I CHOOSE ANONYMITY
We are sure that humility, expressed by anonymity, is the
greatest safeguard that Alcoholics Anonymous can ever have.
12 & 12, p.187
Since there are no rules in A.A. I place myself where I want to be,
and so I choose anonymity. I want my God to use me, humbly, as
one of His tools in this program. Sacrifice is the art of giving of
myself freely, allowing humility to replace my ego. With sobriety,
I suppress that urge to cry out to the world, "I am a member of
A.A." and I experience inner joy and peace. I let people see the
changes in me and hope they will ask what happened to me. I place
the principles of spirituality ahead of judging, fault-finding, and
criticism. I want love and caring in my group, so I can grow.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
"We cannot get along without prayer and meditation. On
awakening, let us think about the 24 hours ahead. We consider our
plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God to direct our
thinking. Our thought lives will be placed on a much higher plane
when we start the day with prayer and meditation. We conclude
this period of meditation with a prayer that we will be shown
through the day what our next step is to be. The basis of all our
prayers is: Thy will be done in me and through me today." Am I
sincere in my desire to do God's will today?
Meditation For The Day
Breathe in the inspiration of goodness and truth. It is the spirit of
honesty, purity, unselfishness, and love. It is readily available if we
are willing to accept it wholeheartedly. God has given us two things
– His spirit and the power of choice – to accept or not, as we will.
We have the gift of free will. When we choose the path of
selfishness and greed and pride, we are refusing to accept God's
spirit. When we choose the path of love and service, we accept
God's spirit and it flows into us and makes all things new.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may choose the right way. I pray that I may try to
follow it to the end.
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As Bill Sees It
Hard On
Ourselves, Considerate Of Others, p. 240
We cannot disclose anything to our wives or our parents which will
hurt them and make them unhappy. We have no right to save our own
skins at their expense.
Such damaging parts of our story we tell to someone else who will
understand, yet be unaffected. The rule is, we must be hard on
ourselves, but always considerate of others.
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Good judgment will suggest that we ought to take our time in making
amends to our families. It may be unwise at first to rehash certain
harrowing episodes. While we may be quite willing to reveal the very
worst, we must be sure to remember that we cannot buy our own
peace of mind at the expense of others.
1. Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 74
2. 12 & 12, p. 84
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Walk In Dry Places
Giving The Right Support
Carrying the Message
We're surrounded by people who need help-financial and otherwise.
It is sometimes tempting to believe that we can and should reach out to
improve the conditions
of their lives.
This is not always an easy thing to do, or even a right thing to do.
The early AA members
who tried this finally decided to limit most of their help simply to
carrying the 1Welve Step message.
While this seemed callous, it was really the only practical approach to
a difficult problem.
Many people are able to solve their own financial problems when they
really understand and
practice the twelve Step program. If they still need other assistance,
it is then given and received in
ways that work. In any case, we should always seek guidance and
direction from our Higher Power
when considering or offering any kind of assistance. We'll then know
that any support we give will
be the right kind.
I'll be willing today to assist others in any way I can. I will not,
however, take responsibility for
running their lives.
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Keep It Simple
This day I choose
to spend in perfect peace. --- A Course in Miracles
Today, let’s be gentle and kind. Lets talk to ourselves with love and
respect. Let’s be gentle with others too.
Today, let’s be clear in how we think, speak, and act. And if we start
to get mixed up, let’s stop thinking and listen for our Higher Power’s
voice.
Today, we know that we have just a small job to do. It is to live today
with love in our heart. We can’t take care of every problem in the
world. But we make our actions today part of the answer instead of the
part of the problem. Let's Keep It Simple.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me find Your calmness and
peace in my heart today.
Action for the Day: Do I believe that peace starts with me?
Today, I’ll listen to the simple voice of peace inside of me. And
I’ll Keep It Simple.
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Each Day a New Beginning
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. --Helen Keller
The next 24 hours are guaranteed to excite us, to lift us to new levels
of understanding, to move us into situations with others where we can
offer our unique contributions. All that is asked of us is a
willingness to trust that we will be given just what we need at each
moment.
We can dare to live, fully, just for today. We can appreciate the
extraordinariness of every breath we take, every challenge we
encounter. Within each experience is the invitation for us to grow, to
reach out to others in caring ways, to discover more fully the women we
are capable of being. We must not let a single moment go by unnoticed.
When we withdraw from life, we stunt our growth. We need involvement
with others, involvement that perturbs us, humors us, even stresses us.
We tap our internal resources only when we have been pushed to our
limits, and our participation in life gifts us, daily, with that push.
How necessary the push!
None of us will pass this way again. What we see and feel and say today
are gone forever. We have so much to regret when we let things slip
away, unnoticed or unappreciated.
A special series of events has been planned for me today. I shall not
miss it.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Chapter 8 - TO WIVES
As wives of Alcoholics Anonymous, we would like you to feel that we
understand as perhaps few can. We want to analyze mistakes we have
made. We want to leave you with the feeling that no situation is too
difficult and no unhappiness too great to be overcome.
p. 104
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY -
This young alcoholic stepped out a second-story window and into A.A.
I went back to the dean who had
guided me into counseling and, for the first time, admitted to myself
and to someone else that I had a problem with alcohol. I didn't
think I was an alcoholic. I wasn't even sure what that was.
But I knew my life was out of control. The dean allowed me to
withdraw from the class the day before the final exam on one
condition--I had to enter a treatment center. I agreed.
pp. 424-425
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Tradition
Seven - "Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining
outside contributions. "
SELF-SUPPORTING alcoholics? Who ever heard of such a thing? Yet we find
that's what we have to be. This principle is telling evidence of the
profound change that A.A. has wrought in all of us. Everybody knows
that active alcoholics scream that they have no troubles money can't
cure. Always, we've had our hands out. Time out of mind we've been
dependent upon somebody, usually money-wise. When a society composed
entirely of alcoholics says it's going to pay its bills, that's really
news.
p. 160
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"God's
strength
behind
you,
His
concern
for
you, His love within
you, and His arms beneath you are more than sufficient for the job
ahead of you."
--William Arthur Ward
Each day comes bearing its gifts. Untie the ribbons.
--Ruth Ann Schabacker
"Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and
effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world
outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in
getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness
is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few
drops on yourself."
--Og Mandino
People do not grow old; When they cease to grow, They become old.
--Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help
others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, "What's in it for
me?"
--Brian Tracy
God knows what He's about. If He has you sidelined, out of the
action for a while, He knows what He's doing. You just stay
faithful--stay flexible--stay available--stay humble.
--Growing Strong In The Seasons Of Life, p.531
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
EDUCATION
"The university exists only to
find and communicate the
truth."
-- Robert Maynard Hutchins
Today in my recovery I know I am a student of Truth and will
hopefully be so until the day that I die. No longer do I search for the
cheap thrill or the quick fix --- now I desire lasting truths.
Spirituality is about finding God in things that are true and honest,
good and wholesome, creative and positive.
I battle daily with that sick side of me that is greedy, selfish and
dishonest --- I'm not perfect. Today I know that the sick and
dishonest way of living does not work. My history teaches me that it
does not work. I was never truly happy knowing that the gains came
at the expense of others. Now I am a student in the "university of
life", and I enjoy learning something new about me every day. Today
I am able to listen --- listen to those who are wiser than I. I know
that
I do not have all the answers --- and with this knowledge comes
freedom.
God, who lives in and through Truth, continue to radiate and illuminate
my life.
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"The
earth is the Lord's, and all its fullness, the world and those who
dwell therein."
Psalms 24:1
"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of
them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you
nor forsake you."
Deuteronomy 31:6
He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.
Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall;
but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will
soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will
walk and not be faint.
Isaiah 40:29-31
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will
reap a harvest if we do not give up.
Galatians 6:9
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Daily Inspiration
Count on God for what you lack. Would you not do the same for someone
that you loved? Lord, I know that whatever I am doing, You can and will
help.
Mistakes give us experience. Without them going forward is almost
impossible. Lord, may I always look for the good and use it to make
tomorrow better.
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NA Just For Today
Don't Look Back
"The steps offer a big change from a
life dominated by guilt and remorse. Our futures are changed because we
don't have to avoid those who we have harmed. As a result... we receive
a new freedom that can end isolation."
Basic Text p.31
Many of us come to Narcotics Anonymous
full of regrets about our past. Our steps help us begin to resolve
those regrets. We examine our lives, admit our wrongs, make amends for
them, and sincerely try to change our behavior. In doing so, we find a
joyous sense of freedom.
No longer must we deny or regret our
past. Once we've made our amends, what's done is truly over and gone.
From that point on, where we come from ceases to be the most important
thing about us. It's where we are going that counts.
In NA, we begin to look forward. True,
we live and stay clean just for today. But we find that we can begin to
set goals, dream dreams, and look ahead to the joys a life in recovery
has to offer. Looking forward keeps us centered in where we are going,
not remorseful or regretful about our past. After all, it is hard to
move forward if we are looking back.
Just for today: The steps have freed
me from regrets over my past. Today, I look forward to my new life in
recovery.
pg. 251
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You are reading from the book Today's Gift.
When you meet a man, you judge him by
his clothes; when you leave, you judge him by his heart. --Russian
Proverb
The woman on the park bench was
gnarled and dirty. Her hair was an uncombed mess, her clothes torn and
old. She clutched a paper bag to her side, which seemed to contain her
belongings. She sat in the sun, humming to herself. Occasionally she
threw a bit of popcorn to ducks who waited at her feet. A little boy
and his mother sat by the lake, not wanting to share the bench with
this wild-eyed old woman. But when the old woman beckoned to the little
boy to share her popcorn with him, he ran to the bench and let out
squeals of laughter as they fed the hungry ducks.
Our world is full of variety and
surprises. Would we have it any other way? When we shun someone because
of the way they look, we cut ourselves off from part of life. But when
we are ready for anything--accepting and trusting--we are a wonder to
everyone.
How shall I judge people today?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
To be a man means to be a fellow man.
--Leo Baeck
Sometimes we become overburdened with
frustration and disappointment in our lives. When we turn inward and
focus only on our problems, we may be cutting ourselves off from the
healing effect of contact with others. Today, there may be a new group
member who would appreciate a phone call from us. Perhaps we could
visit an aged person or someone who is sick. Help is always needed in
providing food to the hungry. Perhaps a co-worker would welcome our
assistance on a task or errand.
When we help others, we affirm our
solidarity with them in their stress and suffering. We don't give help
because we are better or without problems of our own, but because we
suffer too. When we act as fellowmen, the comradeship and human contact
we get provide us with as much help as we give. They liberate us from
our own oppressive egos and make us see we are worthwhile men.
I affirm myself as a man when I stand
in solidarity with others and help them in their need.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
Life is either a daring adventure or
nothing. --Helen Keller
The next 24 hours are guaranteed to
excite us, to lift us to new levels of understanding, to move us into
situations with others where we can offer our unique contributions. All
that is asked of us is a willingness to trust that we will be given
just what we need at each moment.
We can dare to live, fully, just for
today. We can appreciate the extraordinariness of every breath we take,
every challenge we encounter. Within each experience is the invitation
for us to grow, to reach out to others in caring ways, to discover more
fully the women we are capable of being. We must not let a single
moment go by unnoticed.
When we withdraw from life, we stunt
our growth. We need involvement with others, involvement that perturbs
us, humors us, even stresses us. We tap our internal resources only
when we have been pushed to our limits, and our participation in life
gifts us, daily, with that push. How necessary the push!
None of us will pass this way again.
What we see and feel and say today are gone forever. We have so much to
regret when we let things slip away, unnoticed or unappreciated.
A special series of events has been
planned for me today. I shall not miss it.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Owning Our Energy
Learn to keep your energy inside.
--From Women, Sex, and Addiction Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D.
For many reasons, we may have mastered
the art of giving away our energy. We may have learned it when we were
young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel, and we
did not know how to process them.
Much of our obsessing, our intense
focus on others, is done to facilitate this "out of body" experience we
call codependency.
We obsess, we babble, we become
anxious. We try to control, care take, and fuss over others. Our energy
spills out of us on to whomever.
Our energy is our energy. Our
feelings, thoughts, issues, love, sexuality; our mental, physical,
spiritual, sexual, creative, and emotional energy is ours.
We can learn to have healthy
boundaries - healthy parameters - around our energy and ourselves. We
can learn to keep our energy within ourselves and deal with our issues.
If we are trying to escape from our
body, if our energy is spilling out of us in unhealthy ways, we can ask
ourselves what is going on, what is hurting us, what we are avoiding,
what we need to face, what we need to deal with.
Then, we can do that. We can come back
home to live - in ourselves.
Today, I will keep my energy in my
body. I will stay focused and within my boundaries. God, help me let go
of my need to escape myself. Help me face my issues so I am comfortable
living in my body.
Everywhere I turn I find positive and
loving people. My heart is full of peace and love. --Ruth Fishel
*****
Journey to the Heart
First Heal Your Heart
I checked into the lodge in Sedona,
certain I was there to get my job done. I told the woman behind the
desk, a delightful soul with brown hair, brown eyes, a warm smile, and
an open heart, why I was there-- to begin writing this book.
"Maybe you will," she said, "but
that's not why you're really here. You came here to cleanse the past
and heal your broken heart.' I looked at her in surprise. I knew what
she said was true.
Many of us show up at a place in our
lives with a particular agenda. We think we are there to get the job
done, build a relationship, accomplish a task. Then, life takes a
twist, one we didn't quite expect or plan on.
We discover we're at a certain place
for a reason different from what we thought. The real reason we're
there is to cleanse the past and heal our broken heart. Healing our
heart is a worthwhile mission, more purposeful perhaps than the one we
intended. Healing our heart is worthwhile and crucial, something that
often needs to be done first, so that we can accomplish what we
intended.
The biggest block to service and love
is a broken heart. To care about life again, to open our hearts, to
dare to dream, to risk love again, we must first heal our hearts.
Decide on your mission. Be clear on your purpose. But remember, first
things need to be done first.
Maybe you're where you are today for a
reason other than you thought. Maybe the first thing to do is cleanse
the past and heal your heart.
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more language of letting go
Spiral up
I was flying the airplane one day,
practicing my turns, when I turned to my instructor,Rob. "Something
doesn't feel quite right to me," I said. "The horizon looks a little
bit off."
"That's because you've got us in a
graveyard spiral," he said. "If you keep going like this, we'll keep
spiraling faster and faster until we lose control and crash into the
ground."
"Aaaah!" I said. "You've got the
controls. Get us out of this mess."
The spiral had just begun. Rob easily
restored the plane to coordinated flight, with a slight twist of his
wrist. I was greatly relieved.
Sometimes in life, we can get a little
complacent. We begin grumbling about a few little things. We start
seeing the negative things about our jobs, our families, our romantic
relationships, our friends. Or we get weary and tired of being alone,
and not being able to meet anyone we want to date. Maybe nothing is
really wrong in our career, but it just isn't giving us the pizzazz
we'd prefer. So we start grumbling and complaining about how bad it is.
We see other people making more money than we are, getting better
breaks, and doing something that looks like more fun to us. It's not
that anything is wrong; it's just that things don't seem good enough.
Than we find more things that irritate
us about our friends, our co-workers, and our boss. Soon, most of what
we see looks depressing and wrong. The negative is accentuated in
everything we see.
That's a good indication that we're in
a graveyard spiral,too.
Some people in this world need a
special technique to get peacefully, joyfully, and harmoniously through
their lives. I'm not saying this applies to everyone, but I know it
applies to me. Every day in my life, I need to deliberately,
consciously apply large doses of gratitude to everything I see.
Look! If instead of seeing this
beautiful horizon or the clouds, all you can see is down, apply
gratitude and humility to each aspect of your life. In a few moments,
you'll restore yourself to coordinated flight.
God, help me use the powerful remedy
of gratitude as a tool for daily transformation in my life.
*****
Small Steps to Big Change
Making Big Change Easier by Madisyn Taylor
When making big change in our life, it
can be easier to break it up into a few small changes to avoid
overwhelm.
When we decide that it’s time for big
changes in our lives, it is wise to ease into them by starting small.
Small changes allow us to grow into a new habit and make it a permanent
part of our lives, whereas sudden changes may cause a sense of failure
that makes it difficult to go on, and we are more likely to revert to
our old ways. Even if we have gone that route and find ourselves
contemplating the choice to start over again, we can decide to take it
slowly this time, and move forward.
Sometimes the goals we set for
ourselves are merely indicators of the need for change and are useful
in getting us moving in the right direction. But it is possible that
once we try out what seemed so ideal, we may find that it doesn’t
actually suit us, or make us feel the way we had hoped. By embarking on
the path slowly, we have the chance to look around and consider other
options as we learn and grow. We have time to examine the underlying
values of the desire for change and find ways to manifest those
feelings, whether it looks exactly like our initial goal or not. Taking
small steps forward gives us time to adjust and find secure footing on
our new path.
Life doesn’t always give us the
opportunity to anticipate or prepare for a big change, and we may find
ourselves overwhelmed by what is in front of us. By choosing one thing
to work on at a time, we focus our attention on something manageable,
and eventually we will look up to see that we have accomplished quite a
bit. Forcing change is, in essence, a sign that we do not trust the
universe’s wisdom. Instead, we can listen to our inner guidance and
make changes at a pace that is right for us, ensuring that we do so in
alignment with the rhythm of the universe. Published with permission
from Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
Prayer can have many rewards. One of
the greatest rewards is the sense of belonging it brings to me. No
longer do I live as a stranger in a strange land, alien in a completely
hostile world. No longer am I lost, frightened and purposeless. I
belong. We find, in The Program, that the moment we catch a glimpse of
God’s will — the moment we begin to see truth, justice and love as the
real and eternal things in life — we’re no longer so deeply upset by
all the seeming evidence to the contrary surrounding us in purely human
affairs. Do I believe that God lovingly watches over me?
Today I Pray
May I be grateful for the comfort and
peace of belonging — to God the ultimately wise “parent” and to His
family on earth. May I no longer need bumper stickers or boisterous
gangs to give me my identity. Through prayer, I am God’s.
Today I Will Remember
I find my identity through prayer.
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One More Day
Lord, teach us to number our days,
that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.
– Psalm 90
Funny, but when we were kids we
probably didn’t give much thought to worlds such as peace or harmony.
We just lived our sweet childish lives with little, if any, worry about
feelings.
Now we speak often of “meeting of the
minds,” “harmonious thoughts,” and “world peace,” for we all want to
achieve as high a level as personal and emotional comfort as we are
able. With our newly developed understanding of wisdom comes a deepened
sense of pride because we know that each day is a precious entity,
special in and of itself.
The harmony and peace that surround me
are mine for the taking.
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Food For Thought
Love God and Work the Program
How clear everything becomes when we
put abstaining and recovering from compulsive eating first in our
lives! As we recover, we grow in love for the Higher Power, which makes
possible our new life. Loving God and working the program becomes our
main purpose every day. From this, all else follows.
When we are confused and harried by
conflicting demands on our time and attention, we need to withdraw for
a moment and get back in touch with the God within. As long as we are
sincerely trying to do His will, we do not have to be upset by negative
responses from other people, whether their disapproval is real or
imagined.
As our Higher Power provides a focus
for our love, working the program provides a focus for our energies and
ambitions. Whatever our situation, we are each capable of growing along
spiritual lines, and it is this growth and progress which gives us
deep, lasting satisfaction.
Accept my love and work.
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One Day At A Time
STAYING PRESENT
"First you need only look."
Anne Hillman
My disease of compulsive overeating is
fueled by my regrets of the past and my fears of the future. The more I
try to rewrite the past, (which of course I cannot do); the more I try
to devise a future plan, (which usually does not come to pass), the
less I am present for my life.
I learn much from my three-year-old
son. Sometimes when running to get a ball, he suddenly stops to look at
an unusual insect he sees on the ground. His life flows and he abides
by this pattern. He follows his heart and is "there" for life.
When I consciously stay present for
life -- when I savor each moment and stay with my feelings -- I am
alive and living. In the present there is no worry, no fear, no regrets.
One Day at a Time . . .
I ask my Higher Power to help me to
stay present for my life, to stay with whatever is happening at any
given moment. I feel feelings. I am spontaneous and life is exciting
and inspired.
~ Melissa S. ~
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
We used to amuse ourselves by
cynically dissecting spiritual beliefs and practices when we might have
observed that many spiritually-minded persons of all races, colors, and
creeds were demonstrating a degree of stability, happiness and
usefulness which we should have sought ourselves. - Pg. 49 - We
Agnostics
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Whether we have lost our family,
friends, or our dignity through this devastating affliction, the
greatest loss of all was our relationship to our Higher Power.
Higher Power, as I understand You, I
give thanks for my return to You.
A Spiritual Awakening
Today I am open. I understand that a
spiritual awakening is my path to healing. My life looks different. I
am learning to allow it to unfold a day at a time. I am becoming aware
of the deeper experience of being alive. The morning and I meet and
greet each other like old friends. I am alive and in this world for
another day by the grace of God. I am in charge of my body, mind and
soul and it feels right and good. I belong to this world and this world
belongs to me, I am meant to be here. I am learning to let life work
out rather than forcing it into place. I am living simply and enjoying
simple pleasures. I am awake and alive for one more day.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
There may be a great temptation to
believe that some sort of sacrifice is being asked of you when you are
told you must accept reality. After all, isn't it reality that keeps
messing up your fantasies? Do reality; it is the easier softer way.
Reality check: I am here 'X'
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
Self-will cannot be overcome by
Self-will.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Everywhere I turn I find positive and
loving people.
My heart is full of peace and love.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
I'm the type who, if he has to shift a
refrigerator up 15 flights of stairs, and sees a guy with a
refrigerator mover's uniform on, who says; 'Can I help you bring that
up the stairs? I'll do it for free.' I'm the type who say: 'Nah, I
think I've got it.' - Charlie C.
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AA Thought for the Day
August 29
Control
We alcoholics are men and women who
have lost the ability to control our drinking.
We know that no real alcoholic ever
recovers control.
All of us felt at times we were
regaining control, but such intervals -- usually brief --
were inevitably followed by still less
control,
which led in time to pitiful and
incomprehensible demoralization. . . .
Over any considerable period we get
worse, never better.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 30
Thought to Ponder . . .
When we try to control our drinking,
we have already lost control.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = Absolute Abstinence.
~*~A.A. Thought For The Day~*~
Step One
"No other kind of bankruptcy is like
this one.
Alcohol, now become the rapacious
creditor,
bleeds us all of self-sufficiency and
all will
to resist its demands.
Once this stark fact is accepted,
our bankruptcy as going human concerns
is complete.
But upon entering AA we soon take
quite another view
of this absolute humiliation.
We perceive that only through utter
defeat
are we able to take our first steps
toward liberation and strength.
Our admissions of personal
powerlessness
finally turn out to be firm bedrock
upon which
happy and purposeful lives may be
built."
1952AAWS, Twelve Steps and Twelve
Traditions, p. 21
Thought to Consider . . .
Once we clear a hurdle, it doesn't
seem so high.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
S T E P S = Solutions To Every Problem
in Sobriety
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Reality I Had Feared
From: "No Man Is An Island"
I was spiritually bankrupt long before
AA entered my life and long before alcoholism took over like a parasite
under my
skin. I had nothing, no faith at all
to cling to. I had no faith in man, because along with my drinking I
had lost faith in
myself. I trusted no one, for others
were but a mere reflection of my own self, and I could not trust me.
I got sober in AA, and, like a
miracle, the warm flood of reality I had feared for so long flowed over
me, and I was no
longer afraid. I began to wonder why.
Along with sobriety, something new had come into my life.
I began to have concern for others.
This word concern, along with its sister consideration, was an alien
thing to me. I
had believed myself capable of falling
in love; I had thought myself a loving mother; but these emotions, I
now perceive,
had been reflections of my own
self-interest. Nothing penetrated beyond my self. I began, in early
sobriety, to feel
compassion for other drunks, then for
my children, then for my ex-husband. This compassion, a feeling
accompanied
later by love, opened the door to a
huge fortress within me which had been forever locked.
1973, AAWS, Inc., Came to Believe,
pages 118-119.
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"Learning is the very essence of
humility. The two walk hand in hand. Humility, as I see it, grows out
of an urge to learn
from everyone and everything."
Walnut Creek, California, May 1988
"Distilled Spirits,"
AA Grapevine
*~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N'
Twelve Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"We constantly remind ourselves we are
no longer running the show,
humbly saying to ourselves many times
each day "Thy will be done." We
are then in much less danger of
excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-
pity, or foolish decisions. We become
much more efficient. We do
not tire so easily, for we are not
burning up energy foolishly as we
did when we were trying to arrange
life to suit ourselves."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
Into Action, pg. 87~
"We will seldom be interested in
liquor. If tempted, we recoil from
it as from a hot flame. We react
sanely and normally, and we will
find that this has happened
automatically. We will see that our new
attitude toward liquor has been given
us without any thought or
effort on our part. It just comes!"
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
Into Action, pg. 84
"We will comprehend the word serenity
and we will know peace."
-Alcoholics Anonymous p. 84
"To those of us who have hitherto
known only excitement, depression, or anxiety -- in other words, to all
of us -- this
newfound peace is a priceless gift."
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions p.
74
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
'In some sections of A.A., anonymity
is carried to the point of real absurdity. Members are on such a poor
basis of
communication that they don't even
know each other's last names or where each lives. It's like the cell of
an underground.
'In other sections, we see exactly the
reverse. It is difficult to restrain A.A.'s from shouting too much
before the whole
public, by going on spectacular
'lecture tours' to play the big shot.
'However, I know that from these
extremes we slowly pull ourselves onto a middle ground. Most
lecture-giving
members do not last too long, and the
superanonymous people are apt to come out of hiding respecting their
A.A.
friends, business associates, and the
like. I think the long-time trend is toward the middle of the road -
which is
probably where we should be.
Prayer for the Day: Slow me down, Lord. Ease the pounding of
my heart by the quieting of my mind. Steady my hurried pace with a
vision of the eternal reach of time. Give me, amidst the confusion of
my day, the calmness of everlasting hills. Break the tensions of my
nerves with the soothing music of the singing streams that live in my
memory. Help me know the magical restoring power of sleep. Teach me the
art of taking minute vacations of slowing down, to look at a flower, to
chat with an old friend or make a new one, to pat a stray dog, to watch
a spider build a web, to smile at a child, or to read from a good book.
Remind me each day that the race is not always to the swift, that there
is more to life than increasing its speed. Let me look upward at the
towering oak and know that it grew great and strong because it grew
slowly and well. Lord, slow me down. Inspire me to send my own roots
down deep into the soil of life's endearing values that I may grow
toward the stars of my greater destiny. Amen.