YET OBSCURE, HAVE LOST THE POWER OF CHOICE IN DRINK. OUR
SO-CALLED WILL POWER BECOMES PRACTICALLY NONEXISTENT. WE ARE UNABLE, AT
CERTAIN TIMES, TO BRING INTO OUR CONSCIOUSNESS WITH SUFFICIENT FORCE
THE MEMORY OF THE SUFFERING AND HUMILIATION OF EVEN A WEEK OR A MONTH
AGO. WE ARE WITHOUT DEFENSE AGAINST THE FIRST DRINK. - Pg. 24 - There
Is A Solution
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
To want a fix, pill, drink, smoke, or
snort is not bad, it is a perfectly normal state of being for an
addict. But each hour we stay clean eventually makes a day. Each day
brings us closer to health of body, mind, and spirit. Eventually
'craving' our chemicals will not be normal, but a thing of our diseased
past.
Let me know that the state of craving
my drug of choice will one day be replaced with feeling my true
emotions.
My Reservoir of Peace
There is nothing in my day that is
more important than my serenity. It is my responsibility to maintain
and attend to it. Whatever I do in the world, my serenity comes first.
I owe it to no one. I will pay attention today to the myriad of ways in
which I am thrown off balance and I will take a moment to center
myself, to breathe, to remember that when I can calm my body, mind and
spirit, I interact differently the people, places and things of my day.
I will work daily to build my serenity muscles so that I stay strong
and flexible. Serenity isn't something that I can just grab and have. I
need to nourish it through quiet and reflection and come back to it
what I lose it. My serenity is mine to look after. I give myself the
gift of my own serenity today and every day.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
The next time a newcomer tells you,
'The program isn't working for me,' agree with them. They are right.
Then explain to them that the only people who stay clean and sober are
the ones who work the program, not the ones who wait for the program to
work for them.
I must do the work or it doesn't get
done.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
If you suffer from low self-esteem, do
estimable things.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
I love the person that I am becoming.
- Diane Crosby
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
I don't think it's a coincidence that
the word 'spirit' means God and it means alcohol. - Cubby S.
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AA Thought for the Day
May 19
Prayer
Prayer has become a habit with me.
Anytime is the time for prayer:
in the street, in the factory, sitting
still, walking about, or actively engaged upon some task.
I must always bear in mind that, like
a good parent, God often says no.
And the simplest prayer is "God, thank
you, thank you."
I have so much to be thankful for, and
sobriety tops the list.
- Thank You For Sharing, p. 192
Thought to Ponder . . .
God never answers a question that
starts with "why."
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A S A P = Always Say A Prayer.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Attitudes
"We find that our old attitudes toward
our instincts
need to undergo drastic revisions.
Our desires for emotional security and
wealth,
for personal prestige and power,
for romance, and for family
satisfactions -
all these have to be tempered and
redirected.
If we place instincts first,
we have got the cart before the horse;
we shall be pulled backward into
disillusionment.
But when we are willing to place
spiritual growth first -
then and only then do we have a real
chance."
Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p.
114
Thought to Consider . . .
I have learned that my actions are far
more important than my thoughts.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
EGO
Easing God Out
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Open
From "A Vision for You":
"But life among Alcoholics Anonymous
is more than attending gatherings and visiting hospitals. Cleaning up
old
scrapes, helping to settle family
differences, explaining the disinherited son to his irate parents,
lending money and
securing jobs for each other, when
justified these are everyday occurrences. No one is too discredited or
has sunk too
low to be welcomed cordially if he
means business. Social distinctions, petty rivalries and jealousies
these are laughed
out of countenance. Being wrecked in
the same vessel, being restored and united under one God, with hearts
and
minds attuned to the welfare of
others, the things which matter so much to some people no longer
signify much to
them. How could they?"
2001 AAWS, Inc., Fourth Edition;
Alcoholics Anonymous, pg. 161
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"Each day I feel myself growing in
recovery. I can honestly say I'm happier now than ever before in my
adult life."
Palmdale, Calif., July 1992
"An Unexpected Shot at Life,"
AA Grapevine
~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N' Twelve
Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"But my friend sat before me, and he
made the pointblank declaration
that God had done for him what he
could not do for himself. His
human will had failed. Doctors had
pronounced him incurable.
Society was about to lock him up. Like
myself, he had admitted
complete defeat. Then he had, in
effect, been raised from the dead,
suddenly taken from the scrap heap to
a level of life better than
the best he had ever known!"
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
Bill's Story, pg. 11~
3rd Step Prayer:
"God, I offer myself to Thee—to build
with me and to do with
me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the
bondage of self, that I may better
do Thy will. Take away my
difficulties, that victory over them may
bear witness to those I would help of
Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy
Way of life. May I do Thy will always!"
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
How It Works, pg. 63~
So, practicing these Steps, we had a
spiritual awakening about which finally there was no question.
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions,
p. 109
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
Basis of All Humility
For just so long as we were convinced
that we could live exclusively by our own individual strength and
intelligence, for
just that long was a working faith in
a Higher Power impossible.
This was true even when we believed
that God existed. We could actually have earnest religious beliefs
which
remained barren because we were still
trying to play God ourselves. As long as we placed self-reliance first,
a genuine
reliance upon a Higher Power was out
of the question.
That basic ingredient of all humility,
a desire to seek and do God's will, was missing. TWELVE AND TWELVE, P.
72
Prayer For The Day: Lord our God, we thank you that we have
often felt you close to us. We thank you that you are near us and that
you strengthen the weak. Remember us and give each one the help he
needs to be true to his calling. Remember all mankind and grant that we
may go forward in spirit and in truth. Give new light to the peoples
who are still in great darkness. Let your kingdom and your reign be
revealed and your name at last be honored by all. Amen.