A LOOK BACKWARD
First, we take a look backward and try to discover where we have
been at fault; next we make a vigorous attempt to repair the damage
we have done; . . .
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 77
As a traveler on a fresh and exciting A.A. journey of recovery, I
experienced a newfound peace of mind and the horizon appeared clear
and bright, rather than obscure and dim. Reviewing my life to
discover where I had been at fault seemed to be such an arduous and
dangerous task. It was painful to pause and look backward. I was
afraid I might stumble! Couldn't I put the past out of my mind and
just live in my new golden present? I realized that those in the past
whom I had harmed stood between me and my desire to continue my
movement toward serenity. I had to ask for courage to face those
persons from my life who still lived in my conscience, to recognize and
deal with the guilt that their presence produced in me. I had to look at
the damage I had done, and become willing to make amends. Only
then could my journey of the spirit resume.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
"There was nothing left for us but to pick up the simple kit of
spiritual
tools laid at our feet by Alcoholics Anonymous. By doing so, we have
a spiritual experience which revolutionizes our whole attitude
toward life, toward others, and toward God's universe. The central
fact of our lives today is the absolute certainty that our Creator has
entered into our hearts and lives there in a way that is indeed
miraculous. He has commenced to accomplish those things for us that
we could never do for ourselves." Have I let God come into my life?
Meditation For The Day
The moment a thing seems wrong to you or a person's actions to be
not what you think they should be, at that moment begins your
obligation and responsibility to pray for those wrongs to be righted
or that person to be changed. What is wrong in your surroundings or in
the people you know? Think about these things and make these
matters your responsibility. Not to interfere or be a busybody, but to
pray that a change may come through your influence. You may see
lives altered and evils banished in time. You can become a force for
good wherever you are.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may be a co-worker with God. I pray that I may help
people by my example.
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As Bill Sees It
Leadership In
A.A., p. 224
No society can function well without able leadership at all its
levels, and A.A. can be no exception. But we A.A.'s sometimes
cherish the thought that we can do without much personal
leadership at all. We are apt to warp the traditional idea of
"principles before personalities" around to such a point that there
would be no "personality" in a leadership whatever. This would
imply rather faceless robots trying to please everybody.
A leader in A.A. service is a man (woman) who can personally put
principles, plans, and policies into such dedicated and effective
action that the rest of us naturally want to back him up and help him
with his job. When a leader power-drives us badly, we rebel; but
when he too meekly becomes an order-taker and he exercises no
judgment of his own--well, he really isn't a leader at all.
Twelve Concepts, pp. 38-39
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Walk In Dry Places
Things I can't fix
Acceptance.
One of the sad realities of life is that we're awash in disorder
that we can't fix. All around us, the world seethes and festers with
aliments and injustices that are beyond our control.
We can react by becoming angry or by making quixotic efforts to solve
some of these problems. Our best course, however, is to apply our
12
Step program to life in this world. The Serenity Prayer suggests we
accept what we can't change. A slogan reminds us to set priorities
("First things First.") The Eleventh Step remind us to always seek
God's will.
This will enable me to live effectively while doing my best to serve
others. In time, I may even discover that I can fix a few of the
seemingly insoluble problems around me.
I'll realize today that I have the ability only to do certain things
within my sphere of experience. I'll
see to
it, however, that I do these things well.
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Keep It Simple
Fairness is what justice really is. ---The last Supreme Court Justice
Potter Stewart
Some of us get hung up on what's fair. We might feel, because we've
worked hard to stay sober, we should be rewarded. We might keep score
of
what we get and what others get. And we complain if it's "not
fair."
Maybe we should be glad life isn't fair. Why? Most of us caused a lot
of
trouble we've never had to pay for. And we've hurt a lot of people who
haven't gotten even. Would we really want life to be fair?
Our Higher Power isn't fair either. That is, our Higher Power doesn't
keep score. Our Higher Power doesn't try to get even. Our Higher Power
is
loving and forgiving, no matter what. Our Higher Power has the same
love
and help for everyone.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, give me the wisdom to stop
keeping
score. Help me want the
best for everyone.
Action for the Day: I'll list five times I've been unfair to
others.
Do I need to make
amends?
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Each Day a New Beginning
When a woman has love, she is no longer at the mercy of forces greater
than herself, for she, herself, becomes the powerful force.
--Veronica Casey
The need for love is universal. Each of us longs for the affirmation
that assures us we are needed, appreciated, desired. We are
strengthened by the strokes others give us, and when no strokes are
forthcoming, we sometimes falter.
With emotional and spiritual maturity comes the understanding that we
are loved, unconditionally, by God. And the awareness of that love, the
realization of its abiding presence, will buoy us up when no other love
signals to us. Most of us still lose our connection to the omnipresent
God, however. Thus, our buoyancy is tentative.
Until that time when we are certain about our value, about the presence
of God's love, we'll need to practice self-affirmation. But learning
how to nurture ourselves, how to be gentle and caressing to the woman
within, may be painstaking. Patience will ease the process.
Unconditionally loving ourselves will become natural in time. In fact,
we'll sense our inner person growing, changing. Our wholeness will
become apparent to others as well as to ourselves.
Love breeds love. I will shower it upon others and myself and relish
the growing sense of self that emerges.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Chapter 7 - WORKING WITH
OTHERS
Let no alcoholic say he cannot recover unless he has his family back.
This just isn’t so. In some cases the wife will never come back for one
reason or another. Remind the prospect that his recovery is not
dependent upon people. It is dependent upon his relationship with God.
We have seen men get well whose families have not returned at all. We
have seen others slip when the family came back too soon.
pp. 99-100
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
ACCEPTANCE WAS THE ANSWER
- The physician wasn't hooked, he thought--he just prescribed drugs
medically indicated for his many ailments. Acceptance was his key
to liberation.
Then, one day in A.A., I was told
that I had the lenses in my glasses backwards; "the courage to change"
in the Serenity Prayer meant not that I should change my marriage, but
rather that I should change myself and learn to accept my spouse as she
was. A.A. has given me a new pair of glasses. I can again
focus on my wife's good qualities and watch them grow and grow and grow.
p. 419
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Tradition Five - "Each
group has but one primary purpose - to carry it's message to the
alcoholic who still suffers."
There is another reason for this singleness of purpose. It is the great
paradox of A.A. that we know we can seldom keep the precious gift of
sobriety unless we give it away. If a group of doctors possessed a
cancer cure, they might be conscience-stricken if they failed their
mission through self-seeking. Yet such a failure wouldn't jeopardize
their personal survival. for us, if we neglect those who are still
sick, there is unremitting danger to our own lives and sanity. Under
these compulsions of self-preservation, duty, and love, it is not
strange that our Society has concluded that it has but one high mission
- to carry the A.A. message to those who don't know there is a way out.
p. 151
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I
have
been
given
a
new
day
to live, to grow, to give love and to feel love.
--Ruth Fishel
Love is living in the spiritual heart.
--John-Roger
Today I choose to forgive instead of holding on to resentments.
Today I choose to let go of all feelings that block me from feeling
love.
Today I choose to see everyone through the eyes of love.
--Ruth Fishel
"We must keep in mind that where the road is crooked, God makes it
straight, and where our hearts are wounded, God makes us whole.
As we open our hearts in purity and simplicity, admitting to God that
we are completely powerless in the area of our problem, His
illumination redeems us."
--Marianne Williamson
Today I know I'm just wasting my energy to try to change people,
places and things. By looking within I can really discover what needs
to be changed and then turn it over to my Higher Power to be
released.
--Ruth Fishel
"The expression of praise as thanksgiving, gratitude, and joy is among
the most powerful forms of affirmation."
--Catherine Ponder
Far too many people spend their lives reading the menu instead of
enjoying the banquet.
--unknown
You can pray for a good crop, but don't forget your hoe!
--unknown
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
LIFE
"The tragedy of life is what dies
in man while he lives."
-- Albert Schweitzer
Addiction progressively takes away the vitality of life. It robs life of
meaning. Addiction isolates; it kills by atrophy. People, places and
things lose meaning; everything becomes a chore and God is lost. We
say to compensate that we are having "fun" --- we say this a lot and at
times we believe it, but in the silence of the night we know it to be a
lie.
We lie to others and to ourselves. Sometimes we believe the lie! At
this point we begin to die unless we take courage and confront "the
lie" in order to live. Today I live because I confronted my lie. I have
discovered the spiritual power that was buried deep beneath the
progressive addiction. And I am finding it easier and less painful to
live.
May I continue to breathe a daily "yes" in my life so that I might live.
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"Be
joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with
God's people who are in need. Practice hospitality."
Romans 12:12-13
The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the
will of God abides forever.
1 John 2:17
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and
petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the
peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your
hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:6-7
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I
have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation,
whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can
do everything through him who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:12-13
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Daily Inspiration
If you are over committed, things begin to fall
apart. Lord, help me be reasonable in the expectations I place on
myself so that I can efficiently use my time and still have enough time
to relax and enjoy the day.
Choose to be worthy to yourself and never confuse self worth with
behavior. Lord, help me to be less critical of my past and see that
this moment right now is all that I can do anything about.
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NA Just For Today
Enough!
"Something inside cries out, 'Enough,
enough, I've had enough; and then they are ready to take that first and
often most difficult step toward dealing with their disease."
Basic Text, p.203
Have we really had enough? This is the
crucial question we must ask ourselves as we prepare to work the First
Step in Narcotics Anonymous. It doesn't matter whether or not we
arrived in NA with our families intact, our careers still working for
us, and all the outward appearances of wholeness. All that matters is
that we have reached an emotional and spiritual bottom that precludes
our return to active addiction. If we have, we will be truly ready to
go to any lengths to quit using.
When we inventory our powerlessness,
we ask ourselves some simple questions. Can I control my use of drugs
in any form? What incidents have occurred as a result of my drug use
that I didn't want to happen? How is my life unmanageable? Do I believe
in my heart that I am an addict?
If the answers to these questions lead
us to the doors of Narcotics Anonymous, then we are ready to move on to
the next step toward a life free from active addiction. If we have
truly had enough, then we will be willing to go to any lengths to find
recovery.
Just for today: I admit that I have
had enough. I am ready to work my First Step.
pg. 234
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
I don't think of all the misery, but
of the beauty that still remains. --Anne Frank
We don't find the rewards of today by
searching through our misfortunes. Pausing to seek out something good
for everything we find bad is a step in the right direction. We may
find the good outweighs the bad.
But how much more chance we will have
of living a happy day if we skip over our setbacks and concentrate as
much as we can on what is going well. It is smarter to look for
diamonds in a diamond mine than in a garbage dump.
Let us discard our failures, using
only what we have learned from them to achieve success. Looking back at
missed opportunities will make it impossible for us to recognize new
chances to enjoy life to the fullest. Looking only for beauty is a
beautiful thing in itself.
What beauty can I see around me right
now?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
It is a terrible, an inexorable law
that one cannot deny the humanity of another without diminishing one's
own: in the face of one's victim, one sees oneself. --James Baldwin
Acting totally in our self-interest is
shortsighted and foolishly simple. Attacking another person or another
nation reflects upon us like a mirror. When any person is undermined,
the human race is diminished in some measure. And humanity is our
family.
Sometimes we see a reflection of
ourselves in someone else and fail to recognize it. What we hate most
in another may well be what we hate in ourselves. Knowing this can be
useful. Perhaps our teeth are set on edge when we think about an ex
wife, or father, or former friend, or a religious or racial group. How
are we like that person or group? What do they cause us to face within
ourselves? When we stop diminishing the other person we may still not
like him or her, but we can come to terms with ourselves. We learn to
live and let live.
God, help me engage in the brotherhood
of my own family and with all people - and to see my own face, even in
my enemy.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
When a woman has love, she is no
longer at the mercy of forces greater than herself, for she, herself,
becomes the powerful force. --Veronica Casey
The need for love is universal. Each
of us longs for the affirmation that assures us we are needed,
appreciated, desired. We are strengthened by the strokes others give
us, and when no strokes are forthcoming, we sometimes falter.
With emotional and spiritual maturity
comes the understanding that we are loved, unconditionally, by God. And
the awareness of that love, the realization of its abiding presence,
will buoy us up when no other love signals to us. Most of us still lose
our connection to the omnipresent God, however. Thus, our buoyancy is
tentative.
Until that time when we are certain
about our value, about the presence of God's love, we'll need to
practice self-affirmation. But learning how to nurture ourselves, how
to be gentle and caressing to the woman within, may be painstaking.
Patience will ease the process. Unconditionally loving ourselves will
become natural in time. In fact, we'll sense our inner person growing,
changing. Our wholeness will become apparent to others as well as to
ourselves.
Love breeds love. I will shower it
upon others and myself and relish the growing sense of self that
emerges.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Directness
Direct people are a joy to be around.
We never have to guess what they're
really thinking or feeling, because they're honest about their thoughts
and openly express their feelings.
We never have to wonder if they're
with us because they want to be, or if they're there out of guilt and
obligation.
When they do something for us, we
don't have to worry whether they'll end up resenting us because direct
people generally do things that please themselves.
We don't have to fuss about the status
of our relationship because if we ask, they'll tell us.
We don't have to worry if they're
angry because they deal openly with their anger and resolve it quickly.
We don't have to ponder whether they
are talking about us behind our backs because if they have something to
say, it will be said to us directly.
We don't have to wonder if we can rely
on them because direct people are trustworthy.
Wouldn't it be nice if we were all
direct?
Today, I will let go of my notions
that it is somehow good or desirable to be indirect. Instead, I will
strive for honesty, directness, and clarity in my communication. I will
let directness in my relationships begin with me.
*****
Journey to the Heart
Practice Forgiveness
He was an old man, sitting on a corner
bench. "I don't know why we just keep on forgiving our brothers and
sisters," he said, looking at the people walking by. "I suppose it's
because when we do, we really forgive ourselves."
Is there someone we're judging,
censuring? If we look more closely we'll see that when we blame others,
we're chastising ourselves as well. If we're honest, really honest, we
can see that often what upsets us is something similar to what we
ourselves do. Other people can be mirrors of our own behavior.
Yes, there are times when another
person does something absolutely outrageous. And we can stand there,
hands no hips, saying, I've been wronged. I can't understand how anyone
could behave that way. But often, if we're honest, we really can
understand-- we have behaved that way,too.
Practice forgiveness. Judgement
without forgiveness causes us to feel isolated, and apart, causes us to
judge ourselves in the same way. Discover how much better you feel when
you forgive others. Find out how much better you feel when you forgive
yourself.
*****
more language of letting go
Be grateful for where you've been
Earlier in this book, I suggested that
you write your memoirs. Even if you don't sit down to do that, I'm
going to suggest that you review your life.
Reading my mother's memoirs was a
profound experience, one that touched my heart and brought compassion
into it in a way I hadn't been able to experience from all my
family-of-origin work. As a child, I'd shut down when my mother would
talk about her experiences. I'd turn off my listening device. It
sounded like grumbling and complaining to me. I didn't want to hear
about her pain.
But when I read about her life in
story form, I experienced a different response. I was able to read it
objectively, not as her daughter or a person feeling guilty because I
wished she hadn't had all the pain she did. I saw how directly her
experiences had created and shaped who she was. I saw the desires of
her heart. I saw her tragedies, her broken dreams. I saw her
heroism,too.
My snippy little reactions-- the
irritating mother-daughter stuff-- vanished in this new light. She was
no longer a mother who had issues. She was a human being nobly living
her life. Like the rest of us, she had her frailties, her vulnerable
areas, and her strong points.
The point here isn't for you to read
about my mother. It's for you to take a new look at your life and all
the experiences you've been through, endured, survived, and then
transcended. When I wrote my life story, I resisted at first. I hadn't
enjoyed it that much going through it. I didn't want to relive all
those experiences.
But something happened in the actual
writing. It was similar to what happened when I read my mother's
account of her life. I began to see myself and what I'd been through
differently, in a new, more compassionate light.
Each experience, each decade, each
chapter in the book taught me something valuable. From each experience
I'd been through, I reclaimed or discovered new insight and power.
Maybe much of what I had preferred to forget or turn my back on wasn't
the wasted life I thought it was.
What a beautiful story each one of us
has. Whether your experiences ever make it into a book, it's still your
book of life. Are you grateful for each chapter you've lived? Are you
grateful for each experience you've had? Are you grateful for the story
you're living now?
The good news is, the story of our
lives hasn't ended yet.
There's still more to come.
Touch the experience of being human in
all of its sorrow and joy.
Be grateful for the story you're
living now.
God, help me laugh, cry, love, be
aware, and be thankful with all my heart for every moment and each
experience that I've been given. Thank you for my life.
*****
Set Yourself Free
Letting Go of Perfection
Life becomes much more interesting
once we let go of our quest for perfection and aspire for imperfection
instead.
It is good to remember that one of our
goals in life is to not be perfect. We often lose track of this
aspiration. When we make mistakes, we think that we are failing or not
measuring up. But if life is about experimenting, experiencing, and
learning, then to be imperfect is a prerequisite. Life becomes much
more interesting once we let go of our quest for perfection and aspire
for imperfection instead.
This doesn’t mean that we don’t strive
to be our best. We simply accept that there is no such thing as
perfection—especially in life. All living things are in a ceaseless
state of movement. Even as you read this, your hair is growing, your
cells are dying and being reborn, and your blood is moving through your
veins. Your life changes more than it stays the same. Perfection may
happen in a moment, but it will not last because it is an impermanent
state. Trying to hold on to perfection or forcing it to happen causes
frustration and unhappiness.
In spite of this, many of us are in
the habit of trying to be perfect. One way to nudge ourselves out of
this tendency is to look at our lives and notice that no one is judging
us to see whether or not we are perfect. Sometimes, perfectionism is a
holdover from our childhood—an ideal we inherited from a demanding
parent. We are adults now, and we can choose to let go of the need to
perform for someone else’s approval. Similarly, we can choose to
experience the universe as a loving place where we are free to be
imperfect. Once we realize this, we can begin to take ourselves less
seriously and have more fun. Imperfection is inherent to being human.
By embracing your imperfections, you embrace yourself. Published with
permission from Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
“Quiet minds can not be perplexed or
frightened,” wrote Robert Louis Stevenson, “but go on in fortune or
misfortune at their own private pace, like a clock during a
thunderstorm.”
In The Program, we hear many warnings
against harboring resentments, and rare is the person who doesn’t
occasionally yield to resentment when he feels wronged. We must
remember that we have no room for resentment in our new way of life.
Rather than exhausting myself by fighting resentment with grim
determination, I can reason it out of existence by uncovering its cause
with a quiet mind. Will I try to believe that the best antidote for
resentment is the continual expression of gratitude?
Today I Pray
Praise God from whom all blessings
flow. Praise God for our human sensitivity which, although it can feel
the smallest, pin-prick hurts, can also feel the warmth of a smile,
Praise God for our human insight which can peel the wraps from our
resentments and expose them for what they are.
Today I Will Remember
I am grateful for feelings.
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One More Day
Life is so full of miseries, minor
and major….. – Agnes Repplier
Occasionally a person who has chronic
pain spends far too much time on a quest to cure or solve the pain.
Support groups become much more than an extension of helpful purpose;
they can become our total purpose. All the day can be filled with
seeking the “right” people to solve our problems. All semblance of a
well-balanced life gets pushed away.
There’s no reason to make our days
miserable with unrealistic goals. Learning to live the best we can with
the pain and inconvenience of illness is the only way to make minor
miseries out of major ones.
I can keep myself emotionally whole by
seeking balance in my life.
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Food For Thought
The Beacon
There are times when we get tired and
depressed or elated and confused. We are mentally uncomfortable,
knowing that something is wrong but unable to pinpoint the trouble. Our
first thought may be to reach for food, but we know that way leads to
disaster.
We compulsive overeaters have a beacon
light for our dark and confused moments. It is our commitment to
abstinence. No matter how confused we may be, we can remember that
abstinence is the most important thing in our life without exception.
Whatever happens, we will not be lost if we hold fast to our
abstinence. From the commitment, everything else follows. As long as we
do not overeat, we will be able to find our way out of a difficult
situation.
Our Higher Power gives us the beacon
light of abstinence, and with it He gives guidance out of our
perplexities. Patiently waiting until we clearly see His will keeps us
from getting lost in the darkness of self-will.
Thank You for the beacon light of
abstinence.
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One Day At A Time
~ SAFETY NET ~
Leap, and the net will appear.
Julia Cameron
I’m an analyzer. Given the
opportunity, I can analyze something to the point the original context
has been lost. This was exactly what I did when I was first introduced
to the Twelve Step recovery program. With each Step, I tried to
discover a hidden meaning, an excuse not to work it. I spent more
energy not doing the program than I ever would have following it.
When I finally made the leap into that
first Step, my life began changing direction from the downward trend it
was in. It was a leap of faith, and the net of my Higher Power caught
me. This net will not break, nor will it fall. As I discover truths
about myself that enable me to move forward in life and become a better
person, I need the safety of that net of faith.
One Day at a Time . . .
I will take a leap of faith towards my
recovery,
knowing I’ll be safe, and the miracle
will happen.
~ Trish ~
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
Your prospect may belong to a
religious denomination. His religious education and training may be far
superior to yours. In that case he is going to wonder how you can add
anything to what he already knows. But he will be curious to learn why
his own convictions have not worked and why yours seem to work so well.
He may be an example of the truth that faith alone is insufficient. To
be vital, faith must be accompanied by self sacrifice and unselfish,
constructive action. - Pg. 93 - Working With Others
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
The slogans may sometimes annoy us in
their simplicity. But repetition is an important learning tool. Think
of the repetition that alcohol, cocaine, marijuana and depressants
bring. Now you can understand the necessity of slogans to counteract
the repetition of addiction.
As I go into this next hour of a clean
and sober day, may I welcome the repetitions of recovery.
Life is a Spiritual Journey
No one can learn the alphabet for me.
And no one can develop wisdom, appreciation or inner strength for me.
These are things I have to do for myself. What is life but growth and
expansion, increasing my understanding so that I can deepen my
experience of feeling alive? There are gifts in healing if I am willing
to see them, lessons I can learn, awareness's that I need in order to
appreciate what I already have. Sickness can be my teacher if I let it.
Even as I wait for strength to return to my body, still my spirit and
my character can grow stronger and better and more refined. I am not
doing nothing as I lie here, I am growing on the inside. Today I will
use this moment that puts me into a deeper part of myself to come in
contact with an openness to grow. I am in touch with a part of life
that I normally don't get in touch with.
I am understanding and expanding my
inner world.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
When you continually don't like the
way people treat you, it is usually because you are cooperating with
the treatments.
The difference between me being a
victor or a victim is ability. Response ability.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
Success means getting your 'but' out
of the way.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I am letting go of all judgments.
I am releasing all negative emotions.
I am quietly going within and trusting
my inner spirit and I will know what is right for me.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
A lot of doctors believed that
alcoholism was caused by a Valium deficiency. - Trip S.
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AA Thought for the Day
August 12
Letting Go
"Letting go" had always meant
self-indulgence: polishing off the rest of the bottle, eating the whole
cake, sleeping until
noon.
Now, I heard that letting go meant
acquiring discipline. . .
The renewal of discipline is a
process that I must set in motion every day.
- The Best of the Grapevine [Vol. 2],
p. 187
Thought to Ponder . . .
Get a grip on letting go.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
O D A A T = One Day At A Time.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Growing Pains
"How to translate a right mental
conviction into
a right emotional result,
and so into easy, happy, and good
living -
well, that's not only the neurotic's
problem,
it's the problem of life itself for
all of us who have got
to the point of real willingness to
hew to right principles.
Even then, as we hew away, peace and
joy may still elude us.
That's the place so many of us AA
oldsters have come to.
And it's a hell of a spot, literally."
- Bill W.
1988AAGrapevine, The Language of the
Heart, p. 237
Thought to Consider . . .
Minds are like parachutes -
they won't work unless they're open.
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S O B E R = Simply Observe Bill's
Exemplary Recovery
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Reactions to Money
Tradition Seven: Every A.A. group
ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
Alcoholics are certainly
all-or-nothing people. Our reactions to money prove this. As A.A.
emerged from its infancy into adolescence, we swung from the idea that
we needed vast sums of money to the notion that A.A. shouldn't have
any. On every lip were the words You can't mix A.A. and money. We shall
have to separate the spiritual from the material. We took this violent
new tack because here and there members had tried to make money out of
their A.A. connections, and we feared we'd be exploited. Now and then,
grateful benefactors had endowed clubhouses, and as a result there was
sometimes outside interference in our affairs. We had been presented
with a hospital, and almost immediately the donor's son became its
principal patient and would-be manager. One A.A. group was given five
thousand dollars to do with what it would. The hassle over that chunk
of money played havoc for years. Frightened by these complications,
some groups refused to have a cent in their treasuries.
1981, AAWS, Inc., Twelve Steps and
Twelve Traditions, page 161
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"Our sobriety should be founded on
'unselfish selfishness' ... It's not sound, we have been told, to try
to stay dry for the sake of a wife or a sweetheart or someone else dear
to us."
June 1945
"On the Eighth Step,"
Step By Step
*~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N'
Twelve Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"The fact is that most alcoholics,
for reasons yet obscure, have lost
the power of choice in drink. Our
so-called will power becomes
practically nonexistent. We are
unable, at certain times, to bring
into our consciousness with
sufficient force the memory of the
suffering and humiliation of even a
week or a month ago. We are
without defense against the first
drink."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
There Is A Solution, pg. 24~
“Our real purpose is to fit ourselves
to be of maximum service to God and the people about us.”
Alcoholics Anonymous p. 77
“In the morning we think of the hours
to come. Perhaps we think of our day’s work and the chances it may
afford us to be useful and helpful, or of some special problem that it
may bring. Possibly today will see a continuation of a serious and as
yet unresolved problem left over from yesterday. Our immediate
temptation will be to ask for specific solutions to specific problems,
and for the ability to help other people as we have already thought
they should be helped. In that case, we are asking God to do it our
way. Therefore, we ought to consider each request carefully to see what
its real merit is. Even so, when making specific requests, it will be
well to add to each one of them this qualification: “…if it be Thy
will.” We ask simply that throughout the day God place in us the best
understanding of His will that we can have for that day, and that we be
given the grace by which we may carry it out.”
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
p. 102
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
No society can function well without
able leadership at all its levels, and A.A. can be no exception. But we
A.A.'s sometimes cherish the thought that we can do without much
personal leadership at all. We are apt to warp the traditional idea of
'principles before personalities' around to such a point that there
would be no 'personality' in leadership whatever. This would imply
rather faceless robots trying to please everybody.
A leader in A.A. service is a man (or
woman) who can personally put principles, plans, and policies into such
dedicated and effective action that the rest of us naturally want to
back him up and help him with his job. When a leader power drives us
badly, we rebel; but when he too meekly becomes an order-taker and he
exercises no judgment of his own - well, he really isn't a leader at
all.
Prayer for the Day: God, Direct my attention to what You would
have me be. Amen.