SELF--RESTRAINT
Our first objective will be the development of self-restraint.
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 91
My drive to work provides me with an opportunity for self-examination.
One day while making this trip, I began to review my progress in
sobriety, and was not happy with what I saw. I hoped that, as the
work day progressed, I would forget these troublesome thoughts,
but as one disappointment after another kept coming, my discontent
only increased, and the pressures within me kept mounting. I
retreated to an isolated table in the lounge, and asked myself
how I could make the most of the rest of the day. In the past,
when things went wrong, I instinctively wanted to fight back.
But during the short time I had been trying to live the A.A.
program I had learned to step back and take a look at myself.
I recognized that, although I was not the person I wanted to be,
I had learned to not react in my old ways. Those old patterns of
behavior only brought sorrow and hurt, to me and to others. I
returned to my work station, determined to make the day a
productive one, thanking God for the chance to make progress
that day.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
How good a sponsor am I? When I bring new members to a meeting,
do I feel that my responsibility has ended? Or do I make it my
job to stay with them until they have either become good members
of A.A. or have found another sponsor? If they don't show up for
a meeting, do I say to myself: "Well they've had it put up to
them, so if they don't want it, there's nothing more I can do? "
Or do I look them up and find out whether there is a reason for
their absences or that they don't want A.A.? Do I go out of my
way to find out if there is anything more I can do to help? Am I a good
sponsor?
Meditation For The Day
"First be reconciled to your brother and then come and offer
your gift to God." First I must get right with other people and
then I can get right with God. If I hold a resentment against
someone, which I find it very difficult to overcome, I should
try to put something else constructive into my mind. I should
pray for the one against whom I hold the resentment. I should
put that person in God's hands and let God show him or her the
way to live. "If a man say: 'I love God' and hateth his brother,
he is a liar, for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath
seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?"
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may see something good in every person, even one I
dislike, and that I may let God develop the good in that person.
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As Bill Sees It
INSTINCTS RUN
WILD, p. 282
Every time a person imposes his instincts unreasonably upon others,
unhappiness follows. If the pursuit of wealth tramples upon people who
happen to be in the way, then anger, jealousy, and revenge are likely
to be aroused. If sex runs riot, there is similar uproar.
Demands made upon other people for too much attention, protection,
and love can invite only domination or revulsion in the protectors
themselves-two emotions quite as unhealthy as the demands
which evoked them. When an individual's desire for prestige
becomes uncontrollable, whether in the sewing circle or at the
international conference table, other people suffer and often
revolt. This collision of instincts can produce anything from a cold
snub
to a blazing revolution.
TWELVE AND TWELVE, p. 44
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Walk In Dry Places
Keeping anger in safe limits
Dealing with anger
"The most heated bit of letter-writing can be a wonderful safety
valve,"
AA co-founder, Bill W. said, "providing the wastebasket is
somewhere nearby."
This is a delightful bit of advice about the right way to handle anger.
Writing an angry letter is at least a way of bringing our feelings out
so
that we can see them. This is far healthier than the peculiar method
of
"Stuffing" one's feelings and pretending that there was no hurt or
offense.
But an angry letter, once mailed, can be more destructive than a
bullet.
We may live to regret ever having mailed it. It could have
unintended
consequences of the worst kind.
That's why the wastebasket becomes the second hand way to deal with
our
anger. We throw the letter away and let time and wisdom heal the
matter. What usually happen under the guidance of our Higher Power
is
that we find a much more satisfactory way of settling whatever has
happened.
If I become angry today, I'll admit it to myself. Perhaps I'll even put
my
feelings on paper. But I'll have the good sense not to go further
with such outbursts.
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Keep It Simple
May you live all the days of your life. ---Jonathan Swift
The truth is, life hard. Accepting this fact will make it easier.
Remember
how well it worked in Step One? Once we admitted and that we
were
powerless over alcohol and other drugs, we were given the power to
recover.
It works the same with life’s problems.
We can spend a lot of energy trying to avoid life’s hardships. But our
program
teaches us to use the same energy to solve our problems.
Problems
are chances
to better ourselves and become more spiritual. We have a
choice: we can either
use our energy to avoid problems, or we can face
them. When we stop wasting
energy, we start to feel more sure of
ourselves.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, life is to be lived, both the
easy and the hard
parts. Help
me face and learn from it all.
Action for the Day: I’ll work at not complaining about how hard
life is. I’ll take
the same
energy and us it to solve problems I may face.
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Each Day a New Beginning
Be still and listen to the stillness within. --Darlene Larson
Jenks
No answer eludes us if we turn to the source of all answers--the
stillness within.
Prayer accompanied by meditation will always provide
the answers we need for
the situations facing us. The answers we want
are not guaranteed, however. We
must trust that we will be directed to
take the right steps. Our well being is
assured if we let go of the
control and turn our wills over to the care of God,
our messenger
within.
How comforting to know that all answers are as close as our quiet
moments. God
never chooses to keep them from us. We simply fail to
quiet our thoughts long
enough to heed them. Our minds race,
obsessively, all too often. We jump from
one scenario to another, one
fear to another, and one emotion to another. And
each time our thoughts
capture a new focus; we push the answer we seek further
into the
background.
The process is simple, if I want to follow it. The answers await me if
I truly want
them. I need only sit quietly and ask God to offer the
guidance I need. And then
I will sit quietly some more.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Chapter 8 - TO WIVES
You and your husband will find that you can dispose of serious problems
easier than you can the trivial ones. Next time you and he have a
heated discussion, no matter what the subject, it should be the
privilege of either to smile and say, “This is getting serious. I’m
sorry I got disturbed. Let’s talk about it later.” If your husband is
trying to live on a spiritual basis, he will also be doing everything
in his power to avoid disagreement or contention.
p. 118
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition - Stories
MY BOTTLE, MY
RESENTMENTS, AND ME - From childhood trauma to skid
row drunk, this hobo finally found a Higher Power, bringing sobriety
and a long-lost family.
The article gave the name of the
town I live in, so after my brother and sister-in-law finished reading
the story, they called the directory assistance and phoned me--the
first time we had spoken in more than thirty years. I burst into
tears, and so did they. They told me that after my disappearance
following the divorce, my family had tried repeatedly to locate
me. They were concerned because someone had told them I was
either dead or had left the country. I felt bad that i had
worried them like that, but in my self-centeredness it had simply never
occurred to me that they cared that much. One by one I talked to
all my brothers and sisters in the next twenty-four hours. My
brother gave me the phone number of my own daughter, whom I hadn't seen
for twenty-seven years, and I called her. Next I talked to both
my sons. Oh, God, what an experience! I was so overwhelmed
by all the memories and the lost years that it was difficult for me to
even speak. I spent several weeks crying as all the old hurts
rose to the surface and were healed.
p. 445
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Tradition
Eleven - "Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather
than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level
of press, radio, and films."
Let's see how these two contrasting ideas--attraction and
promotion--work out. A political party wishes to win an election, so it
advertises the virtues of its leadership to draw votes. A worthy
charity wants to raise money; forthwith, its letterhead shows the name
of every distinguished person who support can be obtained. Much of the
political, economic, and religious life of the world is dependent upon
publicized leadership. People who symbolize causes and ideas fill a
deep human need. We of A.A. do not question that. But we do have to
soberly face the fact that being in the public eye is hazardous,
especially for us. By temperament, nearly every one of us had been an
irrepressible promoter, and the prospect of a society composed almost
entirely of promoters was frightening. Considering this explosive
factor, we knew we had to exercise self-restraint.
p. 181
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A
clear
conscience
is
a
good
pillow.
--American Proverb
"It's not whether you get knocked down; it's whether you get back up."
--Vince Lombardi
There are risks and costs to a program of action, but they are far less
than the long-range
risks and costs of comfortable inaction.
--John F. Kennedy
The first service one owes to others in the fellowship consists in
listening to them. Just as
love of God begins in listening to His Word, so the beginning of love
for the brethren is
learning to listen to them. It is God's love for us that He not only
gives us His Word but
lends us His ear. So it is His work that we do for our brother when we
learn to
listen to him.
--Dietrich Bonhoeffer (1906-1945), Life Together
"Often we seek to grow or change ourselves by adjusting the external
aspects of our lives. ...
We all too often forget that permanent or
real change only comes when the center of our
being, our inner drives
and motivations, undergoes transformation."
--Errol Strider
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
ART
"Art is not a thing; it is a way."
-- Elbert Hubbard
In the spiritual twelve-step program it talks about "...a God as you
understand Him."
This is a liberating concept that teaches us to risk and think "big".
God is not only found
in churches, temples and rituals --- God can be found in the myriad of
art forms. God is
always to be found in the creative. Because art is always concerned
with life and truth,
God is always involved.
Today I am able to look for God in His or Her World.
In my recovery from the disease of addiction I need to discover the
wonder and splendor
of life that got damaged in my drinking days. Art can help me to feel
again. It helps me to
think and be concerned again. Art teaches me to be involved in life.
Thank You for the artist --- another aspect of priesthood.
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I will
praise you O lord with all my heart.
Psalm 138 : 1
"Every word of God is pure; He is a shield to those who put their
trust in Him."
Proverbs 30:5
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Daily Inspiration
Weeds grow easily, but flowers need care and nurturing to bloom. Lord,
may I turn away
from evil and tenderly encourage the goodness that
comes my way so that I, too, may blossom.
Never doubt the power, the wisdom and the love that God has for you.
Lord, thank You for
Your constant care and the certainty of Your love
for me.
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NA Just For Today
Eyeglasses And Attitudes
"Our best thinking got us into
trouble.... Recovery is an active change in our ideas and attitudes."
Basic Text p.53
In active addiction, the world
probably looked like a horrible place. Using helped us tolerate the
world we saw. Today, however, we understand that the world's condition
wasn't really the problem. It was our ideas and attitudes about the
world that made it impossible for us to find a comfortable place in it.
Our attitudes and our ideas are the
eyeglasses through which we see our lives. If our "glasses" are smudged
or dirty, our lives look dim. If our attitudes aren't well focused, the
whole world appears distorted. To see the world clearly, we need to
keep our attitudes and ideas clean, free of things like resentment,
denial, self-pity, and closed-mindedness. To insure our vision of life
is in focus, we have to bring our ideas in line with reality.
In addiction, our best thinking kept
us from clearly seeing either the world or our part in it. Recovery
serves to correct the prescriptions in our attitudinal eyewear. By
stripping away our denial and replacing it with faith, self-honesty,
humility, and responsibility, the steps help us see our lives in a
whole new way. Then the steps help us keep our spiritual lenses clean,
encouraging us to regularly examine our ideas our attitudes, and our
actions.
Today, seen through the clean lenses
of faith and recovery the world looks like a warm, inviting place to
live.
Just for today: I will view the world
and my life through the clean spiritual lenses of my program.
pg. 297
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
A musician must make music; an artist
must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be at peace with himself.
What a man can be, he must be. --Abraham Maslow
The same is true of a seamstress,
carpenter, homemaker, lawyer, or mechanic. The question is, Who and
what am I? What must I do to be at peace with myself? What can I be,
for that is what I must be?
A lucky few of us find the answers to
these questions fairly early in life, and we work to develop into the
people we can be and must be. We do that by looking at our deepest
desires, and ask what would bring fulfillment for us. We ask what we
would enjoy doing most, what we believe we have the ability to be
really good at. What is it that sometimes burns within us to be
expressed or done? The answers to what we can be, what we must be, come
from within, through asking ourselves these questions.
What kind of a person am I capable of
being?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
What is most beautiful in virile men
is something feminine; what is most beautiful in feminine women is
something masculine. --Susan Sontag
In recovery, we grow in many ways and
become more comfortable with the many subtle colors in our
personalities. We have a greater range of all human qualities available
to us now. We are more light and playful at times and more serious at
others. We can cuddle up like a dependent child, or we can be the one
who is responsible under pressure. We can be tough and virile, and we
can be soft and gentle. One musical tone playing in harmony with
another makes a song more beautiful. Because we have made peace within
ourselves, our masculinity is not threatened.
As we discover many new feelings and
reactions, it is natural to wonder if they are normal. When we talk
with others about the ways we have changed, we learn they have similar
feelings. As we become more at peace with ourselves, the various sides
of our personalities complement each other, and we appreciate the
harmony within us and in our friends.
Today, I am grateful for the richness
and variety within myself.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
Be still and listen to the stillness
within. --Darlene Larson Jenks
No answer eludes us if we turn to the
source of all answers--the stillness within. Prayer accompanied by
meditation will always provide the answers we need for the situations
facing us. The answers we want are not guaranteed, however. We must
trust that we will be directed to take the right steps. Our well being
is assured if we let go of the control and turn our wills over to the
care of God, our messenger within.
How comforting to know that all
answers are as close as our quiet moments. God never chooses to keep
them from us. We simply fail to quiet our thoughts long enough to heed
them. Our minds race, obsessively, all too often. We jump from one
scenario to another, one fear to another, and one emotion to another.
And each time our thoughts capture a new focus; we push the answer we
seek further into the background.
The process is simple, if I want to
follow it. The answers await me if I truly want them. I need only sit
quietly and ask God to offer the guidance I need. And then I will sit
quietly some more.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Recovery
How easy it is to blame our problems
on others. "Look at what he's doing." . . . "Look how long I've
waited." . . . "Why doesn't she call?" . . . "If only he'd change then
I'd be happy." . . .
Often, our accusations are justified.
We probably are feeling hurt and frustrated. In those moments, we may
begin to believe that the solution to our pain and frustration is
getting the other person to do what we want, or having the outcome we
desire. But these self-defeating illusions put the power and control of
our life in other people's hands. We call this codependency.
The solution to our pain and
frustration, however valid is to acknowledge our own feelings. We feel
the anger, the grief; then we let go of the feelings and find peace -
within ourselves. We know our happiness isn't controlled by another
person, even though we may have convinced ourselves it is. We call this
acceptance.
Then we decide that although we'd like
our situation to be different, maybe our life is happening this way for
a reason. Maybe there is a higher purpose and plan in play, one that's
better than we could have orchestrated. We call this faith.
Then we decide what we need to do,
what is within our power to do to take care of ourselves. That's called
recovery.
It's easy to point our finger at
another, but it's more rewarding to gently point it at ourselves.
Today, I will live with my pain and
frustration by dealing with my own feelings.
Today I know it's okay to place myself
first sometimes. Today I'm doing something very special for myself.
--Ruth Fishel
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Journey To The Heart
October 11
Honor Your Connection to Your Body
Our bodies are matter, the physical
form we have assumed. They are infused with our energy, our soul.
My awareness of the body-mind-soul
connection came slowly, over many years. I had spent many years denying
I had a body, denying its importance. I felt disconnected from it, as
though it were something apart from me, a burden I had to carry around
and live with. Then I began to see the connection between my emotions
and the aches and pains– and sometimes illnesses– my body was
experiencing. If I didn’t feel the feeling, listen to myself, my body
would pound out the pain until it was heard that way. Energy needs to
be discharged somewhere. If it isn’t discharged, the body will absorb
and feel it as pain. I began to see the connection between changes in
my life and changes in my body, the way the earth marks changing
seasons and cycles.
I began to get massages, exercise, and
slowly trust the wisdom of my body. I became connected to my body. Yes,
I was a soul. Yes, I had a heart. Emotions. Thought. But to live on the
physical plane of earth, we need a body. Our body is part of us. It is
us. It holds the scars of our life to date, the stories of our life so
far, it contains the wisdom and energy of what we need today and
tomorrow.
Honor your connection to your body.
Honor and value your body’s wisdom. It can tell you many things about
your life, your growth, your past, and your path. Learn to listen to
your body , and it will speak openly and lovingly to you.
*****
Make use of your imaginative powers
It was a small ad in a catalog for an
electric flossing machine. "I don't have the time or energy to floss,"
the man in the ad declared. "That's why I need this machine to do it
for me."
Too busy and too tired?
Some of us complain about all the
things we have to do to maintain spiritual health. Prayer. Meditation.
Attending support groups. All these things take time and energy, even
though we get a good return on the time we invest. Now, we're
considering adding another activity to our already full self-care
activities list: spending time and energy visualizing to help create
positive events in our lives.
When someone first suggested I use
visualization as a tool, my reaction was similar to one of the man in
the ad. I don't have the time. I'm too busy and tired.
But we're always thinking about
something and creating pictures in our minds. Usually what we see are
worst case scenarios. So why not take the time, effort, and energy
we're already using to see things not working out and instead visualize
things working out? If we've got enough time and energy to see the
negative what if's, we've got the time and energy to visualize positive
events,too.
Visualizing isn't a form of control.
Just because we see things working out well doesn't guarantee that they
will. But if we can see it, it's more likely to happen than if we can't
see it at all.
God, help me use the powers of thought
and imagination in the most creative way I can.
*****
Setting a Limit to Sit with Emotions
How Long
When an emotion haunts us, it is often
because we are afraid of really feeling it.
Our emotions color our lives with
varying palettes. Sometimes we feel a strong emotion in reaction to
something that has happened, but emotions also visit us seemingly out
of the blue, flooding us unexpectedly with joy or grief or melancholy.
Like the weather, they come and go, influencing our mental state with
their particular vibration. Sometimes a difficult emotion hangs around
longer than we would like, and we begin to wonder when it will release
its hold on us. This is often true of grief stemming from loss, for
example, or lingering anger over a past event.
Usually, if we allow ourselves to feel
our emotions fully when they come up, they recede naturally, giving way
to another and another. When an emotion haunts us, it is often because
we are afraid of really feeling it. Emotions like despair and rage are
powerful, and it is natural to want to hold them at bay. Certainly, we
don’t want to let them take us over so that we say or do things we
later regret. When we are facing this kind of situation, it can be
helpful to ask the spirit, “How long do I need to sit with these
emotions, how long do I need to feel these emotions before they can
pass?” If you ask sincerely and wait, an answer will come. Setting a
time limit on your engagement with that difficult emotion may be just
the technique you need to face it fully.
When you have a sense of how much time
you need to spend, set a timer. Sit down and make yourself available to
the emotion that has been nagging you. All you have to do is feel it.
Avoid getting attached to it or rejecting it. Simply let it ebb and
flow within you. Emotions are by their nature cyclical, so you can
trust that just as one reaches its apex it will pass. Each time you sit
with its presence without either repressing or acting out, you will
find that that difficult emotion was the catalyst for much needed
emotional healing. Published with permission from Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
When I say the Serenity Prayer,
sometimes over and over, I occasionally lose sight of the prayer’s
meaning even as I repeat its words. So I try to think of the meaning of
each phrase as I say it, whether aloud or silently. As I concentrate on
the meaning, my understanding grows, along with my capability to
realize the difference between what I can change, and what I cannot. Do
I see that most improvements in my life will come from changing my own
attitudes and actions?
Today I Pray
May my Higher Power show me new and
deeper meanings in the Serenity Prayer each time I say it. As I apply
it to my life’s situations and relationships, may its truth be
underlined for me again and again. May I realize that serenity, courage
and wisdom are all that I need to cope with living, but that none of
these three have value unless they grow out of my trust in a Higher
Power.
Today I Will Remember
God’s formula for living; Serenity,
courage and wisdom.
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One More Day
Power said to the world, “You are
mine,” The world kept it prisoner on her throne. Love said to the
world, “I am thine.” The world gave it the freedom of her house.
– Rabindranath Tagore
We all need to test our spiritual
muscles. At first those muscles may seem weak. It’s natural after a
lengthy bout with illness to wonder why we were chosen for pain,
misery, or illness.
After a time, we become ready to learn
more about our own spirituality. We open our minds and our hearts. As
we explore this wonderful side of ourselves, we discover our worth, our
strengths, our wholeness. And we discover that we are not alone, that a
Higher Power is sharing His strength and peace with us.
Today, I will learn more about my
spirituality than I knew yesterday. I will feel the peace and strength
given to me by my Higher Power.
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Food For Thought
Feeling Deprived
If I allow myself to feel deprived, sooner or later I will overeat or
react with negative emotions. I am a human being, a child of God with
the same rights as all of His other children. I have needs and
preferences, which, if denied and repressed, will surface in a
destructive way.
If those around me are eating a special meal and I eat leftovers, which
I do not particularly like, I will feel deprived. I may become bad
tempered and I may overeat later to compensate. I do not need to have
what others are eating, if it is not on my food plan, but my meal
should be pleasing to me. I do not need to have and do what everyone
else has and does, but I can recognize my desires and preferences and
satisfy them when doing so does not injure anyone else.
By overeating, I deprived myself of good health, peace of mind,
self-respect, and an attractive appearance. By abstaining, I am making
amends to myself for the deprivation. By working the program, I am
learning how to satisfy my legitimate needs.
I trust You to supply my needs.
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One Day At A Time
FAITH
”Faith is not belief. Belief is
passive.
Faith is active.”
Edith Hamilton
I always believed that God could
relieve my suffering if He chose; however, I was overlooking the
distinction of the required “partnership” between my choices and his
strength. God is not a magician who, with artful finesse, will relieve
me of the bondage of my free-will choices. He requires my attention --
and then my ACTION -- in order to work through and in my life.
One day at a time...
I am willing to test my faith by
putting forth the required action(s) that will help me move toward my
share of miracles that abound in this Program.
~ January K.
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
To Whom It May Concern:
I have specialized in the treatment of
alcoholism for many years.
In late 1934 I attended a patient who,
though he had been a competent businessman of good earning capacity,
was an alcoholic of a type I had come to regard as hopeless.
In the course of his third treatment
he aquired certain ideas concerning a possible means of recovery. As
part of his rehabilitation he commenced to present his conceptions to
other alcoholics, impressing upon them that they must do likewise with
still others. This has become the basis of a rapidly growing fellowship
of these men and their families. This man and over one hundred others
appear to have recovered. - Pg. xxv - 4th. Edition - The Doctor's
Opinion
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
To a practicing addict who lives
wholly in the sensations of the body, the recovery state is one of
utter boredom. But as we learn to live balanced in body, mind, and soul
we will wonder why we ever thought the state of addiction exciting.
May I know that it is not so much
boredom as me being boring that's my problem.
Staying with Myself
Today, I see that having my own life
begins inside of me. It is not just a function of what I do, but the
attitude with which I move through my day. Having my own life is about
checking in with myself to see how I'm doing. It's wearing a sweater if
I'm cold and taking a break if I'm tired. It's making sure that I'm
having enough fun in my life, paying attention to what I enjoy doing,
doing more of that and finding ways of reducing what doesn't feel good.
Having a life is letting myself have my own unique likes and dislikes,
and acting on them in constructive ways. It is not organizing my life
so that it is good enough for everyone else, forgetting that it needs
to be good enough for me as well. I occupy the center of my own life.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
'We can do no great things, only small
things with great love.' ~Mother Teresa
God does not want me to do
extraordinary things; S/He wants me to do ordinary things
extraordinarily well.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
Being sober doesn't keep you sober.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I know it's okay to place myself
first sometimes. Today I'm doing something very special for myself.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
It was like: 'Hi, we are Alcoholics
Anonymous, we're a fellowship of self-admitted alcoholics and
pathological liars; we want you to trust us. If you can believe that,
you can start getting well. - Doug D.
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AA Thought for the Day
October 11
The Gift
By accepting this sobriety
gratefully, as a gift, and using it willingly,
I have become aware of other gifts
available to me as a human being.
To get the benefits, I need only to
ask and then use.
This is the crux of the program and
the crux of living: acceptance and action.
- Came To Believe . . ., p. 4
Thought to Ponder . . .
Sobriety is a gift.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
G I F T S = Getting It From The Steps.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Trouble
"In AA, we learned that trouble was
really a fact of life for everybody--
a fact that had to be understood and
dealt with.
Surprisingly, we found that our
troubles could,
under God's grace, be converted into
unimagined blessings.
Indeed, that was the essence of AA
itself:
trouble accepted, trouble squarely
faced with calm courage,
trouble lessened and often
transcended.
This was the AA story, and we became
a part of it.
Such demonstrations became our stock
in trade
for the next sufferer."
Bill W., Letter, 1966
As Bill Sees It, p. 110
Copyright 1967 A.A.W.S. Inc.
Thought to Consider . . .
God enters us through our wounds.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
P A C E = Positive Attitudes Change
Everything
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Independent
>From "The Three Legacies of
Alcoholics Anonymous":
"Money-wise, Dr. Bob and I were still
in a rather bad way. We were therefore allotted $30 a week [in 1940],
and enough was on hand to keep this up for a year. Thereafter the
[Rockefeller] dinner guests were solicited annually and the proceeds
were always divided in the same way. Four years later we were able to
write Mr. Rockefeller and his friends of the Union Club dinner that we
needed no more funds. By then royalties from the book were giving Dr.
Bob and me the help we needed, and the A.A. groups had begun to pick up
the load of supporting the Headquarters office. At that point the A.A.
Tradition of 'no outside contributions' went into full force and
effect. Mr. Rockefeller and his friends had given us something more
valuable than money. They had put A.A. on the map."
2001 AAWS, Inc.; Alcoholics Anonymous
Comes of Age, pgs. 186-88
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"One night, in a moment of
desperation, I got down on my knees and remembered a prayer an old
sponsor had given me. It said, 'God, help me be of service ... to
something or someone...' I knew intuitively it was the answer."
Edmonton, Alberta, May 2010
"Sinking Fast,"
No Matter What: Dealing with
Adversity in Sobriety
*~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N'
Twelve Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"We have seen the truth demonstrated
again and again: 'Once an
alcoholic, always an alcoholic.'
Commencing to drink after a period
of sobriety, we are in a short time
as bad as ever."
Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
More About Alcoholism, pg. 33
'God I offer myself to Thee -- To
build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage
of self, that I may better do Thy Will. Take away my difficulties, that
victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power,
Thy Love and Thy Way of life. May I do Thy will Always.'
Alcoholics Anonymous Page 63
Belief in the power of God, plus
enough willingness, honesty and humility to establish and maintain the
new order of things, were the essential requirements.
-Alcoholics Anonymous p.13
We heard story after story of how
humility had brought strength out of weakness.
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
p. 75
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
'The idea of 'twenty-four-hour
living' applies primarily to the emotional life of the individual.
Emotionally speaking, we must not live in yesterday, nor in tomorrow.
'But I have never been able to see
that this means the individual, the group, or A.A. as a whole should
give no thought whatever to how to function tomorrow or even in the
more distant future. Faith alone never constructed the house you live
in. There had to be a blueprint and a lot of work to bring it into
reality.
'Nothing is truer for us of A.A. than
the Biblical saying 'Faith without works is dead.' A.A.'s services, all
designed to make more and better Twelfth Step work possible, are the
'works' that insure our life and growth by preventing anarchy or
stagnation.
Prayer for the Day: Let Go, Let God -
Higher Power, help me to understand:
To let go does not mean to stop
caring; it means I can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to enable, but to
allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or
blame another, it's to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for but to
care about.
To let go is not to fix but to be
supportive.
To let go is not to judge but to
allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to protect, it's to
permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny but to
accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold, or
argue but instead to search about my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything
to my desires but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.