HELPING OTHERS
"Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant
thought of others and how we may help meet their needs.
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 20
Self-centeredness was my problem. All my life people had been doing
things for me and I not only expected it, but I was ungrateful and
resentful they didn't do more. Why should I help others, when they
were supposed to help me? If others had troubles, didn't they deserve
them? I was filled with self-pity, anger and resentment. Then I
learned that by helping others, with no thought of return, I could
overcome this obsession with selfishness, and if I understood humility,
I would know peace and serenity. No longer do I need to drink.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
A.A. is like a dike, holding back the ocean of liquor. If we take one
glass of liquor, it is like making a small hole in the dike and once
such a
hole has been made, the whole ocean of alcohol may rush in upon us.
By practicing the A.A. principles we keep the dike strong and in
repair. We spot any weakness or crack in that dike and make the
necessary repairs before any damage is done. Outside the dike is the
whole ocean of alcohol, waiting to engulf us again in despair. Am I
keeping the dike strong?
Meditation For The Day
Keep as close as you can to the Higher Power. Try to think, act, live
as though you were always in God's presence. Keeping close to a
Power greater than yourself is the solution to most of the earth's
problems. Try to practice the presence of God in the things you think
and do. That is the secret of personal power. It is the thing that
influences the lives of others for good. Abide in the Lord and rejoice
in
His love. Keep close to the Divine Spirit in the universe. Keep God
close behind your thoughts.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may keep close to the Mind of God. I pray that I may live
with Him in my heart and mind.
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As Bill Sees It
Virtue and
Self-Deception, p. 205
I used to take comfort from an exaggerated belief in my own honesty.
My New England kinfolk had taught me the sanctity of all business
commitments and contracts, saying, "A man's word is his bond." After
this rigorous conditioning, business honesty always came easy; I never
flim-flammed anyone.
However, this small fragment of readily won virtue did produce some
interesting liabilities. I never failed to whip up a fine contempt for
those of my fellow Wall Streeters who were prone to shortchange
their customers. This was arrogant enough, but the ensuring
self-deception proved even worse.
My prized business honesty was presently converted into a
comfortable cloak under which I could hide the many serious flaws
that beset other departments of my life. Being certain of this one
virtue, it was easy to conclude that I had them all. For years on end,
this prevented me from taking a good look at myself.
Grapevine, August 1961
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Walk In Dry Places
Overcoming A Bad Disposition
Temperament
People with bad dispositions, like people with drinking problems, do
not recognize how difficult they are. They accept their bad disposition
as normal. Some people even declare proudly that they're in a bad mood
until they've been awake several hours or had three cups of coffee.
We do not have to put up with a BAD DISPOSITION. If we find ourselves
touchy or grumpy at times, we should immediately release this to our
Higher Power. There is a better pattern of thought and feeling to
replace anything that comes across to others as a bad disposition.
It's surprising to learn that we don't have to live with a bad
disposition. What's even more surprising is that we'll also be happier
and more relaxed without it.
A bad disposition, we learn, is just so much unnecessary baggage we
don't have to carry.
I'll be relaxed and friendly at all times today. I have neither a
need nor an excuse for a bad disposition.
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Keep It Simple
The work of adult life is not easy.---Gail Sheehy
We used to look for a easier, softer way. We tried to take care of
ourselves by staying clear of hard task. The result? We haven't known
what the work of adult life is.
The work of adult life is this: to become spiritually centered. And to
do
this, we work at getting rid of our self-will. There will be many great
rewards for doing this. We will wake up spiritually. We will connect
with
those we love. The result? We will receive self-love to replace
self-will. Our work will not be easy, but it will be rewarding.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me to give all to my
recovery program. Then help me to
be open to the rewards this will bring.
Action for the Day: I will list the hard parts of my program.
Then I'll talk about them with
my sponsor, friends, family, and Higher Power.
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Each Day a New Beginning
... The idea has gained currency that women have often been handicapped
not only by a fear of failure--not unknown to men either, but by a fear
of success as well. --Sonya Rudikoff
It was our practice, before coming to this program, to eat, drink, and
smoke our fears away. What we came to realize, profoundly, was that the
fears couldn't be escaped even while high. This program is helping us
to understand that fears are human, normal and survivable when we let
God and our friends in the program lend a helping hand.
Drugs and alcohol distorted our perceptions. Our fears, whether large
or small, were distorted. And we still distort those fears, on
occasion, because we move away from the spiritual reality of our lives.
Remember, we are confronted with no situation too big to handle, no
experience for which we are unprepared, if we but turn to that greater
power that the program offers us.
We cannot fail in whatever we try today. The outcome of any task
attempted is just as it should be. And however we succeed today, we
will be shown the steps, at the right time, to make use of that success.
I shall not fear failure or success. I am not alone in experiencing
either; both are stepping-stones on my life's journey.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Chapter
7 - WORKING WITH OTHERS
Your prospect may belong to a religious denomination. His religious
education and training may be far superior to yours. In that case he is
going to wonder how you can add anything to what he already knows. But
he well be curious to learn why his own convictions have not worked and
why yours seem to work so well. He may be an example of the truth that
faith alone is insufficient. To be vital, faith must be accompanied by
self sacrifice and unselfish, constructive action. Let him see that you
are not there to instruct him in religion. Admit that he probably knows
more about it than you do, but call to his attention the fact that
however deep his faith and knowledge, he could not have applied it or
he would not drink, Perhaps your story will help him see where he has
failed to practice the very precepts he knows so well. We represent no
particular faith or denomination. We are dealing only with general
principles common to most denominations.
pp. 93-94
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
ACCEPTANCE WAS THE ANSWER - The physician
wasn't hooked, he thought--he just prescribed drugs medically indicated
for his many ailments. Acceptance was his key to liberation.
It was hard to judge the right
amount. One night I had to put myself back to sleep three times,
and then I finally decided to give it up. But to do so, I had to
get all the stuff out of the house and out of my possession. In
the end I had to do the same with alcohol and all pills. I wasn't
able to quit chemicals as long as they were in the house. If they
were around, I always found a need for them--especially the
pills. I never in my life took a tranquilizer, sedative, or pep
pill because I was a pill head. I always took it because I had
the symptom that only that pill would relieve. Therefore, every
pill was medically indicated at the time it was taken. For me,
pills don't produce the desire to swallow a pill; they produce the
symptoms that require that the pill be taken for relief. As a
physician and pharmacist who had grown up in a drugstore-home, I had a
pill for every ill, and I was sick a lot.
p. 411
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Tradition
Three - "The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop
drinking."
At length the time came for him to speak in a meeting. We shivered, for
we knew what was coming. He paid a fine tribute to the Fellowship; he
told how his family had been reunited; he extolled the virtue of
honesty; he recalled the joys of Twelfth Step work; and then he lowered
the boom. Cried Ed, "I can't stand this God stuff! It's a lot of
malarkey for weak folks. This group doesn't need it, and I won't have
it! To he!! with it!"
A great wave of outraged resentment engulfed the meeting, sweeping
every member to a single resolve: "Out he goes!"
p. 143
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"Our ability to identify a teacher and to learn is directly related to
how open-minded we are and the attitude with which we approach
everyone and everything that comes our way."
--Bonnie Friedman
"When God measures a man, he puts the tape around the heart
instead of the head."
--anonymous
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
--Eleanor Roosevelt
"The remarkable thing we have is a choice every day regarding the
attitude we will embrace for that day. "
--Charles Swindoll
"Just when I found out the meaning of life, they changed it!"
--George Carlin
Don't talk unless you can improve the silence.
--Laurence Couglin
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
LONELINESS
"This great misfortune -- to be
incapable of solitude."
--Jean de la Bruyere
Today I am able to live with my loneliness. I know the difference
between being "alone" and being "lonely" -- and even in sobriety I
experience loneliness. But today I can live with it.
When I was drinking, I had an overwhelming feeling of being lost and
isolated; today it is tolerable. I can live with it. It is part of being
"imperfect". I am not God.
The reality of spirituality demands that I do not escape into a fantasy
that denies my feelings of loneliness. It is part of my journey towards
God. I will never appreciate perfect happiness until I rest in God. This
I accept. In sobriety I have many days of happiness and moments of
joy --- but I am, at times, lonely -- with feelings of being lost.
Today I
can accept this -- and talk about it.
I accept that part of me will be forever lost until I rest in God.
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Be on
your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong.
1 Corinthians 16:13
"Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just
as in Christ God forgave you."
Ephesians 4:32
"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat
or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more
important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look
at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns,
and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more
valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to
his life?"
Matthew 6:25
For He delivered us from the domain of darkness, and transferred
us to the kingdom of His beloved Son.
Colossians 1:13
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Daily Inspiration
The things in life that mean the most have no price tag. Lord, thank
you for the moments that I am able to spend with my family and friends.
If your family is a mess, you are not a success. Lord, bless me with
the wisdom and strength to bring unity and peace to my family.
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NA Just For Today
The Masks Have To Go
"... we covered low self-esteem by
hiding behind phony images that we hoped would fool people. The masks
have to go"
Basic Text, p.32
Over-sensitivity, insecurity, and lack
of identity are often associated with active addiction. Many of us
carry these with us into recovery; our fears of inadequacy, rejection,
and lack of direction do not disappear overnight. Many of us have
images, false personalities we have constructed either to protect
ourselves or please others. Some of us use masks because we're not sure
who we really are. Sometimes we think that these images, built to
protect us while using, might also protect us in recovery.
We use false fronts to hide our true
personality, to disguise our lack of self-esteem. These masks hide us
from others and also from our own true selves. By living a lie, we are
saying that we cannot live with the truth about ourselves. The more we
hide our real selves, the more we damage our self-esteem.
One of the miracles of recovery is the
recognition of ourselves, complete with assets and liabilities. Self
esteem begins with this recognition. Despite our fear of becoming
vulnerable, we need to be willing to let go of our disguises. We need
to be free of our masks and free to trust ourselves.
Just for today: I will let go of my
masks and allow my self esteem to grow.
pg. 214
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You are reading from the book Today's Gift.
I had crossed the line. I was free:
but there was no one to welcome me to the land of freedom. I was a
stranger in a strange land. --Harriet Tubman
Harriet Tubman was a Black woman who
devoted her life to helping slaves escapes their bondage. In her youth,
she had been hit on the head so she suffered dizzy spells for the rest
of her life. In spite of this, and at great risk to her own life, she
guided many slaves on the Underground Railroad to freedom.
Freedom from slavery is different
today but just as necessary. It may mean freedom from being a slave to
what others think of us, freedom from eating more than is healthy for
us, freedom from jealousy, and freedom from trying to force others to
do what we want them to do.
We are free to be the very best
persons we can be. Our own freedom can be even more fulfilling when we
welcome others enthusiastically into that land of freedom by allowing
them the room to be themselves without fear of judgment. In this way,
by freeing ourselves, we free one another.
How can I free myself today?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
Many things are lost for want of
asking. --English proverb
It's a principle of this program that
we grow, in part, by learning to ask for what we need. Perhaps today we
are struggling with a problem that could be eased if we talked to
another man in the program. We could call him on the phone and just ask
him if he has a few minutes to talk. Maybe we're wondering about a
physical pain. Maybe we feel strange about something we said and would
like to ask someone's opinion.
Mistaken notions about masculinity get
in the way of recovery when we refuse to ask for help. We think we
should know the answers and be self-sufficient. Maybe we feel stupid if
we have to ask. Those notions drop by the wayside as we get healthier
and learn the rewards of connecting with others to satisfy our mutual
needs. No longer does false pride have to keep us isolated and
struggling alone.
Today, I will notice what I need and
practice asking for help.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
... The idea has gained currency that
women have often been handicapped not only by a fear of failure--not
unknown to men either, but by a fear of success as well. --Sonya
Rudikoff
It was our practice, before coming to
this program, to eat, drink, and smoke our fears away. What we came to
realize, profoundly, was that the fears couldn't be escaped even while
high. This program is helping us to understand that fears are human,
normal and survivable when we let God and our friends in the program
lend a helping hand.
Drugs and alcohol distorted our
perceptions. Our fears, whether large or small, were distorted. And we
still distort those fears, on occasion, because we move away from the
spiritual reality of our lives. Remember, we are confronted with no
situation too big to handle, no experience for which we are unprepared,
if we but turn to that greater power that the program offers us.
We cannot fail in whatever we try
today. The outcome of any task attempted is just as it should be. And
however we succeed today, we will be shown the steps, at the right
time, to make use of that success.
I shall not fear failure or success. I
am not alone in experiencing either; both are stepping-stones on my
life's journey.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Denial
Denial is a powerful tool. Never
underestimate its ability to cloud your vision.
Be aware that, for many reasons, we
have become experts at using this tool to make reality more tolerable.
We have learned well how to stop the pain caused by reality - not by
changing our circumstances, but by pretending our circumstances are
something other than what they are.
Do not be too hard on yourself. While
one part of you was busy creating a fantasy reality, the other part
went to work on accepting the truth.
Now, it is time to find courage. Face
the truth. Let it sink gently in.
When we can do that, we will be moved
forward.
God, give me the courage and strength
to see clearly.
Today I am going to spend more time
looking for all the positive things about myself. Today I recognize
myself and acknowledge myself as a terrific human being. --Ruth Fishel
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Journey To The Heart
Joy Is the Way
The woman was in her fifties, maybe
sixties. She had retired from the big city and was now working as a
waitress in Mary’s Restaurant, a small cafe in a small Montana town.
She looked as if she lived alone. She looked as if she had been through
her share of disappointments, joys, and awakenings. She brought me a
plate of bacon and eggs, set them down, and gave me a radiant smile.
“It’s a beautiful day,” she said.
“Yes it is,” I said. I looked at her.
“Are you happy to be here?”
She thought for a moment, then
replied. “Yes,” she said with joy in her voice. “Yes, I am.”
Joy is the way. Joy in the morning.
Joy throughout the day. Joy at twilight. Joy in our dreams, waking and
sleeping. For so long we believed that our joy depended on specific
outward circumstances, on a particular situation being a certain way,
or on the presence or behavior of a particular person. While getting
what we want and being with those we love can add to our joy, we have
learned another kind of joy, a deeper kind of joy. A joy that abides
and carries us through.
Joy doesn’t come from outside,
although the energies of the universe and universal love can add to our
joy and fill our wellspring. Joy comes from doing the Divine will each
moment. Joy comes from living in harmony with ourselves each moment of
each day. Joy is a choice that comes from accepting and living fully
each moment of our lives, knowing that each day and each event is
important.
Joy comes from trusting each moment.
That’s the secret of joy. Receive it now, then pass it on with a smile
and a kind word to all who come along your path.
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More Language Of Letting Go
Let go of fear
Sometimes, we say we want to go to the
next level in our lives– in work, in play, or in love. But it feels
like the door is shut. Fear can disguise itself behind many different
faces: we want to do it our way; we’re not interested; or it’s just not
time. What we’re coming up against isn’t a closed door, it’s the fear
we’re repressing and holding inside.
If you’re confused about why you’re
not moving forward naturally in some area of your life, take a closer
look. See if you’ve got some hidden fears that might be holding you
back. If you’re blocked and trying to move forward, remember to feel
and release your fear first. Then see if that wasn’t just the key you
needed to unlock and open that door.
God, help me see, feel, and release my
fears about moving forward in my life.
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In God’s Care
Toleration is the greatest gift of the
mind.
~~Helen Keller
How difficult it is still to simply
enjoy the gifts of the moment and not obsessively try to control the
people and circumstances in our life. Sometimes we can persuade others
to go along with our wishes. Perhaps we can positively influence a
tense situation by our involvement in the solution. But we can’t
ultimately control anyone or anything, only the choices we make about
ourselves. We can decide the attitude we will cultivate; we can decide
the behavior we will exhibit; we can decide to let God participate in
our life.
Our willingness to follow God’s will
assures us greater peace. Work, relationships, day-to-day struggles
become less stressful when we’ve let God in. By trusting guidance from
a friend, reading a meditation, or perhaps just by being still, we’ll
discover the peace of letting go and be enriched by the serenity that
follows.
I will let others live the way they
choose. Today I will live the way that pleases me – and God.
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Day By Day
Sharing a common goal
Since we’re going the same way, let’s
go together. We may have some differences, but let’s work them out and
respect each other’s opinions. Since our goal is the same, you help me
and I’ll help you.
But let’s never withhold love as a
weapon against one another. Since we are held together by a critical
common solution, let’s not cause one another any suffering.
Am I learning to emphasize our common
purpose?
Higher Power, help me see that what
we share in the fellowship is more important than what separates us.
Today I will strengthen our common
cause by…
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Food for Thought
Living Is a Privilege
When we were overeating, how often did
we drag ourselves out of bed wondering how we were going to make it
through the day? Many of us felt that life was treating us unfairly,
and we blamed those around us for our misery. We may have thought we
believed in a Power greater than ourselves, but we were unable to apply
the belief so that it made a difference in the way we were living.
Trying to manage our own life pushed us further and further into
despair.
The OA program shows us how to commit
our will and our life to the management of God. We stop trying to “go
it alone,” and we listen for His direction. By the grace of our Higher
Power, we abstain from compulsive overeating one day at a time, and we
walk a new way of humility and obedience.
Little by little, we recover in mind
and body, and we no longer feel crushed by an uncaring fate. We accept
each day as a gift from the hand of God, and we live it to the best of
our ability.
Thank You for the privilege of living
and abstaining today.
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Cleansing Your Power Center
Trusting Your Gut by Madisyn Taylor
Gut feelings earn their name from the
place in the body where they make themselves known. A pang in your gut
when you may be doing the wrong thing, or a vibrant zing when your body
approves, can guide you reliably at times when logic fails. Sometimes,
when logic prevails, we ignore our gut and live to regret it,
understanding later that a rational approach is only one way of
determining what is going on in a situation and how we should react.
Our gut resides in the neighborhood of
our solar plexus and the third chakra just above your belly button.
When it is functioning well, we can trust its guidance and adjust our
actions accordingly. Many of us have a tendency to hold in this area of
our bodies. We may take shallow breaths that never reach this vital
nexus that is the source of our empowerment. It is in this place that
we find the courage to act, to reach out into the world and create
change. When our power center is out of balance, we are timid and out
of sync, wishing we had said something we were only able to phrase
later when we were alone; wishing we had acted on an opportunity we
didn’t see until it was past.
In order to utilize your power center,
you may want to focus your attention on it more regularly and make time
to care for it. You can begin right now by taking a deep breath into
your belly. On the exhale, pull your navel in toward your spine so as
to empty out completely before taking another deep breath into your
belly. When you empty completely, you release stagnant energy and
create more space to be filled with fresh, nourishing breath. The more
you practice this simple, cleansing exercise, the more clear and
communicative your gut feelings will be and the more comfortable you
will feel acting on them. Published with permission from Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
How, exactly, can a p4erson turn his
own will and his own life over to the care of a Power greater than
himself? All that’s needed is a beginning, no matter how small. The
minute we put the key of willingness in the lock, the latch springs
open. Then the door itself starts to open, perhaps even so slightly; in
time we find that we can always open it wider. Self-will may slam the
door shut again, and it often does. But the door can always be
reopened, time and time again if necessary, so long as we use our key
of willingness. Have I reaffirmed my decision to turn my will and my
life over to the care of God as I understand Him?
Today I Pray
May I reaffirm my decision to turn my
will and my life over to a Higher Power. May my faith be staunch enough
to keep me knowing that there is, indeed, a power greater than I am.
May I avail myself of that Power simply by being willing to “walk
humbly with my Lord.”
Today I Will Remember
Self-will minus self equals will.
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One More Day
Keep your fears to yourself but share
your courage with others.
– Robert Louis Stevenson
Each of us harbors secret fears. “how
will I manage?” “Can I make it through today?” “Will my family still
love me if my behavior has been inappropriate?”
We learn, rather early in the game,
that a defeatist attitude drives our friends away after a period of
time. Therefore, it’s often up to us to deal with our own fears. We do
our best to ease ourselves through each crisis — and at times we will
need additional help — but by and large we can do it. It isn’t so much
that we’re overly independent or angry. It’s that we need to help our
loved ones learn how to cope with our illness, so we keep our fears
from becoming irrational as best we can. And that often passes for
courage.
I will put my fears into proper
perspective because this helps me — and my loved ones.
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One Day At A Time
IDENTITY
“Resolve to be thyself:
And know that he who finds himself
loses his misery.”
Matthew Arnold
Life before recovery was a theatrical
production in which I played all parts to all audiences. I gave a
performance which aimed to satisfy everyone's requirements but my own.
I proffered whatever I felt others wanted, giving no thought to my own
needs. Some may say that's a worthy attitude, but it was influenced by
a desire to be accepted -- not for who I am -- but for whom I thought
everyone wanted me to be. I used my performance to control situations
and to avoid any nasty surprises. I furnished more than I could afford,
often lavishing what wasn't mine to give. Frequently I didn't feel that
I had gained the acceptance I so fervently sought, and this yielded
feelings of incompetence.
To be everything to all people took
time and sapped considerable quantities of energy physically,
spiritually and emotionally. Often I found I couldn't keep up with this
self-inflicted regimen of people-pleasing. I began to resent the
performance and gained no satisfaction from the results.
Through my recovery I realized that I
had never been happy with the results of my role-playing. It had been a
compulsion to seek the approval from others because I couldn't grant
myself the authorization to be me. The only person I can be is me. The
only person I have a right to be is me.
One day at a time ...
I give myself permission to be who I
truly am: ME!
~ Sue G.
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
IV. At all responsible levels, we
ought to maintain a traditional 'Right of Participation,' allowing a
voting representation in reasonable proportion to the responsibility
that each must discharge.
V. Throughout our structure, a
traditional 'Right of Appeal' ought to prevail, so that minority
opinion will be heard and personal grievances receive careful
consideration.
VI.The Conference recognizes that the
chief initiative and active responsibility in most world service
matters should be exercised by the trustee members of the Conference
acting as the General Service Board. - Pg. 574 - 4th. Edition -
Appendices - VII - The Twelve Concepts (Short Form)
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Our sobriety grows out of an awareness
of and response to a spiritual program. Nothing works better for more
people. To try other means is probably not in our best interests.
May I accept the spiritual foundation
of my recovery.
Forgiving and Moving On
As I work through the blocks in the
way of my own serenity I find that I consider forgiveness as a way to
release the residue of resentment and pain that live inside me from
unresolved issues from the past. As I put more and more energy into my
own personal growth, I find that I value my own peace of mind more than
holding onto anger and hurt. I find I want to lay the sword down. It
becomes too heavy in my hand, the weight of carrying it encumbers my
own freedom. Today, the present I will give myself is forgiveness.
I am ready to consider forgiveness
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
Resentment is from the Latin, meaning
to 'feel again.' Rather than feeling that again, think of how it could
have been worse, then be grateful it isn't. Once you get to the
grateful part, you can't be resentful.
I cannot be grateful and resentful at
the same time; I can't serve two masters.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
If you marry your past, you must
divorce your future.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I am going to spend more time
looking for all the positive things about myself. Today I recognize
myself and acknowledge myself as a terrific human being.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
A relationship to me is what I have to
do after we've had sex rather than say: 'You know this was just a
sexual thing, I don't want to get involved.' I'd rather drag it out for
four or five years. - Charlie C.
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AA Thought for the Day
July 24
Helping Others
We realize now that we were
excessively self-centered,
chiefly concerned about our feelings,
our problems, other people's reactions to us,
and our own past and future.
Therefore, trying to get into
communication with and help other people is a recovery measure for us,
because it helps take us out of
ourselves.
Trying to heal ourselves by helping
others works, even when it is an insincere gesture.
Try it some time.
- Living Sober, p. 85
Thought to Ponder . . .
Trust God. Clean house. Help others.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
E S H = Experience, Strength and Hope.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Self-will
"The first requirement is that we be
convinced
that any life run on self-will can
hardly be a success.
On that basis we are almost always
in collision with something or
somebody,
even though our motives are good.
Most people try to live by
self-propulsion.
Each person is like an actor who wants
to run the whole show;
is forever trying to arrange the
lights, the ballet,
the scenery and the rest of the
players in his own way.
If his arrangements would only stay
put,
if only people would do as he wished,
the show would be great.
Everybody, including himself, would be
pleased.
Life would be wonderful."
1976AAWS, Alcoholics Anonymous, pp.
60-1
Thought to Consider . . .
It's not making a mistake that will
kill me.
It's defending it that does the damage.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
N U T S = Not Using The Steps
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Orderly Transfer
From: "When AA Came of Age"
The full attendance of thousands of
A.A.s at St. Louis, representing an accurate cross-section of A.A.
opinion, now sat
in convention before us. On the
auditorium stage was the Service Conference of Alcoholics Anonymous,
about a
hundred men and women who were the
named and chosen representatives of the whole fellowship. The
Conference,
having completed the fifth year of its
experimental period with a record of high success, was no longer an
experiment.
It was the instrument destined to
become the heart of A.A.'s Third Legacy of Service and the whole of
A.A.'s
conscience, world-wide.
In the simple ceremony that followed,
I offered a resolution to the effect that our society should now take
its affairs into
its own hands and that its Conference
ought to become the permanent successor to the founders of Alcoholics
Anonymous.
Amid a roar of acclamation from the
floor, the Convention carried that resolution. There was silence, and
then we
heard chairman Smith offer the
resolution to the Conference for its confirmation. A simple show of
hands expressed
the consent of the Conference and
marked the exact moment when A.A. came of age. It was four o'clock.
[July 3, 1955]
1985, AAWS, Inc., Alcoholics Anonymous
Comes of Age, page 47
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"Sobriety is a constant process of
uncovering, discovering, and discarding."
Craig, Colorado, January 1997
"Paying the Price for Improvement,"
Emotional Sobriety II
*~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N'
Twelve Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"Actually we were fooling ourselves,
for deep down in every man,
woman, and child, is the fundamental
idea of God. It may be obscured
by calamity, by pomp, by worship of
other things, but in some form or
other it is there. For faith in a
Power greater than ourselves, and
miraculous demonstrations of that
power in human lives, are facts as
old as man himself."
Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd Edition, We
Agnostics, pg. 55
"We have three little mottoes which
are apropos.
Here they are:
First Things First
Live and Let Live
Easy Does It."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
The Family Afterward, pg. 135~
"An illness of this sort—and we have
come to believe it an
illness—involves those about us in a
way no other human sickness can.
If a person has cancer all are sorry
for him and no one is angry or
hurt. But not so with the alcoholic
illness, for with it there goes
annihilation of all the things worth
while in life."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
There Is A Solution, pg. 18~
“If we are sorry for what we have
done, and have the honest desire to let God take us to better things,
we believe we
will be forgiven and will have learned
our lesson.”
-Alcoholics Anonymous p. 70
“If we ask, God will certainly forgive
our derelictions.”
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions p.
65
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
I used to take comfort from an
exaggerated belief in my own honesty. My New England kinfolk had taught
me the sanctity of all business commitments and contracts, saying, 'A
man's word is his bond.' After this rigorous conditioning, business
honesty always came easy; I never flim-flammed anyone.
However, this small fragment of
readily won virtue did produce some interesting liabilities. 1 never
failed to whip up a fine contempt for those of my fellow Wall Streeters
who were prone to shortchange their customers. This was arrogant
enough, but the ensuing self-deception proved even worse.
My prized business honesty was
presently converted into a comfortable cloak under which I could hide
the many serious flaws that beset other departments of my life. Being
certain of this one virtue, it was easy to conclude that I had them
all. For years on end, this prevented me from taking a good look at
myself.
Prayer for the Day: "Mistakes aren't tragedies. But please,
Higher Power, help me learn from them!"