REMOVING "THE GROUND GLASS"
The moral inventory is a cool examination of the damages that
occurred to us during life and a sincere effort to look at them in a
true
perspective. This has the effect of taking the ground glass out of us,
the emotional substance that still cuts and inhibits.
AS BILL SEES IT, p. 140
My Eighth Step list used to drag me into a whirlpool of resentment.
After four years of sobriety, I was blocked by denial connected with
an ongoing abusive relationship. The argument between fear and
pride eased as the words of the Step moved from my head to my
heart. For the first time in years I opened my box of paints and poured
out an honest rage, an explosion of reds and blacks and yellows. As I
looked at the drawing, tears of joy and relief flowed down my cheeks.
In my disease, I had given up my art, a self-inflicted punishment far
greater than any imposed from outside. In my recovery, I learned that
the pain of my defects is the very substance God uses to cleanse my
character and to set me free.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
"While alcoholics keep strictly away from drink, they react to life
much like other people. But the first drink sets the terrible cycle in
motion. Alcoholics usually have no idea why they take the first drink.
Some drinkers have excuses with which they are satisfied, but in their
hearts they really do not know why they do it. The truth is that at
some point in their drinking they have passed into a state where the
most
powerful desire to stop drinking is of no avail." Am I satisfied that I
have passed my tolerance point for alcohol?
Meditation For The Day
He who made the ordered world out of chaos and set the stars in their
courses and made each plant to know its season, He can bring peace
and order out of your private chaos if you will let Him. God is
watching over you, too, to bless you and care for you. Out of the
darkness He is leading you to light, out of unrest to rest, out of
disorder to order, out of faults and failure to success. You belong to
God and your affairs are His affairs and can be ordered by Him if you
are willing.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may be led out of disorder into order. I pray that I may
be
led out of failure into success.
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As Bill Sees It
One
Fellowship--Many Faiths, p.223
As a society we must never become so vain as to suppose that we
are authors and inventors of a new religion. We will humbly reflect
that every one of A.A.'s principles has been borrowed from
ancient sources.
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A minister in Thailand wrote, "We took A.A.'s Twelve Steps to
the largest Buddhist monastery in this province, and the head
priest said, "Why, these Steps are fine! For us as Buddhists, it might
be slightly more acceptable if you had inserted the word 'good' in
your Steps instead of 'God.' Nevertheless, you say that it is God
as you understand Him, and that must certainly include the good.
Yes, A.A.'s Twelve Steps will surely be accepted by the Buddhists
around here.'"
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St. Louis oldtimers recall how Father Edward Dowling helped
start their group; it turned out to be largely Protestant, but this
fazed him not a bit.
A.A. Comes Of Age
1. p. 231
2. p. 81
3. p. 37
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Walk In Dry Places
What is real Open-mindedness?
New Ideas
When we're urged to be open-minded, what's really involved?
Open-mindedness certainly can't mean accepting every idea that
comes down the road, because some of them are worthless or harmful.
Open-mindedness really means a readiness to put our deeply held
opinions aside long enough to consider new ideas. If we simply refuse
to listen to anything new, we'll avoid the bad ideas, but we'll also
miss out on the ideas that can help us.
If we're really honest, we can look back to see many ideas that helped
us after we reluctantly agreed to consider them. It's important
to screen ideas as they come to us, but we can't block them out
completely. All a good idea needs to help us is a fair chance.
I'll work at being more open-minded today. It's possible I've
been blocking out ideas that could help
me.
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Keep It Simple
The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win you're still a
rat.--- Lily Tomlin
Alcoholism is rat race. Drug addiction is a rat race. We were always
trying to keep one or two steps ahead of the cat. We were always
sneaking
around, and everyone was disgusted with us.
Our goal in recovery is stop acting like a rat and join the human race
again. Recovery teaches us sayings like Easy Does It and One Day At a
Time. Our sayings remind us to pace ourselves. Our sayings remind us
that
healing takes time.
We live by human values: honesty, respect from others, fairness,
openness, self-respect. We work at just being ourselves. We learn that
this is enough. We are enough.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me accept my humanness. I
am part of the human race,
not the rat race.
Action for the Day: Just for today, I'll pace myself. I'll list
ways I often go to fast for
my own good. I'll ask friends how they pace themselves.
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Each Day a New Beginning
Imagination has always had powers of resurrection that no science can
match. --Ingrid Bengis
In the imagination are transmitted messages, from God to us.
Inspiration is born there. So are dreams. Both give rise to the goals
that urge us forward, that invite us to honor this life we've been
given with a contribution, one like no other contribution.
Our imagination offers us ideas to ponder, ideas specific to our
development. It encourages us to take steps unique to our time, our
place, our intended gifts to the world. We can be alert to this special
"inner voice" and let it guide our decisions; we can trust its urgings.
It's charged with serving us, but only we can decide to "listen."
The imagination gives us another tool: belief in ourselves. And the
magic of believing offers us strength and capabilities even beyond our
fondest hopes. It prepares us for the effort we need to make and for
handling whatever outcome God has intended.
My imagination will serve me today. It will offer me the ideas and the
courage I need to go forth.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Chapter 7 - WORKING
WITH OTHERS
If there be divorce or separation, there should be no undue haste for
the couple to get together. The man should be sure of his recovery. The
wife should fully understand his new way of life. If their old
relationship is to be resumed it must be on a better basis, since the
former did not work. This means a new attitude and spirit all around.
Sometimes it is to the best interests of all concerned that a couple
remain apart. Obviously, no rule can be laid down. Let the alcoholic
continue his program day by day. When the time for living together has
come, it will be apparent to both parties.
p. 99
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
ACCEPTANCE WAS THE ANSWER
- The physician wasn't hooked, he thought--he just prescribed drugs
medically indicated for his many ailments. Acceptance was his key
to liberation.
But then as I drank more and more,
the alcohol seemed to affect my vision: Instead of continuing to
see what was good about my wife, I began to see her defects. And
the more I focused my mind on her defects, the more they grew and
multiplied. Every defect I pointed out to her became greater and
greater. Each time I told her she was nothing, she receded a
little more into nowhere. The more I drank, the more she wilted.
pp. 418-419
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Tradition Five - "Each group
has but one primary purpose - to carry it's message to the alcoholic
who still suffers."
Just as firmly bound by obligation are the members of Alcoholics
Anonymous, who have demonstrated that they can help problem drinkers as
others seldom can. The unique ability of each A.A. to identify himself
with, and bring recovery to, the newcomer in no way depends upon his
learning, eloquence, or on any special individual skills. the only
thing that matters is that he is an alcoholic who has found a key to
sobriety. These legacies of suffering and of recovery are easily passed
among alcoholics, one to the other. This is our gift from god, and its
bestowal upon others like us is the one aim that today animates A.A.'s
all around the globe.
pp. 150-151
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If
what
you
are
doing
is
not
working, take a moment to stop and take a
look at what you are doing and, if necessary, take another path.
--Jan Ruhe
"Our greatest glory consists not in never falling, but in rising
every time we fall."
--Ralph Waldo Emerson
When it is time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.
--Henry David Thoreau
I can get more out of God by believing Him for one minute than by
shouting at Him all night.
--Smith Wigglesworth
"I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of
my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most
precious gift I have - life itself."
--Walter Anderson
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
INDIVIDUALITY
"The race advances only by the
extra achievements of the
individual. You are the
individual."
-- Charles Towne
The spiritual program that involves a "love of self" has made me get
in touch with my individuality. Although we can identify with other
people's feelings and situations, we are also not exactly the same. Our
dreams and aspirations are different, our gifts and achievements vary,
our personal individuality adds to the variety of life.
My "difference" needs to be nurtured alongside my spiritual growth,
especially since being a recovering alcoholic I am tempted to "please"
the crowd. Today my personal inventory revolves around my needs,
hopes and dreams that are realistic. Spirituality is reality.
In helping myself to the abundant richness that is within me, I am
contributing to society and the world.
Thank You for making the world with such creative difference; may I
continue to risk in this knowledge.
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"Even
if you had faith as small as a mustard seed, the Lord answered,
you could say to this mulberry tree, May God uproot you and throw
you into the sea, and it would obey you!"
Luke 17:6
"It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do
not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery."
Galatians 5:1
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Daily Inspiration
Thoughts of the past can not hurt you without your consent. Lord, help
me to learn from my past, not live there by continually bringing it
into the present.
The heart cannot both doubt and have faith, hate and give love, worry
and trust in God for one will soon crowd out the other. Lord, I commit
myself to Your way and Your will and open my heart to Your peace.
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NA Just For Today
Active Listening
"Through active listening, we hear
things that work for us."
Basic Text, p.102
Most of us arrived in Narcotics
Anonymous with a very poor ability to listen. But to take full
advantage of "the therapeutic value of one addict helping another" we
must learn to listen actively.
What is active listening for us? In
meetings, it means we concentrate on what the speaker is sharing, while
the speaker is sharing. We set aside our own thoughts and opinions
until the meeting is over. That's when we sort through what we've heard
to decide which ideas we want to use and which we want to explore
further.
We can apply our active listening
skills in sponsorship, too. Newcomers often talk with us about some
"major event" in their lives. While such events may not seem
significant to us, they are to the newcomer who has little experience
living life on life's terms. Our active listening helps us empathize
with the feelings such events trigger in our sponsee's life. With that
understanding, we have a better idea of what to share with them.
The ability to listen actively was
unknown to us in the isolation of our addiction. Today, this ability
helps us actively engage with our recovery. Through active listening,
we receive everything being offered us in NA, and we share fully with
others the love and care we've been given.
Just for today: I will strive to be an
active listener. I will practice active listening when others share and
when I share with others.
pg. 233
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
Friends are people who help you be
more yourself, more the person you are intended to be. --Merle Shain
Sometimes a teacher, sometimes a
neighbor, almost always our moms and dads encourage us to try new
activities or to improve our schoolwork, sports, drawing, or gardening.
Because they are our friends, they want us to be the best we can be.
Not everyone knows how to be a friend.
Some people only criticize, and never praise. People who never
encourage or praise us are usually unhappy with their own achievements.
They don't mean us harm. Perhaps they just need a friend, too. Not only
do we each need friends to help us grow, we need to be friends to
others. To encourage and praise those who need it will help us in
return.
Whose friend can I be today?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
I'd like to get away from earth awhile
and then come back to it and begin again. --Robert Frost
Do we think it's weak to need a break?
Do we ignore the need to recharge our batteries? Responsibility for our
own lives requires us to recognize the need to restore our energy.
Maybe our former escape from the world was by using food, or drugs, or
spending money, or sexual release, or preoccupation with another person.
Now, since we are developing the
ability to be with ourselves, we can take a break from the world and
come back restored. This meditation time generates more energy for our
lives. Recreation with friends, a walk, a movie, or a concert does the
same. Taking responsibility to get away is a good cure for self-pity
and exhaustion.
Today, I will be aware of my need to
restore my energy.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
Imagination has always had powers of
resurrection that no science can match. --Ingrid Bengis
In the imagination are transmitted
messages, from God to us. Inspiration is born there. So are dreams.
Both give rise to the goals that urge us forward, that invite us to
honor this life we've been given with a contribution, one like no other
contribution.
Our imagination offers us ideas to
ponder, ideas specific to our development. It encourages us to take
steps unique to our time, our place, our intended gifts to the world.
We can be alert to this special "inner voice" and let it guide our
decisions; we can trust its urgings. It's charged with serving us, but
only we can decide to "listen."
The imagination gives us another tool:
belief in ourselves. And the magic of believing offers us strength and
capabilities even beyond our fondest hopes. It prepares us for the
effort we need to make and for handling whatever outcome God has
intended.
My imagination will serve me today. It
will offer me the ideas and the courage I need to go forth.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Healing
Let healing energy flow through your
body.
The healing energy of God, the
Universe, life, and recovery surrounds us. It is available, waiting for
us to draw on it, waiting for us to draw it in. It's waiting at our
meetings or groups, on the words of a whispered prayer, in a gentle
touch, a positive word, a positive thought. Healing energy is in the
sun, the wind, and the rain, in all that is good.
Let healing energy come. Attract it.
Accept it. Let it soak in. Breathe in the golden light. Exhale. Let go
of fear, anger, hurt, and doubt. Let healing energy flow to you,
through you.
It is yours for the asking, for the
believing.
Today, I will ask for, and accept, the
healing energy from God and the Universe. I will let it flow to me,
through me, and back out to others. I am part of, and at one with, the
continuous cycle of healing.
I will take time today to stop and
give a gift to someone needy, smile at a stranger or help a small
child. I will take the time to do at least one thing that I usually
find myself too busy to do, and I will inwardly smile at myself, taking
the time to experience the feelings of my own kindness. --Ruth Fishel
*****
You Deserve to Have Your Dreams Come
True
Personal Power
Power is not about exerting our will
over others, it is about being in complete truth with yourself.
Many of us have do not understand what
personal power means. We have been given the false notion that power is
bad—that it is something we use to exert our will upon others. In fact,
when our personal power is intact, we are neither overbearing nor meek.
We have a clear sense of our strength and the impact we can have on
others. This actually enables us to be more sensitive. Personal power
is what permits us to work on behalf of our dreams and desires. It
allows us to realize that we are worthy and deserve to be heard. In
addition, our personal power lets us extend the respect we know that we
deserve to the people around us. There is no reason to be afraid or
ashamed of fully owning your power.
In the chakra system, the solar plexus
is the seat of personal power. One way to evaluate your sense of power
is to breathe into this part of the body. If it feels tight or nervous,
it is an indication that you may not be fully expressing your power.
You can heal this imbalance by expanding the area of the solar plexus
with your breath. You can also visualize a bright yellow sun in this
part of your body. Allow its heat to melt any tension, and let its
light dissolve any darkness or heaviness. Repeating this exercise on a
regular basis can restore and rejuvenate your sense of power.
Another way to nurture your personal
power is to honor your dreams and desires by making concrete plans to
manifest them in the world. Start by making a list of things you want,
and let yourself think big. Choose one goal from the list and commit to
bringing it to fruition. In addition, break the goal into tasks that
you can work on each day. Know that you deserve to have your dreams
come true and that you have the power to bring them into being.
Published with permission from Daily OM
*****
Journey to the Heart
Trust Yourself
When you look around, feel insecure,
and wonder who you can trust, know you can trust yourself.
We often stand like little children,
holding out our hands, waiting for someone to lead us somewhere,
anywhere. We hope that someone can show us what we need to do next. We
think, Maybe someone else knows better. But that thought is often the
beginning of trouble. If we choose to let others lead us around, we'll
soon find out that they don't know what's best for us.
If we abdicate responsibility for our
choices,we may become angry, sometimes full of rage at others for
running our lives, for telling us what to do. We need to take
responsibility. We need to trust ourselves.
Sometimes we do get clues or hints
from others. Sometimes we get direction from outside ourselves. But it
must resonate with our heart. It must resonate with what we know to be
true.
And the direction we take, what we do
next, needs to be our choice, because whether we see it or not, it is
our choice.
Trust and respond to your own heart.
Trust the wisdom and guidance within you.
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more language of letting go
Pray for those you resent
My favorite story about praying for
those I resent is one I told in Playing It By Heart, Here it is again.
Years ago, when I spotted the
Stillwater Gazette, the oldest family-owned daily newspaper in
existence, I knew I wanted to work there. I could feel it-- in my bones
and in my heart. When I went in to the offices to apply for the job,
however, the owner didn't have the same feeling I did. He had an
opening for a reporter, but he wanted to hire someone else. Abigail, he
said, was the right one for this jib.
I prayed for Abigail every day. I
asked God to take care of her, guide her, and bless her richly and
abundantly. I prayed for her because that's what I had been taught to
do-- pray for those you resent. Sometimes I prayed for her three or
four times each day. I prayed for her this much because I resented her
that much.
God, I hated Abigail.
For the next months, almost half a
year, I tromped down to the Gazette once a week, begging to be hired.
Finally, I got a job there. But it wasn't the one I wanted. Abigail,
bless her heart, had mine.
She got the best story assignments.
She worked so quickly and with such journalistic ease.
So I kept praying, "God bless
Abigail," because that's all I knew to do.
Over the months, as I got my lesser
assignments from the editor--lesser than Abigail's, that is-- I began
to watch her work. She wrote quickly and efficiently. Got right to the
point. She was a good interviewer,too. I started pushing myself to
write better, and more quickly. If Abigail can do it, so can I, I told
myself. My enemy began to inspire me. Over the weeks and months that
transpired, I spent more and more time around Abigail. I listened to
her talk. I listened to her stories. Slowly, my enemy became my friend.
One day, Abigail and I were having
coffee. I looked at her, looked straight in her eyes. And suddenly I
realized, I didn't hate Abigail anymore. She was doing her job. I was
doing mine.
Soon, I got an offer from a publisher
to write a book. I was glad I didn't have Abigail's job, I wouldn't
have had time to write that book. Then one day in June 1987, that book
hit the New York Times best-seller list.
Years later, I wrote the story about
Abigail in Playing It By Heart. The book got published. I returned to
Minnesota to do a book signing. I was in the bookstore's bathroom,
washing my hands, when a woman approached me.
"Hi Melody," she said. I looked at
her, confused. "It's Abigail," she said. Abigail wasn't her real name;
it was a name I had given her in the story. But with those words, I
realized she had read the story. She knew she was Abigail, and she knew
how I once felt.
We joked about it for a few moments.
I asked her how her life was. She said she had quit writing and had
become a wife and mother. I said I was still writing, and my years as a
wife and mother were for the most part over.
Resentments are such silly little
things. Envy is silly,too. But those silly little things can eat away
at our hearts. Sometimes, people are put in our lives to teach us about
what we're capable of. Sometimes, the people we perceive as enemies are
really our friends. Is there someone in your life you're spending
energy feeling envious of or resentful toward? Could that person be
there to teach you something about yourself that you don't know or to
inspire you along your path? You'll not know the answer to that
question until you get the envy and resentment out of your heart.
God, thank you for the people I resent
and envy. Bless them richly. Open doors for them, shower them with
abundance. Help me know that my success doesn't depend on their
failure, it's equivalent to how much I ask you to bless them.
*****
A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
When I dwell on piddling things that
annoy me — and they sprout resentments that grow bigger and bigger like
weeds — I forget how I could be stretching my world and broadening my
outlook. For me, that’s an ideal way to shrink troubles down to their
real size. When somebody or something is causing me trouble, I should
try to see the incident in relation to the rest of my life — especially
the part that’s good and for which I should be grateful. Am I willing
to waste my life worrying about trifles which drain my spiritual energy?
Today I Pray
May God keep me from worrying unduly
about small things. May He, instead, open my eyes to the grandeur of
His universe and the ceaseless wonders of His earth. May He grant me
the breadth of vision which can reduce and small fretful concern of
mine to the size of a fly on a cathedral window.
Today I Will Remember Microscopic
irritations can ruin my vision.
*****
One More Day
Before an important decision someone
clutches your hand — a glimpse of gold in the iron-gray, the proof of
all you have never dared to believe.
– Dag Hammarskjold
There is nothing quite as lonely as
having to make a decision. Imagine the feelings a family goes through
when a beloved pet has to be put to sleep. The parents, because they
truly understand the situation, must be the decision makers. If we are
considering a job change, it will affect our immediate family and our
friendships.
When a person extends a helping hand,
we welcome it as a starving person would welcome food, for it offers
affirmation and empathy. The decision is still difficult, but we have
the inner strength to carry us through.
I believe in myself, but will welcome
the support of others in my decision making.
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Food For Thought
Sloppy Thinking
If we begin to entertain thoughts of
slight deviations from our food plan, thoughts of former binge foods,
thoughts that maybe once in a while we could eat “normally,” we put
ourselves on shaky ground. Our disease is never cured, and sloppy
thinking can lead to a weakening or loss of control.
“Normal” eating for us is abstinence.
Our food plan is what saves us from bizarre eating behavior. There is
no such thing as taking a vacation from abstinence.
The less we think about food, the
better off we are. To remember the so-called pleasure we once
associated with certain foods may cause us to forget the inevitable
pain and anguish which eating them eventually produced. We do not want
to ever return to the misery of compulsive overeating.
Giving our minds to our Higher Power
ensures positive, healthy thinking.
Take my thoughts, Lord, and straighten
them out.
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One Day At A Time
SELF-KNOWLEDGE
“The world we have created is a
product of our thinking.
It cannot be changed without changing
our thinking.”
Albert Einstein
The world I created before finding the
Twelve Steps of recovery was a world in which I had no responsibility.
Everything bad in my life was someone else’s fault: my parents’, my
husband’s, society’s, and, when there was no one else to blame, it was
God’s fault.
As I worked Step 4, I learned that I
had been a part of all of these things for which I blamed others. I
learned that I had defects of character that kept me from taking part
in my life. As I recognized these defects, I asked my Higher Power to
remove them, and that gradually happened.
One of the things I had tried to do
for many years was bury my feelings of grief and pain. I seemed to have
managed that fairly well, but in doing so, I had also buried all the
other emotion. I no longer took enjoyment in anything. My child’s smile
evoked no feeling and I felt no pride in anything I did. I felt none of
the love that others gave to me. As I started dealing with the painful
feelings, the positive emotions emerged as well.
The promise the Big Book speaks of
became true for me: I no longer regretted the past nor wished to shut
the door on it. I was able to feel my hurt and grief. Now I am also
able to feel love and happiness. I have learned how to change my
thinking through the process of working these wonderful Steps.
One Day at a Time . . .
I do a daily 10th, 11th and 12th Step
and am reminded that it is my responsibility to listen to my Higher
Power and do my part in creating the world around me.
~ Nancy
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
So we think cheerfulness and laughter
make for usefulness. Outsiders are sometimes shocked when we burst into
merriment over a seemingly tragic experience out of our past. But why
shouldn't we laugh? We have recovered, and have been given the power to
help others. - Pg. 132 - The Family Afterwards
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Recovery is an attribute of two
personalities which bear a relationship one to the other. This is our
self and our higher self or God-self. There are two of us: self and
God-self. We do not walk this path alone. It used to be self and
drug-self. Now it is self and God-self.
Let me know that I do not walk this
road alone but I am always with my higher self who holds my best
interests in mind.
Body Memories
Understanding and thought are
distributed throughout all the cells in my body. Who I am is stored in
my physical self. My body carries memory and knowledge about how I have
responded to the circumstances of my life, about what I brought into
this world to begin with.. Today when I think positively, I will allow
and invite my entire body to carry a positive thought. I will instruct
each cell within me to be active, healthy and vibrant. Each time that I
feel I am getting low on reserves, I will open all of my body to
receiving uplifting light and energy from the universe. I am not a
talking head. I am a body, mind and spirit, alive in all of me.
I ask my body to wake up and live.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
If you have never experienced the
results of working the Twelve Steps, no explanation is sufficient. If
you have experienced the results of working the Twelve Steps, then no
explanation is necessary.
I am the poster child for the miracles
I cannot explain.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
Slow and sure.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
I will take time today to stop and
give a gift to someone needy, smile at a stranger or help a small child.
I will take the time to do at least
one thing that I usually find myself too busy to do, and I will
inwardly smile at myself, taking the time to experience the feelings of
my own kindness.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
I picked up this little pamphlet and
on the back page it said 'Are you concerned about your drinking? If so
call this number collect. 'So I called and I talked to this woman, and
I told her some lies. I told her that a lot of people with whom I'd
been working had drinking problems and could she help me to help them?
And she said yes, there was literature and places that people could go,
and she gave me lots of information and said she'd send me some books.
We had a wonderful conversation and I just knew if I could just read
this whole thing correctly I'd know how to control and enjoy my
drinking.. And just as I was about to hang up she said: Sister, would
you like to tell me a little bit about your own drinking?' She just
knew. She said: 'I don't think you'd be making a long distance call at
midnight if you were concerned about other people's drinking. And that
was a moment of grace for me because I was able to break down and cry
into the telephone to this strange voice to whom I'd never spoken
before. I said: 'I don't know what to do, I don't know who to tell, I
don't know where to go for help.' I'd become a public figure and I
didn't want anybody to know and I was very afraid. And she said: 'Well
why don't you start going to some AA meetings and listen to the
feelings.' - Sr. Bea M.
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AA Thought for the Day
August 11
Amends
It is important for me to realize
that, as an alcoholic, I not only hurt myself, but also those around me.
Making amends to my family, and to the
families of alcoholics still suffering, will always be important.
Understanding the havoc I created and
trying to repair the destruction, will be a lifelong endeavor.
The example of my sobriety may give
others hope, and faith to help themselves.
- Daily Reflections, p. 173
Thought to Ponder . . .
It is the highest form of self-respect
to admit mistakes and to make amends for them.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = Accountable Actions.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Self-Restraint
"We enjoy certain inherent advantages
which should make our task of
self-restraint
relatively easy.
There is no really good reason for
anyone to object
if a great many drunks get sober.
Nearly everyone can agree that this is
a good thing.
If, in the process, we are forced to
develop
a certain amount of honesty, humility,
and tolerance,
who is going to kick about that?
If we recognize that religion is the
province of the clergy
and the practice of medicine is for
doctors,
we can helpfully cooperate with both.
Certainly there is little basis for
controversy in these areas.
It is a fact that AA has not the
slightest reform
or political complexion.
We try to pay our own expenses,
and we strictly mind our single
purpose."
- Bill W.
1962AAWS, Twelve Concepts for World
Service, 26th Printing, p. 69
Thought to Consider . . .
We are not living just to be sober;
we are living to learn, to serve, and
to love.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
S W A T = Surrender, Willingness,
Acceptance, and Trust
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
So Touchy
From: "We Agnostics"
Besides a seeming inability to accept
much on faith, we often found ourselves handicapped by obstinacy,
sensitiveness, and unreasoning prejudice. Many of us have been so
touchy that even casual reference to spiritual things made us bristle
with antagonism. This sort of thinking had to be abandoned. Though some
of us resisted, we found no great difficulty in casting aside such
feelings. Faced with alcoholic destruction, we soon became as open
minded on spiritual matters as we had tried to be on other questions.
In this respect alcohol was a great persuader. It finally beat us into
a state of reasonableness. Sometimes this was a tedious process; we
hope no one else will be prejudiced for as long as some of us were.
2001, AAWS, Inc., Alcoholics
Anonymous, pages 47-48
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"The question arises of just what
constitutes an amend. Many of us find that the old rationalization, 'If
I stay sober, that's amends enough to those I have hurt,' just doesn't
work. We have to be willing to go further."
January 1967
"Not Under the Rug,"
Step By Step
*~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N'
Twelve Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
Outsiders are sometimes shocked when
we burst into merriment over a
seemingly tragic experience out of the
past. But why shouldn't we
laugh? We have recovered, and have
been given the power to help others."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
The Family Afterward, pg. 132~
"We are like the passengers of a great
liner the moment after rescue
from shipwreck when camaraderie,
joyousness and democracy pervade
the vessel from steerage to Captain's
table. Unlike the feelings of
the ship's passengers, however, our
joy in escape from disaster does
not subside as we go our individual
ways. The feeling of having shared
in a common peril is one element in
the powerful cement which binds
us. But that in itself would never
have held us together as we are
now joined."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
There Is A Solution, pg. 17~
“We constantly remind ourselves we are
no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each
day “Thy will be done.”"
-Alcoholics Anonymous p. 87
“Everywhere we saw failure and miser
transformed by humility into priceless assets. We heard story after
story of how humility had brought strength out of weakness. In every
case, pain had been the price of admission into a new life.”
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions p.
75
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
As a society we must never become so
vain as to suppose that we are authors and inventors of a new religion.
We will humbly reflect that every one of A.A.'s principles has been
borrowed from ancient sources.
A minister in Thailand wrote, 'We took
A.A.'s Twelve Steps to the largest Buddhist monastery in this province,
and the head priest said, 'Why, these Steps are fine! For us as
Buddhists, it might be slightly more acceptable if you had inserted the
word 'good' in your Steps instead of 'God.' Nevertheless, you say that
it is God as you understand Him, and that must certainly include the
good. Yes, A.A.'s Twelve Steps will surely be accepted by the Buddhists
around here.'
St. Louis oldtimers recall how Father
Edward Dowling helped start their group; it turned out to be largely
Protestant, but this fazed him not a bit.
Prayer for the Day: God, please lead me so I may serve You
better. I am yours, and I am ready God. Amen